When will my baby love me?

This might seem like a strange question. Let me explain. I love my LO to bits. I exclusively breastfeed, sing songs to her all day, rock her, sleep next to her, play and read books, and I love all this time with her. She feeds well, smiles and laughs at me, and enjoys the playing. She seems to respond in a very similar way to my sister and my mum, and only really “wants” me when she’s hungry, as far as I can tell, so it doesn’t really feel like there’s anything special about me, in her eyes. I, naively, thought she and i would have a special bond but it feels a bit one sided atm. She’s 8 weeks now. At what age will I maybe feel more love from her, in terms of her responses to me? Will being near me feel reassuring to her? Does this question even make sense?
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I started to feel move love from my son around 2 where he used to come to hug/kiss me randomly

It does, and this question brings tears to my eyes. You’re doing so well mama. At this point maybe bub just sees you as an extension of her, and reacts more to other people. Some say at 6 months onwards they start to see you a separate beings and want to cuddle you. Hang in there.

Once she can crawl or walk and doesn’t leave you alone you will wish she wasn’t so clingy lol… But for real She does love you and in her eyes you are number 1. Once she can be more aware and sit up and know what she wants she will want you… My daughter was the same, then she turned 6 months and was scared of everyone, and then I couldn’t do anything without her at my feet all the time. It’s lovely being wanted but it’s also hard to do things. I think although she smiles at other people you are her number 1 regardless of the milk she wants x

I feel you on this, but they say babies don’t recognise their mums as a different person to them until at least 6 months. Right you, they think of you and them as one person. However, I noticed that I was getting more smiles and coos in response to me at about 4 months. Her daddy still gets way more 🤦‍♀️😭😂😂😂 Regardless of this, you baby will be reassured that you’re close and there, having you will bring her comfort. She just hasn’t got the ability to show you yet xx keep up the good work muma!

It was around 6months for my little girl. She would put her arms up for a cuddle only to me, would reach for me if someone else picked her up ❤️

I think the universe was on my side today, because she has been suddenly very cuddly and sweet in my arms, even when she was crying in my mum’s arms - so now I’m not so worried 😅🩷 thanks everyone for your reassurance, too ❤️☀️

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