Community Posts, Tips & Support on Baby Sleep

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Just a positive note…

Everyone warned me about the first three months being very demanding and difficult but now that we have overcome, I want to share that you will sleep again, you’ll start to enjoy routines and their smiles get bigger so it makes it all worth it 😀

No Routine!!!!

My 6 month old has no routine, and it’s not for lack of trying, he just never settles into one. His bottles are all over the place, sometimes going 2 hours in between, sometimes going 4. We can’t get him to sleep more than 20 minutes during the day. I need some routine and predictability. Pls help

Need some words of wisdom please! Struggling mama here. Desperate for some help 😢

I am absolutely shattered, my 3 year old toddler (who doesn’t sleep the best) literally is barely sleeping now at all! The past 3/4 nights have been absolutely tragic. Admittedly he has a cough, so he might be a bit unwell and I understand the cough keeps him awake or wakes him when he’s sleeping however his usual first stretch of sleep is pretty much gone, which we were having a solid 4/5 hours then restless sleep. Usually he wakes around 6am but he’s been getting up around 5am, we are currently sat downstairs because we’ve given up on sleep. I really struggle to get back to sleep when woken so sleep hasn’t happened at all for me tonight think I’ve had 45 mins and the thought of a day literally running on fumes is making me want to cry my eyes out. Is there a sleep regression at 3 years old or I’m wondering if he’s having a growth spur? As he’s just had porridge at 5am as well as he said he’s hungry! I don’t know what to do but I’m a single mama, so any advice for sleep welcome! I am with someone who isn’t his dad, and we stay his most of the week where he has his own room there but he does not stay in his bed at the minute for longer than an hour! Also we are staying my mums tonight and we share a bed there due to lack of rooms.. I also have a 14 hour day tomorrow at work so I really really need some help! Very desperate with what to do going forward because I’m worried the lack of sleep will stick and he’ll just never sleep properly again 😢

Has anyone moved baby to own room?

My LG is so noisy to the point I wake up to make bottles numerous times a night only for her to be sound asleep so was thinking of moving to own room..,

Bedtime?

What time is everyone putting their little ones down for the night? Our daughter’s bedtime is around 6/6:30. If she goes past this she seems to struggle. However she seems to be waking very early in the morning (5am) then won’t go back to sleep. She also wakes at least 2 times in the night for a bottle still. Is this normal for her age? She’s 4 and a half months now🤍

How are your little ones doing at nursery?

I'm having major issues it's absolutely heartbreaking.

We've had 1 week of settling & this week started full time (I'm on annual leave so I am in the parent room all day just in case)

She's actually not too bad in terms of settling there. She eats well & plays but she just won't sleep at all at nursery. They have now managed to get her to nap 20mins a day.

She's just left so overtired that she can't shut off at night time. She's constantly waking every few minutes (never done this before). Shes going through a mix of overtired, teething & separation anxiety. Poor baby 😔

I just feel so bad for her & not sure I can take it much longer. It's breaking my heart seeing her so tired. I feel like I'm failing her.

Has anyone experienced this & has baby managed to sleep longer at nursery?

I really don't want to quit my job because the quality of life we'd be living won't be ideal. However I feel like I may have to if the price is her mental health.

This is just as hard as I anticipated it would be 💔

Daytime naps

My little one is five months old and she refuses to sleep during the day. If we manage to get her down she’s either in the pram or after a feed. At night she feeds and then sleeps but wakes after an hour and a half to feed again or screams. Her wake windows can be over four hours long. I know that’s too long and I’m exhausted and emotional. Any advice would be appreciated.

Gassy Baby

I’m struggling so much with baby being gassy when lying down. He will sleep on me for hours on his front but I will put him down (still fast asleep) and the gass wakes him up. I’m trying infacol at the moment- has anyone else experienced this and have any suggestions?

Bed time tantrum anyone?

My lo struggles with going to bed. Every night at 7 we either take a bath or do a wipe down, get jammies, brush teeth, say night to dad and ready a book then go to bed. Its pretty much the EVERY day and he does great with every piece other than going into bed. I used to cuddle him to sleep but we're whining off cosleeping cause none of us are sleeping well. He sleeps great through the night now but getting in bed is rough. I try to comfort him, pat his back, sing to him, but he just escalates worse. The best thing is to say goodnight and just leave him alone woth some piano music.

Does anyone have advice to help so that he can transition INTO bed better?

Waking through the night

My baby will be 1 next week, he went through a brief phase of sleeping right through the night but is back to waking on average once a night. The only way to get him back to sleep is feed him a bottle. How do I wean him off this?
Are many other September babies still feeding through the night?

extra ounce of milk n sleepiness😴🍼

My little one is 3 weeks and has had a lot of gas and wind issues. I’ve used infacol here n there. Yesterday we put him on an ounce more than usual milk n he happily had this and was burped after. Following this, he slept 5 hours from 9pm-2am ( he usually wakes up every 2hrs for milk) Can this increase of 1 extra ounce cause him to sleep longer? Hes a different baby altogether, sleeps for longer and hardly has gas or reflux issues due to being deep asleep. I’m wondering if this is normal? ( not complaining as I loved the extra hrs of sleep ) But I’m thinking why he’s changed all of a sudden!

Naps

Anyone else’s baby still having 5 naps? Ours days are long 5/6am - 7/8pm bedtime and naps are short so we seem to have of them still.

Waking up after 5am

Good morning beautiful mamas!! x

I was wondering if anyone been or is in the same situation. Baby keeps waking up after 5am. I will give him little bit of milk and he will continue to sleep until 7am or even after but with me in the bed. It doesn’t matter what time he will have his bedtime.
I really doubt he is overtired and then thought about sleep pressure maybe not big enough but when I put him to sleep he is falling asleep in 5-10min so I would say he isn’t undertired either. 🤷‍♀️

Today I think baby was cold in the morning so that could be an excuse but no clue about other days.

It’s not the light also because we have blackout curtains so it’s pretty dark.

Day sleep around 2-2.5hrs so isn’t too much.

I think it all started since switched to 2 naps (few weeks ago). He used to sleep through until 6-6:45am on 3 naps. Then we moved to 2 and he kept waking up around 4-5am and now it’s like 5-5:30am

He continue sleeping (with me) so sleep pressure is there and he is not ready to start the day at 5am so no idea why he is waking up

Any ideas/advise please?🤔

Night nappies

Ok I know I’m late to the game here - but now baby is sleeping on their front, we are getting lots of leaks! Any advice on nappies for bedtime? Are we using night pants or strap nappies? What is best please?! Also - are you needing to do a change in the night to prevent leaks - or are they lasting through? Thank you in advance!

Continuous split wakes

Hiya! so my little man is 13 months old and is in the messy transition between 2-1 naps. He began having split wakes the beginning of last week, I thought maybe it’s because of his second nap and not having enough sleep pressure for bedtime so we scrapped the second nap and stretched the second wake window to around 5 and a half 6 hours. His first wake window is around 4/4 and a half hours, he’s an early riser always has been. We are still every night from last week having early hours split wakes that last at least 2 hours. Has anyone else had this? If so what did you do to rectify it? I’ll also add he had his 12 month vaccinations just over a week ago Iv been keeping an eye on his temp but nothing. Any advice would be appreciated 🩷

Nappy Changes/ getting dressed

Anyone else really struggling with nappy chnages/ getting babies dressed!? The wriggling, the kicking of legs.... each nappy change is so stressful! We give him a toy, have lights on, sing to distract him but nothing works....

Any tips for staying calm?

Advice (apologies for the long post)

I swear I feel like I’m always asking for some kind of advice or support 😂 so my daughter is 6 weeks old. Her wake windows seem SO long now, especially at night. I mean this girl will not sleep unless she’s feeding (she’s ebf on demand). She DEFINITELY does not sleep anymore than an hour to two in her bassinet but as of late it seems like she’s only sleeping in her own space for 15-30 minutes before startling herself awake. She doesn’t sleep for hours after that.

Her wake windows are pretty long in the evening/night. She took a nap around 6:30 and I had her dad wake her up at 7:30 so that we could try to get her to sleep by 9:30 at the latest. WELL ms girl didn’t end up falling asleep until 11 tonight. We don’t use a swaddle because sometimes she rolls on her side, she gets fed, burped, a new diaper and jammies and then gets rocked/bounced/swayed for what feels like forever. We bathe her twice a week, but she does get lotion at night because her skin gets dry.

What am I doing wrong?? I REALLY don’t want to co-sleep but I also feel guilty because she’s so tired and loves her contact naps during the day but I’m just exhausted. Her dad is in college full time and has to be in class by 9am most days so I try to be mindful of his sleep as well. Eventually I’m going to have to go back to work until he graduates and I just can’t fathom getting 3-4 hours of sleep a night and having to work full time.

I feel like a bad mom but it’s just anxiety 😅

Sitting on the couch with my almost 9 week old, I went to pull my phone further and the charger got stuck, phone unplugged and went “flying” and whacked my sweet boy in the cheek 😭😭 that’s a sound I never want to hear again. I let him latch to comfort, he got some suckles in and removed some milk effectively. Pupils are fine. No abnormal behavior. But my anxiety always says it’s the end of the world 😅 it’s time for him to wind down and go to sleep for his/our long stretch of sleep but I’m afraid to let him fall asleep 😅😅

Sleep times

Can people share there sleep times nap times how long for ect lost with sleep atm

Constantly moving

My LO is so hard to settle sometimes as he’s always moving even when he’s tired and sleeping. During the middle of the night after I feed him lying down he’ll fall asleep for 5 mins then start wriggling again. I pick him up and keep him upright for at least 20 mins before putting him back down. Occasionally I have to get up and walk because he moves too much I. E. Turning head from side to side, rubbing his face against my top, wriggling around. It gets really frustrating especially at night and I think to myself why am I feeding laying down if I know he’ll need me to hold him or move around straight after. Anyone know what I can do?