Spiralling down

I’m 23 weeks pregnant and this week I’ve just been so down, and today I just can’t stop crying. I’m not sure how to snap out of it.
I’ve been called as a witness for a trial against my sisters ex (won’t go into it too much) the trial is when my first baby’s first birthday potentially would be. Obviously this is if baby comes on due date but I’m just spiralling thinking how I don’t want to do this on my baby’s first birthday (have to be in court for 3days) and feel like such a rubbish mum already if that’s what were to happen. But I’m also going to be letting my family down and not sure they would understand if I were to withdraw. Now cause I’m feeling so down I’m so worried it’s affecting my baby now?!
I’m not sure why I’m writing this here but I don’t know if I’m just being hormonal, overthinking but I don’t feel I’ve got anyone to talk to so just had to put it somewhere

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Hey, we all go through emotional phases and down phases when pregnant. I hope this will help.
1) you can’t do much to control the date of the trial and there is no point worrying about it now (it might be moved!!)
2) you are teaching your little one that family is everything and to support your family
3) they will be 1. If you end up having their birthday a day early or late they will not know.
4) you are not a rubbish mum. This post shows that. It also shows you are a loving and dependable sister.
5) you won’t be doing your baby any harm. But it can’t be good for you. If you want to pm give me a message and can chat. But you have got this! Try not worry about things you can’t control that might come to nothing xxx

Hi Jenny, I can’t tell you how grateful and thankful I am for you to take the time out to reply to my above message. After writing it out I did feel some sort of relief which helped but your message has been a real change in my mood. You’re so right in what you’ve wrote and the way you’ve wrote it too. I can’t thank you enough 🙏🏽❤️ xx

Hi hun, I hope this makes you feel better but I’m 25 weeks pregnant and have to attend court against my ex partner myself after my son is born, I feel like a crap mother myself because of the way I have to spend my days in trial and not with my newborn as much, but I realise one thing is that it makes us stronger , court can be taunting but it also shows your dedication for justice for your family x ur amazing like that, support is everything anyone can ask for especially when it comes to family. Ur doing such an amazing job

Hi Maria, I’m so sorry you have to do that and have to have the thought of doing that whilst going through your pregnancy. You definitely are not a crap mother and sound very strong and brave. You’re right we are teaching our little ones important lessons and hopefully it will all work out for the better. Sending you love, strength and well wishes xx

You are so sweet x I really hope the best for your sister and hope the justice she gets is well deserved ❤️ your both strong and brave for standing up I’m proud of you both ❤️ sending love and strength too hun xx

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