Finally letting your hair down !

No he's not right your baby is Soo young and you can't get that time back stay in with your baby and have all the cuddles I haven't gone out once since having my baby and I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything

Honestly, I wasn’t ready to get out more till my son was at least 1 1-2, and that was more of getting together with other moms at parks and stuff that are child friendly. Only another mom would get this lol

Absolutely not. Yes if you were 22 without a child. You’re absolutely right this is your role now. Of course try and find a balance and have some time to yourself and meet with friends

You can still go out and have fun… just in moderation

If you’re wanting to go out and have fun then do it, if you feel comfortable enough to do so If not, that’s okay too! I’m 22 and me and my partner had a date night on Friday (little girl is 7 weeks old) we went out just after her feed, and was back before her next feed and her grandparents watched her in our home and we had 2 beers while out. It was lovely and a year ago that would have usually led to us going out and partying but we just wanted to go home to our baby.

I’d say for that subject don’t listen to anyone’s opinion of what fun you should be having. As a young(ish) mum myself with an almost 2yo it’s way more fun for me to play games with my son or go to soft play or the park or a play date rather than go out partying with “friends” that are still on that party every weekend lifestyle. As a mum I definitely value other things way more. Even after almost two years fully dedicated to my child I don’t miss going out so definitely take your time and do what feels right for you x

The only person that knows is you. You know what feels right for you and no one else should be telling you how to live your life! My mum at 22 was married with 2 kids already. It used to be very normal. It's what some people want, and not what others want, that doesn't make it right or wrong though.

I’m a mum and I still go out, have fun, go out w friends, brunches and lunches and dinners, hobbies out. You don’t have to go out every single day of the weekend, every week, and you don’t have to be a mum 24/7 either. I love the balance that I have right now, we both have a hobby night and a friend catch-up every week, each. That’s 2 days a week we both get out, if we wanted. The hobby is locked in though- that has a scheduled time and place. My “going out” is my hobby, my salsa/bachata/Reggaeton dancing every Friday, so I get my break, my exercise, and my socialising in the one night. Keeps me fit also. And I love dancing. And then yeah the friend catch-up which is usually dinner and drinks. As a sahm that spends 10-12hrs every day w a baby I need a couple hrs to myself at the end of every week, keeps me sane. So it’s totally ok to take one night off mothering each week IF you wanted to.

Is he saying that because he sees you stressed and unhappy? It’s still possible to care for your babies and have fun. Obviously the care and safety of your child comes first, and you can also wait until you feel more comfortable.

I just take my baby with me and if the people I make plans with complain then I don't hang out with them.