Venting MIL
Before I was pregnant I got along with my partners family very well. Their very kind and caring people, never had an issue with them. When I was pregnant, everyone was thrilled bc this is the first baby and my MIL first grandchild so I can understand everyone being so excited. Now that I had my baby, I don’t want anyone touching or holding her. His family is extremely obsessed, especially my MIL. She cries all the time and will continuously ask me, “when are you going back to work” or “go do something and I’ll watch the baby” as if she wants me gone so she can be with the baby. In the morning she will come in my room to see the baby but awkwardly stand there when I’m breastfeeding or try to take the baby while she is sleeping. I do give her credit for the help and support at times but now it’s getting to the point where I don’t even want to be around her.
I understand she loves her grandchild but she acts like it’s her kid.
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I feel you girl, I’ve gone through a similar situation! MIL have a sense of entitlement but at the end of the day it’s your baby NOT HERS. Your the one who went though Labour and is their mum. Do what you think is right and try set boundaries. When my MIL acts like this I distance myself until she learns to respect how I feel! Your baby needs you and she shouldn’t be making you feel this way! My MIL constantly watches me when I’m taking care of my baby and it’s just obsessive and weird! Definitely talk to her about it or if things don’t change then distance yourself! Your feelings matter and if your not feeling ok it will only effect your baby!
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For your own sanity you need to lay strict boundaries that she is NOT to come into your room, that is your safe space away from people when you are feeling anxious and you need to say that strictly to her and your partner so they respect that! Or if you can move out asap and don’t give them a spare key 🤣