How often does your Mil look after your child?
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I can totally relate and have felt the resentment too. Mine sees the baby once or twice a week, but I go over to my parents house a ton. One thing that’s helped is I have my husband take her over to their house on Saturday or Sunday for a few hours, and I stay back and do house work or whatever I want. Kinda gives the best of both worlds if you have that option :)
She doesnt because shes vile 😂 noone looks after my LG though as i am so anxious about leaving her with anyone at all. My MIL still treats my daughter like a newborn and just makes sounds at her. When she comed to see my daughter she just sits on her phone making plans with other people and leaves after about 10 mins 🤷♀️ she says stuff to her like can you say nanny knowing full well she can and my daughter replies with what was that loud noise 🤷♀️ She also cannot hear so when my daughter asks for snacks or fruit she will say yeah nannys at your house 🤷♀️🙈
She doesn’t as I am still raising her son. Hard nope from me 🤷🏼♀️
I really appreciate your replies as just wondering if I was being mean! Also she lives an hour away. My husband is learning to drive so I have to drive and I also get anxious on motorways! 🙈
I don't think you're being mean at all! Travelling an hour away every other week is plenty, you shouldn't be expected to do it more often! With your MIL still working, presumably the only options are evenings and weekends and you can't be reasonably expected to spend all of your free time with her! X
When you have sons you are “the other grandma” normally - you will be the MIL one day. That’s how I see it and therefore have made time for my MIL as it must be hard. My husband is useless with his mother, so I hold the communication together!!
She has never offered to look after our LB! I feel like it’s all on my mum as she looks after him at least once a week while I work, and she is our only babysitter. I know we could ask if we were desperate though!
Thank you, I wondered what it was like for others. It’s hard but only natural to see my own parents more. I also do need that time away from both just as a family. Thanks again 😊
You are me lol my parent see my daughter all time and even tonight the offer to keep her because I’m 1 week away from my due date with baby 2. Whereas my MIL see’s her on a Sunday at church. She’s only ever had her overnight once and she live like 45 mins away and my husband doesn’t drive and I don’t wanna drive lol
Not very often - my mum lives 70 miles away and sees my babies more.
I don’t leave either of my kiddos with my MIL. her parenting method is VERY different to mine. She doesn’t respect my boundaries and often breaks my rules in front of me so I’d hate to see what would happen if I left my children there. If you cannot respect me as a parent and follow my parenting requests then don’t expect to have one on one with them.
It's the reverse with us. My parents live abroad so they only see our LO occasionally. My MIL looks after our LO once a week which is absolutely lovely. My partner's parents live two streets away so we see them all the time. I do feel a bit sad that my parents don't get to spend as much time with her but there's not much that can be done about it!