TW miscarriage - What do I do if I have a miscarriage?

Hey ladies

I’m a massive worrier, especially in early pregnancy

What do I do if I happen to have a miscarriage? I want to make sure I’m prepared for absolutely everything

And also:
How do I know that it is definitely a miscarriage? Or do I not know until the doctors tell me?

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Thank you so much for your response 🩷
I’m so sorry you had to go through that 😞

Thank you for commenting, I’m going to make a note of it in my notebook so I know what to do if it happens. I honestly have such awful anxiety over it, this isn’t my first baby either so I’ve dealt with the anxiety before. It’s just crippling 😞 x

From past experiences, if I had a miscarriage and passed tissue at home I would be inclined (as horrific and probably pretty scarring it would be) to collect the tissue and contact the local epu to send it off for pathology testing - they will do that, or at least one of the nurses there told me they would.
Last year I had a missed miscarriage which didn't pass naturally. I found out at a private scan at 8w there was no heartbeat. The scan place contacted the EPU for me, gave them my number and us a report to give them. The epu called and booked us in for a scan 3 days later to confirm and speak through the options.
Conservative management- do nothing and let nature take its course.
Medical management- pills to induce miscarriage.
Surgical management- surgery to remove pregnancy tissue.
I opted for Conservative management and was given advice - co-codamol for pain, hot water bottle, ben&Jerry's and a duvet day or 2... 4 weeks later nothing had happened and I still had morning sickness so I opted...

for surgical management if I could have a scan to double check. I agreed to the pathology/histology, had the surgery and lost all pregnancy symptoms immediately. 4 weeks later I got a call to say histology had shown I'd had a molar pregnancy and could I come in to epu. A molar pregnancy runs a very small risk of needing chemotherapy to treat as it grows like cancer but I needed further monitoring to check my hcg levels dropped. Luckily they did and 3months later I was pregnant again with my now 8week old.
If I had passed the tissue at home or refused the histology I'd be none the wiser and at risk if it had developed into cancer.

Molar pregnancy is fairly rare though - 1 in 600. But now I've had one my odds are 1 in 100, hence why I would take anything for testing.

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Oh my God, oh my God I hope this is not true!!!! I’m kind of scared

I’ve been throwing up and taking a shit all night!!! I just hope that it’s not what I think it is

Small head reported following 20 week scan

Has anyone else had it flagged that their baby is in the bottom 5th percentile for head size?

They said everything was fine whilst we were in the scan and then I got a phone call the next day saying that it’s on the small side and we’re being referred to a paediatric specialist at St George’s. Has anyone else had this and how did things go??

Would you bring 9 week old to a family party of 35+ people?

These are also people who will want to pass the baby around and get a turn to hold him. He just got his 2 month shots two days ago

Exercise 6 weeks after c section

What movement did people start to introduce? I won’t do anything too vigorous until I’ve seen the pelvic physio as I don’t want to compromise anything that may have been extremely weakened through pregnancy! But just wondering what types of classes/movement people started off with?

Induction experience

I just wanted to share my experience with being induced as I wasn’t sure what to expect and thought it may help others.

I opted for the foley balloon which was inserted at 8am Saturday morning, I had to stay in hospital due to hypertension and protein urine however usually you can just go home once this has been done. The insertion of the balloon was not painful, was slightly uncomfortable as there was slight pressure. I actually found having the cervix checked prior to be worse (again not painful at this point just uncomfortable) The balloon had little effect and after having it removed I was still only 1cm. Removal also was pain free and hardly even noticeable.

I then had my first dose of the gel and definitely noticed a difference, I started experiencing period like cramps almost immediately however they were light and manageable. After 6 hours I had another cervix check and although my cervix was soft it was still only 1cm and was only open at the front. I had another dose of the gel and felt an increase in pressure and more intense cramping where I now required pain relief (codeine). After another 6 hours I had another cervix check and I had now dilated to 2-3cm however was still quite difficult to get all the way through so a third gel was recommended which I agreed to.

Almost immediately I noticed the difference and was in considerable pain, I had paracetamol and codeine however the contractions had now become intense and a lot closer together (around 3 minutes apart). After a couple of hours I had my last cervix check and was 4cm and taken down to the Labour ward to have my waters broken and an epidural.

I had been in my room for approx 20minutes when my waters broke by themselves and I was now 10cm and actively pushing…. There was no time for the epidural and my beautiful girl arrived into the world within 2 minutes of pushing.

All in all I would say the cramps/contractions were manageable up until the third gel where it became pretty unbearable however it was for a very short time a gas and air helped take the edge off. The worst part about any of it was actually the later cervix checks where after stimulating the cervix my contractions were at their most painful.

If I had to be induced again I would skip the balloon and opt for the gels immediately as thy had a quicker effect and I would have been out a lot sooner if I had done this to begin with.

One more thing, I’ve never believed when people say “you forget the pain once they’re here” but I can honestly say this is true. It’s been 4 days and I would do it all again in a heartbeat.