Fuck the in-laws
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Agree with top comment .keep to your guns hun don't alow it
No I wouldn’t allow it. However if she came to my home I wouldn’t mind . It seems like the hoarding is the problem and honestly very dangerous for small children . If you’re just uncomfortable in general with her babysitting then it is totally okay to say no. Your baby your rules 🤗
I mean regardless of the relationship, I would want my child in a hoarders home. Not wanting to cause anyone any offence but having been into several of these homes with my work, they’re often pretty unclean and also potentially very hazardous for a young child! X
It’s easy to say, I’ve been a mum so I can look after a child. It’s not about that. It’s about if the child feels comfortable and has a good familiar relationship with potential carer, if mum (you) has spent time with potential carer to see their personal characteristics to gauge whether or not you feel comfortable leaving your child and if your values align to some degree at least. If you haven’t already I’d suggest explaining to your partner, that as a mum (especially) when our children are little it’s hard to just let anyone look after them. Explain that it’s not personal, it’s not an insult to his mum, it’s just a need to know who they are, what environment they’re in etc. which is totally normal. It wouldn’t be a normal situation for you to have never entered the home, but now your son goes in , like it’s some secret society you can’t be involved in 😂 Honestly they might just feel shame about their home and not want you to see because.. He has second hand shame from his mum
They think a lot of you. Maybe his mum would be lovely if you just had the chance to get to know her. You never know, if you manage to meet her and go in the house , you might build some really beneficial relationship xxx
Girl nah, as you said "fuck them in laws!"
Or that too… I could also get on board with that opinion 😂😂😂
Your bf can get upset as much as he wants, but the truth is out there. I wouldn’t leave my baby with this kind of family. Hopefully one day you will be able to establish a relationship with them xo
Not at all, i wouldn’t want them to watch my kid either. It’s not your job to make sure that other people have a relationship with your child. They are the ones that need to take initiative, parents have enough on their plate raising the child without trying to make sure everyone gets “fair time”.