Help Adjusting!!!

Greetings Boss Mamas!!! I am a career driven 2nd time momma who is struggling! I gave birth to my daughter in January and have a 13 year old son. I have been on my grind for the past 10 years just building my career and meeting my goals. I graduated with my doctorate last year, I became an assistant principal the year before, and I have big plans to continue to build my career. But now, having given birth, I feel like I need to shift and slow down career wise... some of my friends think my career chasing is unfair but they aren't career driven at all. Am I nuts? I am Aldo struggling because I return to work in a few weeks and I am torn between taking more time to be with her over returning to work to close out the school year. Please give advice! This was a vent/ask for help! Lol

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Way To Go Mama ! 💖 I Completely Understand Yur Drive & I Commend Yu For It Bc It's Not A Lot Of Ppl Out There Who Do What Yu Do . As For Yu Going Back To Work , Do Whats Best For Yu & Yur Babies ! Like Yu Said They Wont Understand . Especially If Yur A Single Mama & The Only Way Bills Are Getting Paid Is Bc Of Yur Income Then Go Ahead To Work . Yeah It's Sucks Bc Yu Rather Spend Time With The Kids But Yu Are Also A Provider .

That’s really exciting—it sounds like everything is coming together for you, you’re where you want to be and on youre way up! Not sure why you feel you need to slow down… the world needs for some women to be as ambitious as you are, so just remind your friends of that. There’s nothing wrong with their choices nor yours and yall can still be friends even some differences. They might think they’re being helpful by telling you to slow down or take your time, especially if you seem to be fretting. Anyway, your kids will benefit from seeing you are a career woman. If your baby is ready for a daycare or nursery or whatever then it’s ok to put her in one. Try not to feel guilty or second guess yourself too much—I’m sure you’ve done your research and will choose a suitable childcare option.

I feel this! I’m an engineer who has worked hard the last 6 years to really establish myself in my career. I went back to work after 4 months of being off with my girl and it was such a mental battle for me. I love what I do, but I love my baby! She is now 2 weeks shy of a year and I just put in my notice. I am wrapping up a few projects and quitting at the end of May. Ultimately, my desire to be with my daughter won out, but I cried my eyes out when telling my boss. The goodbye was so so hard even though I know it’s what I want in this season. I ultimately decided that my career will always be there, but my baby won’t be this little again. I may get into it and miss challenging myself everyday and go back in 6 months, or I may wait 6 years, or I may never go back. Just like the decision to leave, I’m just going to follow my heart and where I feel like God is calling me for that particular season. All that being said, if you feel pulled to work, there is absolutely nothing wrong

With that!! Do what you feel called to do! And don’t get upset with yourself if your desires change with the seasons. I think the fact that you have the opportunity to choose is huge. So do just that, choose what is going to make you the best mama to your babies, whether that be taking some extra time off or showing them what a hard working mama is capable of!

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