Community Posts, Tips & Support on Breastfeeding

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Comftable large maternity bras

Im currently 30 weeks pregnant and really struggling to find a ocmftsble large maternity bra currently 36hh been to a place had one fitted still digs in and hurts me help!

Inconsolable crying

We had our baby on 1st July at 39 weeks via csection because she was breech.

At 6.8lbs she’s healthy and has been doing well.

I’m trying to breast feed which is generally going alright, though she doesn’t have a great latch. I have a lactation consultant coming Monday.
Yesterday she would give feeding queues and then not latch, so feeds were harder.

At night she was inconsolably crying from about 12:30 am until about 4:30 am. I’d changed her nappy, her clothes for comfort, I tried feeding, we rocked and bobbed, walked around, skin to skin, shushed and sang, checked her temperature and just had no luck.

It’s horrible to see her get so upset and worked up, when I know she’s too young to get colic too. Just wondering if anyone else has had any similar experiences? I’d hate to miss a sign something is wrong.

Expressed breastmilk

How much per feed are your LO taking if they are fed breastmilk from a bottle?
My LO is only taking 60ml per feed which I feel isn’t enough as previously she was taking more!

Clueless

I am totally clueless. I have zero support. I honestly so not know what I am doing anymore. I have contacted my local feeding team, zero response. My LG is breastfed and I want to stop. She's never taken a bottle. So trying to introduce cow's milk through a free flow or straw cup. She eats food well. But I am starting to second guess my choices of snacks etc for her. I am honestly at my wits end. If my mum were alive, I wouldn't be in this situation. But sadly, that is not the case.

I feel like I am feeding her the same things. I struggle to cook as she is a handful, my husband works 12+ hours a day and so all the housework etc is on me.

Our car has just been written off and so we have no money, as we had to buy the first available car we could (it's fully MOT'd until Feb). But it's screwed us for the month. It just seems that it's all going wrong and getting too much.

I'm drowning over here. And no one seems to have a life raft.

Baby very distracted

My baby Is fully breast fed. But in his day time feeds sometimes he literally acts so unbothered like he’ll suck for a few minutes then get soo distaracted by anything around him, I can’t even read a book while feeding he just tries to turn around and stare at it, same if I’m on my phone or tellys on. If anyone talks he’ll stop to see them and stare for ages. Or he’ll just try to arch his neck to see what’s going on elsewhere and keep going back
For a few seconds to feed then up looking around again ! I worry it means he might be feeding less but maybe this is normal ???

Libido loss during breastfeeding

Has anyone else experienced loss of libido while breastfeeding? I’m 8 months pp, not feeling it at all and I feel so sorry for my hubby 😣 how did everyone get through it? It’s also not helpful that when we’ve tried it hurts down there and just fully getting the ick right now towards anything like that and towards my husband 😫 I just want to feel like myself again 💔

Advice for feeding

Hi mamas. My 8 month old is verrrrrry picky and hardly wants to eat anything. I can get her to eat some pouches but that’s about it, she just loves her milkies. But lately she’s been crawling and cutting teeth and whatnot so she’s been extra hungry. I am really struggling to keep up with her eating all day and still be able to pump enough at night for the following nights bedtime bottle. I can only pump 4-5 oz but shes been wanting 7-8oz at night…and I just don’t have time to pump during the day to pump to make up the difference. Idk what to do and I feel like I’m putting too much pressure on myself. I don’t really want to introduce formula because it just feels like I’m failing by not being able to keep up, but should I just do it? Maybe just have bedtime bottles be the 4-5 oz I can pump and the rest formula? Or what else should I do to help increase my supply so I can keep up with her? Starting to feel very overwhelmed with breastfeeding but also want to cry at the thought of stopping because it’s such a bond😭

Nipple Pain

Hey!

Has anyone experienced nipple pain/possible milk blend or something else? I’m going to make an appointment for myself on Monday but for the past week just one nipple has been hurting really bad when my son latches, then through feeding, it’s most painful when he initially latches. He’ll be two this month so I’ve been BF for almost two years but haven’t ever experienced pain like this.

At first I was thinking some type of trauma, because he moves so much when he nurses and favors my right side, my nipple also got yanked out of his mouth last week, but then I was also thinking maybe it’s a milk bleb because sometimes nursing him hurts but it also feels like the feeling of a clogged duct.

Idk what to do, has anyone experienced similar? The pain is really just in my nipple, my breast doesn’t hurt, it also seems to hurt more on one side of my nipple. It’s been about a week of pain. 😕

Has anyone had thrush(yeast infection) or mastitis? Is this how it starts? Idk if it’s one of those or something else. 😩

How much breastmilk to give in bottle

I EBF but I’m going to work soon and need to express and give my baby a bottle. I have no idea how many oz he drinks from the breast so idk how much to offer him in the bottle. He’s 6 weeks and will be 8 weeks when I go to work.

Cows milk

Hi guys,
Im a FTM. My daughter is a year old.
My supply has dropped dramatically after being away from baby for a 2 days. She seems to be really struggling to drink cows milk. Will take a sip and then refuse.

We are very used to feeding to sleep. So this has been a struggle. Cos yes she can still do that but there isnt enough milk to fill her up.

Ive been giving milk in nuk trainer cup and sometimes in dr brown bottle. Nothing seems to work.

I dont know what to do. Cos im also due to start work in under 2 weeks and I dont want putting her to sleep to be a task and a half.

Any tips or personal experiences?

Agitated when breastfeeding

My 5 week old son is breastfed and expressed milk fed via bottle and normal is content on the breast but today out of nowhere he is really agitated and screams as if he isn’t getting any milk but I use a nipple shield and can see the milk is there. Any advice? I don’t want to have to give up breastfeeding 😢

Mommy makeover mommas make your way here 🫶🏾. How was the process/recovery? Would you do it again? I’m giving myself two years to be in better health then my hubby is getting it for me as well a breast reduction. But what’s tea 😏

Also if you could add if you got it in the states or out of the country would love to know.

if you could wish one of these into existence which would you choose? [realistic]

• BREASTFEEDING BENCHES: seats in useful locations around the town specifically for breastfeeding mums: parks, shopping centres, down the street etc. i’m imagining curved benches with carefully placed decorations like trees or flowers to give privacy without isolation. you could have a pair of them in a yin & yang shape with a curved short wall in between to talk to another mum on the bench behind you without looking in at each other. no one should feel self conscious but if you feel awkward breastfeeding in front of someone but feel bad ditching them to feed your baby for 20 minutes this could help (eg male family members). also takes away having to look for feeding rooms or faffing with covers.

• MATERNITY LEAVE DISCOUNT CARD: like a blue light card or student card but for people on maternity leave. retailers could opt in to give you like 10% off your food shop or whatever.

• HEALTH & SUPPORT VISITORS: when the health visitor midwives come they also bring a cleaner to help with whatever task you just can’t get around to yet, eg washing bottles, laundry, hoovering, lasting as long as the visit. single mums or mums without much of a village get twice as long. i think this could go such a long way for mental health.

• GENERAL VIRAL TESTS: like covid tests but for any virus, to identify whether someone is carrying any viral disease before they come near your baby. available from any retailer like the covid kits were/are. takes away the second guessing from having family who have been around someone sick holding your baby.

Trying to increase supply

I’m trying to increase my supply any advice on how to do this fast?

I’m currently trying to pump inbetween feeds but not sure if it’s making much of a difference. Currently using the mom cozy m5, would you recommend trying a different pump not sure how effectively these are emptying me

Exclusively breastfed Mamas!!!

My LO is 1 next week and all of a sudden he is obsessed with the boob! He wants them all the time, like every hour, he just looks at me and drags my top down and gets excited when he sees them, I don’t think it’s hunger as he’s eating his solids I just think he now knows exactly what they are and they are his toys!

Anyone else going through this?

Antibiotic effect on breastmilk

I have been taking amoxicillin for a week now and my EBF baby has seemed to be coincidentally having GI issues? Larger spit ups, visibly and audibly uncomfortable, straining to poop/pas gas, lots of mucous in stool etc etc. he’s happy but also very uncomfortable. Anyone else have this issue?? Yesterday was my last day so I’m hoping he feels better soon. I feel so bad 😢

Stopping breastfeeding

Anyone got any tips for stopping breastfeeding when my baby only takes max 2oz from a bottle, feeds to sleep and co-sleeps 😭😭 it’s starting to take a toll on me mentally, I’m so grateful I could manage nearly 6 months and provide so much comfort to her but I’m so ready to be done now!!

oversupply

hey! so i’m currently 4 weeks pp with my baby boy and ive chosen to exclusively pump breastmilk and bottle feed due to latching problems. my issue (or blessing i guess) is that i produce too much for my baby right now. i pump 4 times a day and get about 40-45oz a day and he eats about 5oz every 3-4 hours so i have excess. the bottom drawer of my freezer is full of bags of milk and i have no use for it. we’ve used some for baths but it feels like a bit of a waste. unfortunately i can’t donate it through the official donation process because i need a blood test to do that and they only take milk expressed after they’ve checked your blood so i wouldn’t be able to give them what i already have. not sure what to do about it because i would like it to go to someone that can get use out of it. any advice would be appreciated

Nipple pain when breastfeeding

My baby is 1month and a week now but my niples still hurt when I breast feed him. Especially when he latches on it. I thought I’m just sensitive to it so I started pumping as well to get my nipples used to the whole breastfeeding thing but I still get the pain each time my baby is latching on. Did this happen to anyone else, does it get better with time? And in the meantime what would you recommend for the pain that worked for you? I really want to breastfeed my baby but the pain is making it difficult for me. Please advise

10 days pp and under producing

I love my baby so much he’s so cute and it’s amazing but I’m so tired. I feel so bad because it’s obvious he gets a tummy ache or gassy when drinking formula. I have a new one coming in Monday that’s supposed to be better but rn I’m pumping 1oz on both sides so I need two pump sessions to make a bottle for him. I also haven’t been latching him cause it was really painful in the beginning cause he had a shallow latch and my nipples finally are healing. I did go to the breastfeeding clinic in my hospital and they helped fix him latch. Any advice on breastfeeding and building my supply?