6 month old not sleeping
Guys I'm gonna lose it on my 6 month old. He doesn't sleep and it's driving me insane. He slept for 6 hours, feed, then 4 more hours from 2 months to 4 months but once he turned 4 months he started waking up every 2-3 hours and now once he turned 5 months he's been waking up every hour and it hasn't stopped. I'm not used to this as my 4 year old slept through the night since he was 1 month. 0 problems with him, 0 sleep training needed. But this new one, will not sleep in the crib. When we give up around 3 or 4am and move him to the big bed or in his little rocker chair he will sleep for another 3 or 4 hours with no disruptions. And when we pick him up from the crib he usually stops crying immediately and goes back to sleep so he clearly hates the crib. But I'm also trying to start to sleep train him a bit because I don't want him to get used to this routine of us coming to get him and move him to a new location. But I've never sleep trained before! And I'm losing my patience with him in the middle of the night! I keep having to tell myself "he's just a baby he's just a baby he's just a baby" so I don't lash out. And yes my husband does help, but he's the one who immediately wants to bring him to the rocker chair and he'll sleep on the cough next to him. Which I appreciate cause then I can get some hours of sleep, but at the same time I told him we need to sleep train him. But my husband doesn't want to lose sleep over letting him cry. Idk. I'm at a loss. I'm exhausted. And patience is wearing thin. Is anyone else going through this at 6 months? Any advice? Encouraging words?
I honestly don’t know what to do 😭
My fiancé and I have always disagreed about when our daughter should start sleeping in her crib. She’s 3 months old now, and he really wants her to start sleeping in her crib because neither of us is getting enough sleep with her sleeping with me. And honestly, I completely understand where he’s coming from. I know we’re both exhausted and something probably needs to change eventually.
But I’m genuinely scared.
I’ve co-slept with her since she was about a week old. We tried the bassinet when she was little, but she absolutely hated it and would not settle in it. She got used to sleeping with me, and honestly, I got used to having her right beside me too. As exhausting as it can be, I actually sleep better when she’s next to me because I can hear her breathing, feel her moving, and check on her constantly.
Her crib is in her own room right next to ours, and I do have a baby monitor, so I know I would be able to see and hear her. But honestly, that still doesn’t completely ease my mind. I’m terrified of SIDS, and the thought of her being in another room while I’m asleep scares me so much. I feel like I would wake up constantly checking the monitor and wondering if she’s breathing, if she needs me, if something happened, or if I’m not going to hear her.
I always pictured waiting until at least around 6 months before trying to transition her, but now I’m questioning whether I’m being unreasonable. I know there’s never going to be a point where I’m completely free of worry because I’m her mom and I’m always going to worry about her. But she’s still so little, and I’m just not ready emotionally to have her sleeping away from me.
At the same time, I know my fiancé has a point. Neither of us getting enough sleep isn’t sustainable either, and I don’t want our exhaustion to start affecting us or our relationship. I just don’t want to make a decision out of exhaustion and then spend every night terrified that something is going to happen to my baby.
I feel completely stuck because I understand both sides. I want her to be safe, I want us both to get some sleep, but I also want to listen to my mom instincts. I’m not trying to keep her from her crib forever. I just don’t know when the right time is, and I’m honestly scared to make the wrong decision.
Am I being overly anxious about this, or did anyone else feel this way when their baby was around 3 months old? 😭 I could really use some advice from other moms who have been through this because I genuinely don’t know what to do.
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