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Is this abuse?

We had to get a lock for our 3 yr old child’s bedroom door. It’s at the top where they cannot reach and open it, but it is very simple to open in emergencies. We had dealt with them eloping and running out the front door multiple times. Our front door has locks on them, but our kid knows how to reach them, and even the extra tall locks by pushing a chair up to them, opening it, opening the deadbolt and other lock, then bolting.
We tried multiple gates on bedroom door, and they just climb over them every time. Or figure out how to open it.
Our kiddo never EVER gets “locked” in their room except for after we have gone to sleep. My husband and I are heavy sleepers and even with our alarms and kiddos monitor, we have slept through them sneaking out of their room before.

Our house is as baby proofed as possible, but obviously a toddler escape artist can get hurt any number of ways, in the middle of the dark house at night unsupervised. If they continue to sneak out of their room.

They sleep from 9:30/10:30pm- about 8am every morning.

If they ever cry or need something, I go check on them. Usually change diaper once through night, and often lay them back down when they’re fighting sleep.

But i was desperate because I was starting to wake at every single sound on the monitor thinking they were escaping and at risk of getting out of the house.

I don’t think I’m doing anything wrong, I never ever would abuse the lock on the door or use it as punishment. It’s simply to keep them safe while I’m asleep and can’t hear them.

Someone recently told me that CPS can be called and they WILL take your children if there’s a lock on the door. This cannot be true right?? I understand if there are multiple factors of concern and evidence it’s being misused, but is this actually an automatic reason for removing a child?

If so I’ll get rid of it, but I need suggestions to keep them safe 😭 I was astonished at how many mothers and parents came for me saying that the lock on the bedroom door is abusive no matter the reason.
“There’s never a valid reason to lock your child in the room”

BUT they don’t have to chase a toddler down the street at 1am because they opened their bedroom door, climbed the gate, pushed a chair to the front door to unlock the top lock, unlocked the deadbolt and key lock, and took off. All in a matter of maybe 3 minutes from when I first thought I heard them make a sound.

Help! Am I in the wrong ?

Short WW

Anyone else’s 7 month old ( just turned 7 months ) can only stay awake still for 2/2.5 hours at a time ?!

Baby won’t sleep

Anyone else having issues with their newborn falling asleep? My baby is 1 week old today and even though he is fed he will not fall asleep! Diaper is changed, he is burped, yet he doesn’t want to rest. I naturally want to bring him to breast again, but I don’t know if I’m over feeding him.

Anyone's sleep regression seem to be happening early?

Boy just turned 3 months on 23rd, but he can't sleep longer than 30mins which I think is a sleep cycle ? Day and night. Anyone else?

Anyone else’s 4 month old wake windows still really short ?

My little one it seems like every hour she needs a nap , I dnt think she can manage anything more then 90 minutes

4 month old refuses to sleep in next to me crib.

My 4 month old baby has been going through sleep regression and teething. He was giving me 4-5 hour stretches and then a few weeks ago started waking every hour and refused to sleep in his next to me crib. We have started co-sleeping and for 2 nights he did 4 hour stretches. But now we are back to waking every 1.5-2 hours. However now he refuses to sleep in the bed too, he wants you to be permanently standing up rocking him. The second you stop he wakes and cries. We’ve tried putting him down after being asleep on us for 20 minutes, we’ve tried putting him down drowsy and we have also tried putting him down awake. Nothing works. Does anyone have any advice? I want him to be comfortable in his own space but I also need some sleep myself.

Rolling over in sleep

My nearly 6 month old has started rolling onto her tummy in her sleep, I’ve read if they’ve done it themselves we can leave them but my girl cannot roll belly to back, and has shown no signs. If she stays asleep, can I leave her on her stomach or should I be rolling her back?

Baby sleeping on tummy

I know babies are able to sleep on their tummy once they can roll both ways (mine has been able to do this for a long time) but at the minute she will not sleep on her back at all, she rolls on to her tummy immediately & it makes me so nervous!!! I know I don’t have to roll her back now but it still makes me feel anxious! Anyone else? This is my 2nd baby but my first never slept on her tummy until she was a toddler so this is new to me 🤣

Sleep

How many hours yall leave a baby sleep without feeding in the night with 2 months? I still waking up mine every 4 hours

Wake windows

How long are your 6 month olds awake for at a time?

7 month old starting to wake through the night

Hey everyone

My little girl is 7 months tomorrow and she has suddenly started waking several times through the night.

We haven’t changed her routine - she is going down to sleep at about half 7 and previously slept through until about 6:30/7am but for the last couple of days she is repeatedly waking up.

Last night she woke up 12 times through the night. She will wake up and be extremely distressed, we will try and give her opportunity to self soothe and try to shush her before picking her up but this isn’t working. We are finding that the second we pick her up, she is falling straight back to sleep however is then waking up again after a really short interval.

This seems to have happened completely out of the blue and I’m just wondering if anyone else experienced this at roughly the same time and if anything helped?

Suggestions for my toddler laying on baby

Anyone have suggestions for either keeping toddler from laying on my bump and crushing baby? Or how to snuggle with my toddler comfortably?

Sleep

My girl just turned 4 month but at night I put her in her sleep sack as that’s the only way she’ll sleep now. But she wakes up every hour or 2 hours at night and I have no idea why I usually try to put her to sleep and give her the Pau but most of the time I hv to feed her for her to go back to sleep. Any advice

Exhausted from comfort feeds!

Has anyone been able to stop comfort feeds at night?

My 7 month old daughter is EBF and until last month only woke max 3 times for feeds and not really using it for comfort (if she woke then she would be okay with me just holding her). The past month though she has been waking every 1-2 hours to comfort feed. She doesn’t take a dummy. I don’t want to stop bf at night and start formula but if we withhold the comfort feed she screams and wakes every 20 mins until I give in. We try rocking and walking with her instead which is how we put her to sleep but its not worked. Any advice?

Tell me I’m not alone!!!

My son doesn’t sleep through the night, feeding every 2-3 hours. Cries from separation anxiety so usually put him in with me around 2/3 so we can both sleep.
His nap times and lengths are always different, contact naps only. Rocking or bouncing to sleep sometimes, could be awake for 2 hours or 5.
EBF but not interested in boob or bottle much in the day.

All I read on here or other places online are about babies who seem to have their sh** together. Tell me there’s others out there????

Who else is doing this?

Wondering who still sits next to there nearly 3 year old before they fall asleep? Or can anyone actually put them in their room and leave them to settle themselves to sleep??

Sleep Training

Anyone have any advice on sleep training my son is 13 months and won’t go to sleep unless someone rocks him or is holding him. People have told me to try the “cry it out” method but I just can’t do it, it breaks my heart. Anyone have any suggestions

Is it too soon to drop naps completely

We are really struggling here and not sure what to do. We have tried later naps, earlier naps, shorter naps, and longer naps. It's now been 2.5 hours now of trying to get our baby to sleep tonight. Still haven't even had our dinner and it's 9.30pm. Is this age too soon to drop naps completely? They struggle by the evening if we do but at least go to sleep easier!

Co sleeping

Hi moms.
I need some help/advice.
I have twin boys (7.5 months). One sleeps amazingly through the night, and one isn't able to sleep without someone sleeping with him (I live with my in-laws and we take turns with the boys, and they always co-sleep).
Ive asked them numerous times not to, and to use the pack n play that we have set up in their room (until we get another crib). Ive had MULTIPLE conversations and arguments with my husband about it (its a culture thing to co-sleep).
My whole thing is ive never liked it or wanted to do it. You want to, sure you do you but dont ask me to do it.
My mil was injured at work so I do understand it is easier for her to have one of them sleep in their bed (incase needs to feed in the middle of the night).
Im at my wits end because I'm having a now 3 hour battle getting one twin to sleep in his crib. He knows as soon as he makes contact with his bed he's not with someone and screams/sobs bloody murder.
I dont know what to do or how to help him.
I dont want him to be 5 years old and still sleeping with his grandparents 😪

Napping question: need help

Hi guys FTM here. My baby is 7 months old and still will not sleep in her crib. I have to hold her for every nap. I’ve tried putting her to sleep and then transferring her she wakes up right away or will only sleep 15 mins on her own so it’s not really worth it bc she doesn’t get the sleep she needs. And if I try to put her in her crib and see if she falls asleep she won’t. She will just cry non stop. I’ve tried up to 45 mins and that just was too much for me to handle. I don’t mind it at night bc she cosleeps really well and only wakes up 1 time if that. Please moms who have dealt with this please help! I don’t get a min of the day to myself and I don’t want to complain bc I love my baby but it gets really exhausting having to hold her for every nap.