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Nursing bra help!

Does anyone know of any nursing bras available in the UK that have this option where you can open at the front, but it still leaves some material across the top part of your boobs so you are covered whilst feeding?

I bought one in my last pregnancy from Australia, but they have stopped doing it 😭

I have found the below, but it’s just a tank top so you can’t adjust the size at the back. And with how varied my boob size is during pregnancy, freshly postpartum, and as I went through breastfeeding, I really need an adjustable back!

I know some people say just have the confidence to feed, but I’m really after something that leaves me a bit covered as it gave me so much more confidence

What should I do?

FTM here, my baby is 11 months old and I’m trying to decide if I should move her to her room or keep things as they are until I’m done breastfeeding. Right now she sleeps in my room, we co-sleep with a sidecar crib and I nurse her back to sleep every time she wakes up, usually every 1-2 hours maybe one or two 3-4 stretches at night. She takes naps in her room and likes her bed but the whole reason I started cosleeping was so I could stop getting out of bed every hour and actually get some sleep because it was really affecting my mental health. So I’m worried to start putting her in her room and half to start waking up/getting up and disrupting my sleep so much if she’s in her own room. I would like her to be able to sleep in her own room without waking up so much and I’m wondering if when I stop breastfeeding she’ll just go longer stretches without getting up. Also I’m not looking forward to night weaning and I feel like it’ll be easier to just stop breastfeeding than night wean and continue breastfeeding during the day. I want to stop when she’s a year so I don’t have long to wait if I decide to but what should I do? Advice?

I'm not in love with my baby's dad

So, I have an interesting predicament.
I'm not feeling how I use to with my babys dad. Our baby has DS and my bf works 4-6 days a week swingshift, 12 hour days. I'm a SAHM.

We rarely go out together, when we do its at a comedy club for people he mostly likes. The last time we went, the opener asked who has old family members. Like 2 people replied, I noticed he wasnt getting much interaction so I shouted an answer out. My partner turned, asked why I'm yelling and, me with my PPD, PPA, and PPR (postpartum depression, anxiety, and rage) along with being ADHD and bipolar, i got really emotional. I got up and left.

Its like anytime I'm in a good mood for multiple consecutive days, he questions it. Not like "I'm happy you're in a good mood" but "you're being really talkative and its bothering me." So I've mostly stopped trying to talk to him unless its related to the house or our son.

We've been together since 2022.
I dont know if i should get a secret part job, ask his parents to watch baby boy, put the money aside from an apartment and just leave one day before texting him I cant be in a relationship or fvcking what. But I'm at a loss.

I suggested couples therapy, he thought just us talking would be all we needed. I've told him my issues and he'll get better for a few days and go back into it.

Am I just being too sensitive? There's so much more but I feel its already so long.

Autistic in babies

I know I shouldn’t worry but my daughter that’s 8 months plays but she’ll wack stuff she’s holding on floor repeatedly is this normal?? How did you know your child was autistic???
She has eye contact she’s just started to babble little bit here and there she crawls and sits up she smiles when you smile very hard to make laugh although she does laugh! She’s a tough crowd 😂
She’ll bash toys with her hands she has facial expressions
She doesn’t respond to her name that well right now

Postpartum advice please

I'm 6 days post-partum, had a vaginal birth which resulted in a second degree tear as well as other minor grazes/cuts that required stitches. I'm really swollen down below, struggling to wee and have swollen painful hemmeroids from pushing.

I'm curious if I should be in this much pain still? I'm having trouble standing up for more than a minute or two without an all consuming pain in my pelvis/vaginal area, it's like a really heavy pressure/ache that is so painful that I have to sit asap. I've tried walking despite it and that doesn't help, if anything over does it and hurts more and spending the day sat down is stupidly uncomfortable too.

It's really getting me down because other than this I feel great post-partum and would love to be getting back to normal where possible but the pain is too much and paracetamols aren't touching it, has anyone experienced this? Is it normal?

Constipated 11 week old

My 11 week old is only pooping once a day and I can tell she is uncomfortable. Any advice on how to help her? I’ve been doing tummy rubs, leg kicks, and making sure she’s burped. She hasn’t pooped since yesterday evening!

11 month old, one nap in the day?

Is anyone else’s baby now on one nap? Over the last week he’s had one nap, and isn’t tired at all when I’ve tried for his usual second one just wide awake happy playing etc. He’s also suddenly started to sleep 8-12hrs straight in the night and if he wakes after 8 hrs goes back down after a feed (breastfed) for a few hrs.

Is this normal at this age? I thought it would’ve after he’s one but he seems so much better with just the one nap

Poo every 7-10 days

My LO is nearing 12 weeks and since birth has only poo’ed once every 5 days up until 8 weeks, from where it then became every 7-10 days. Been to the GP who did prescribe some lactulose however his tummy is not hard and does not seem uncomfortable. I am reluctant to give a laxative if he seems completely fine. Curious if anyone else’s LO has a similar bowel pattern.
Stools are runny whenever he does poo, exclusively BF since week 8. Was triple feeding + combo with formula prior to this.

Wet nappies overnight

Hi all, I’m in a lucky position where my LO sleeps through the night 7-4 but his morning nappy after this stint will sometimes be completely dry or not very wet at all. He does plenty of wees through the day and his first nappy in the morning fills up really fast but I just wondered if this is something I should be concerned about?

Postpartum Hair Loss 😭

How are you guys coping with postpartum hair loss?

I’m officially 3 months postpartum and I feel like my hair is going THROUGH IT 😭. When I first noticed the shedding around 2 months PP, I thought it was bad… but now I’m looking at my edges like WHERE DID THEY GO?! 😭

I know postpartum shedding is common and can be temporary, but that honestly doesn’t make it any less emotional when you’re watching your hair come out in your hands.

I’m trying not to panic and I’m reminding myself that this is a season, but I’d really love to hear from other moms:

What helped you with postpartum shedding?
Did you change your hair routine?
Did you cut your hair?
Did you wear braids/protective styles?
Did you take anything that actually helped?
And most importantly… when did you start seeing your hair grow back? 🥹

Please share your experiences because girl I needs some hope right now. 😭🤎

side note: the video I uploaded was about two to three weeks. I’ll drop a comment below about my hair loss.

First night home

Any advice for the first night home with a newborn? She didn’t cry at all in the hospital and now we’re home she won’t stop lol, I know this is normal but I am exhausted

Any tips?

Tips for preparing a 2 year old for a new sibling?

Hiya everyone - my second is due at the end of August and I have realised I probably haven't prepared my toddler enough for what's coming!

He knows he has a baby sister on the way and she lives in mummy's tummy. We do mention her in conversation but I'm now worried we haven't prepared him enough - any tips on activities or good books that will prepare him a little better?

I'm worried it will be a huge adjustment for him :(

Many thanks! X

Balance bike

Does anyone know where you can get balance bikes that are big enough for a tall 5 year old? 6 in December. She gets frustrated with her normal bike and only wants to use her balance bike but she’s just way too tall. She keeps using it anyways and we’ve moved the seat off her regular bike onto the balance bike to make it a bit taller and we’re going to attempt to put the handle bars on as well just so it’s basically a bigger balance bike with parts off her normal bike. But surely there’s a company somewhere that does big balance bikes? I can never seem to find any or the pictures still look really small.

Awake and wanting September to come

Currently trying to sleep on two seater sofa because even with the air con upstairs it's like a oven, my husband now has a king size bed all to himself, I took our baby downstairs because it's was too hot and she kept waking up, I put the moses basket on the floor because the frame is a rocking frame and now matter what I did it wouldn't stop rocking with her movements, that I gave it, floor is solid and level and she's asleep now after two hour struggle but now I am wide awake because I didn't realise that my cat had come inside can't shut the back door because of noise and my cats sat in corner and all I can see is her eyes glinting at me, I would get a black cat and to top all that off I had my tonsils out and something, probably the scab keeps tickling the back of my throat, and there's me trying not to cough and wake the baby up. Baby's snoring and dad's snoring I check the monitor for him because I can hear him on it . Seriously tired and fed up, if I ever build my own house I would have basement with a bed to hide in during the summer .... Also my husband has a job in the morning so I do the nights

6 month old still Hates the car

She’s in the front (rear facing) give me any tips even tho I’m sure I’ve tried them all (yes I printed a picture of my face for her to look at ahahhahah)

Bedtime

What time is your LO bedtime? What time is their last nap?
I feel we always missed her bedtime or we are super early. It takes me 60-90mim to put her down. I usually start from 8-830.

Newborn tracking

Hey ladies, what’s some free apps for iPhones that track feedings, diapers, and sleep?

0-1 yr old babies sleep

How did/does yours sleep?

I honestly don’t know what to do 😭

My fiancé and I have always disagreed about when our daughter should start sleeping in her crib. She’s 3 months old now, and he really wants her to start sleeping in her crib because neither of us is getting enough sleep with her sleeping with me. And honestly, I completely understand where he’s coming from. I know we’re both exhausted and something probably needs to change eventually.

But I’m genuinely scared.

I’ve co-slept with her since she was about a week old. We tried the bassinet when she was little, but she absolutely hated it and would not settle in it. She got used to sleeping with me, and honestly, I got used to having her right beside me too. As exhausting as it can be, I actually sleep better when she’s next to me because I can hear her breathing, feel her moving, and check on her constantly.

Her crib is in her own room right next to ours, and I do have a baby monitor, so I know I would be able to see and hear her. But honestly, that still doesn’t completely ease my mind. I’m terrified of SIDS, and the thought of her being in another room while I’m asleep scares me so much. I feel like I would wake up constantly checking the monitor and wondering if she’s breathing, if she needs me, if something happened, or if I’m not going to hear her.

I always pictured waiting until at least around 6 months before trying to transition her, but now I’m questioning whether I’m being unreasonable. I know there’s never going to be a point where I’m completely free of worry because I’m her mom and I’m always going to worry about her. But she’s still so little, and I’m just not ready emotionally to have her sleeping away from me.

At the same time, I know my fiancé has a point. Neither of us getting enough sleep isn’t sustainable either, and I don’t want our exhaustion to start affecting us or our relationship. I just don’t want to make a decision out of exhaustion and then spend every night terrified that something is going to happen to my baby.

I feel completely stuck because I understand both sides. I want her to be safe, I want us both to get some sleep, but I also want to listen to my mom instincts. I’m not trying to keep her from her crib forever. I just don’t know when the right time is, and I’m honestly scared to make the wrong decision.

Am I being overly anxious about this, or did anyone else feel this way when their baby was around 3 months old? 😭 I could really use some advice from other moms who have been through this because I genuinely don’t know what to do.

20 months and no words still

20 months old today and still no words 😞 she says mama and dada and baba but all at different times with no meaning. When she cries she says mamamama which i think is for me because when her dad picks her up she still does it until I’ve got her.
I’m feeling really down about it.
I’m waiting to hear from SALT and we have a paediatrician booked for early September. Just wondered who else was in the same boat?