Perineal massage

Has everyone started this yet?
What oil are you using?
How often/long are you doing it for?
...I'm 36 weeks so think I should have probably started by now!

Also are people eating dates daily to help soften the cervix?

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I ordered the expert midwife peri prep oil, however I’m finding perineal massage so uncomfortable ☹️ even got my partner to try do it to see if I could cope with that better but I think I’m just too in my head about it! Been aiming for a few minutes about 3-4 times a week so hopefully I get more relaxed about it soon x

I haven’t started yet but I used sweet almond oil last time. Will probably start next week at 36 weeks.

I did eat dates for the last few weeks and I was 1cm dilated when I had a sweep at 39 weeks, so I think there’s some truth in them helping to soften the cervix. I was so sick of dates by the end though 😂

You can use water based lubricant, I started quite late in last pregnancy but have started now at 35 weeks. It gets sore at first but it does ease

Bought My Expert Midwife, got my partner to do it and it was sooo uncomfortable even though I could tell he was being as gentle as possible. Reluctant to try again but that tiny bottle cost me £15 so I’m going to persevere 😅

I really didn’t find it that bad, I think maybe everyone needs to be a bit more gentle! Seems worth it to me to avoid tearing 😁

I like dates but I was sick of them after several weeks of eating them 🤣 my SIL stuffed them with peanut butter and drizzled them with chocolate and she said they tasted like snickers so I’m gonna try that this time, maybe pop them in smoothies etc as well rather than eating just straight up dates.

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Oh my God, oh my God I hope this is not true!!!! I’m kind of scared

I’ve been throwing up and taking a shit all night!!! I just hope that it’s not what I think it is

Small head reported following 20 week scan

Has anyone else had it flagged that their baby is in the bottom 5th percentile for head size?

They said everything was fine whilst we were in the scan and then I got a phone call the next day saying that it’s on the small side and we’re being referred to a paediatric specialist at St George’s. Has anyone else had this and how did things go??

Would you bring 9 week old to a family party of 35+ people?

These are also people who will want to pass the baby around and get a turn to hold him. He just got his 2 month shots two days ago

Exercise 6 weeks after c section

What movement did people start to introduce? I won’t do anything too vigorous until I’ve seen the pelvic physio as I don’t want to compromise anything that may have been extremely weakened through pregnancy! But just wondering what types of classes/movement people started off with?

Induction experience

I just wanted to share my experience with being induced as I wasn’t sure what to expect and thought it may help others.

I opted for the foley balloon which was inserted at 8am Saturday morning, I had to stay in hospital due to hypertension and protein urine however usually you can just go home once this has been done. The insertion of the balloon was not painful, was slightly uncomfortable as there was slight pressure. I actually found having the cervix checked prior to be worse (again not painful at this point just uncomfortable) The balloon had little effect and after having it removed I was still only 1cm. Removal also was pain free and hardly even noticeable.

I then had my first dose of the gel and definitely noticed a difference, I started experiencing period like cramps almost immediately however they were light and manageable. After 6 hours I had another cervix check and although my cervix was soft it was still only 1cm and was only open at the front. I had another dose of the gel and felt an increase in pressure and more intense cramping where I now required pain relief (codeine). After another 6 hours I had another cervix check and I had now dilated to 2-3cm however was still quite difficult to get all the way through so a third gel was recommended which I agreed to.

Almost immediately I noticed the difference and was in considerable pain, I had paracetamol and codeine however the contractions had now become intense and a lot closer together (around 3 minutes apart). After a couple of hours I had my last cervix check and was 4cm and taken down to the Labour ward to have my waters broken and an epidural.

I had been in my room for approx 20minutes when my waters broke by themselves and I was now 10cm and actively pushing…. There was no time for the epidural and my beautiful girl arrived into the world within 2 minutes of pushing.

All in all I would say the cramps/contractions were manageable up until the third gel where it became pretty unbearable however it was for a very short time a gas and air helped take the edge off. The worst part about any of it was actually the later cervix checks where after stimulating the cervix my contractions were at their most painful.

If I had to be induced again I would skip the balloon and opt for the gels immediately as thy had a quicker effect and I would have been out a lot sooner if I had done this to begin with.

One more thing, I’ve never believed when people say “you forget the pain once they’re here” but I can honestly say this is true. It’s been 4 days and I would do it all again in a heartbeat.

Anyone else experiencing this?

Gave birth (vagina) 5 days ago and yesterday morning and this morning getting lot of pain in my right bottom side and lower back