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Sending lots of love your way. I'm going to share what was shared with me...take advantage of a 20-30 minute call of free legal counsel available to you. (google will help). You can ask questions about restraining orders, child support (he can still provide for them, as he already is) divorce, custody etc) I would write down all the questions ahead of time to maximize your free time. If you qualify for legal aid. Get it!! Hunnay, protect yourself and them kids and run! How a grown adult biting an adult?? No one deserves emotional, mental or physical abuse.
This is abuse.
Get out now. You don't deserve the abuse and your children don't need to grow up watching their mom be treated this way and be ignored by their father.
It's hard to leave. It took me years and it took my mom over a decade before me. If you want ideas on strategy to leave, let me know. The first thing you need is to get legal help, if you can't afford it look into a local domestic violence survivors shelter, they can connect you.
I truly hate this situation for u but mostly for ur children they should see u getting mentally, physically, emotionally abused at anytime. What is important is that u have peace and ur happy. Granted we all go thru things in a relationship and only u kno if u really wanna leave him. Nobody can do it but u. Definitely get the help u need love. This platform is amazing it’s filled with all walks of ladies and I hope u do right by ur kids and urself cause they need u. Good luck love
My heart hurts reading about what you and your precious babies are going through. I wholeheartedly agree with the other ladies that this is abuse. I also believe it is neglect and emotional abandonment. Though your kiddos see this type of behavior, rest assured that YOU as mama have the power to speak to your children where they are and just drop nuggets of truth to them. For example, “Our hands are made for caring and high fives. Our arms are made for hugs and power us to throw balls far…etc.” This way, you’re not bashing their father but you’re also creating a boundary in their minds and hearts for what the true purpose is for their body - it’s made to love, not hurt (you included!).
You have to leave or he will continue to treat you like this. By ignoring you and the kids and not interacting or even being interested in their lives it is also abuse for them...it's important to put yourself and children first. You're doing great with everything and I hope things get better for you.
Being a single mother is better than them growing up without you. This will only get worse as time goes on, and the one thing i would try to do is make sure they are never left alone to be taken care of by him
😢 I am so sorry this is happening to you. I know how it feels to be in a marriage and not feel wanted or even liked by your spouse. Baby, I will not sit here and tell you that walking away and staying away will be easy but for your sanity, your mental stability and the kids sake… walk away.
Girl listen you can start over i left a 15 yo marriage and am the happiest i ever been . Never ever be afraid of starting again . Dont worry about what people will say they wont even care trust me Dont worry about how you will manage there is always a way Your children need you alive well and happy leave whilst you still have your mind to love them, to be there for them LEAVE!
Oh hun this is definitely domestic violence. It is gonna be hard to take the first step but u just need to take a leap of faith and put yourself first before others. U need to look after yourself as ur kids need their mum to be around for long. Call ur local police to get u support hun. Wishing u luck♥️
This is definitely not good for you nor your kids, but divorce it's a hard decision and given that you already have 10 years with him, it will be hard for you to see your life any different. You will hope for things to get better and you will believe they will if he gives you a grain of attention. So here's what: call it a short break. Tell him (and yourself) that you want to spend some time somplace else (maybe parents, maybe a friend) for a week or two (more if you can). Then see how you feel. Are you more at peace? Are you more relieved? Happier? Does it scare you? Do you find it easy without him? It may be that after you eliberate yourself a bit and get the taste of freedom you will want more (e.g. divorce). And you will know it's the best decision and that you have the power to be alone and happy. Maybe in time you'll even meet the man that deserves you. Until then, baby steps. But please do not stay idle. Like I said, this is really not good for you. Best of luck!
Oh hun, please leave. If you find courage, please leave to protect you
Don’t stick with someone if you’re not happy! Life is too short to be with people who don’t bring out the best in you. It took me over 3 years to get the courage to end my 14 year marriage with a husband who sounds very similar to yours. I’ve now met someone new and have a 3 week old and am the happiest I’ve ever been.
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I am so sorry you’re going through this. I have been in an abusive long term relationship and I understand that leaving is easier said than done, but you must do it. He is harming you mentally and physically, and you AND your children deserve better. - Get some privacy and call some women’s aid / domestic violence charities for advice and support. They will be able to advise you on resources available to you. If you decide to leave, please prepare yourself as best you can and pack essentials discreetly (ID, cash etc), in case things turn nasty. If I were you, I’d ask a friend to come over/stay to neutralise any abuse in the short term. Perhaps that friend can help prepare you and the kids for leaving? Please take some time away from this situation. Get some perspective and healing. You and your kids deserve it ♥️
I feel for you..please take these advises from people, you need to make yourself and your kids safe.. i imagine the pain you are at, but leaving is your only option. All the best for you 🙏
Girl get out you don’t deserve this type of treatment. And for him to do this in front of your kids . NOPE (red flag) ! I would record him if he acts like that again so you have proof! You can start over! You & your kids deserve the very best! Hope this helps ❤️