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Car seat question

I am 32 weeks pregnant and prepping hospital bags, I have written on my list don't forget the carseat! Which has made me think about the fact the carseat I have is just a buckle in one, not an isofix. It's got me wondering, how will the hospital go about it and is it something they'll be bothered by?
I do not drive nor does my partner so we didn't see the point of buying an isofix fancy car seat but I'm not sure how the hospital deals with them. It's fully safety tested and it's an i-size, R129 certified carseat and came as part of a travel system.
I suppose my question is will the hospital have a problem sending me home with my baby in that carseat?
Very random and probably a very stupid question but I'm now sat here over thinking this 😂😅
Picture for reference :)

Best pouches UK

I need to buy some pouches for my 10 month old to take away on holiday. Which are the best ones in the UK please?

Can’t put baby down

Anyone else having this too? I can’t put baby down for two mins without him screaming, feels like I can’t do anything. Literally shower or go to the toilet I bring the bouncer in so he’s next to me and he still screams until I hold him 😔
My first child wasn’t like this, hope it’s just a phase but it’s been going on for the past three weeks going abir stir crazy

Missed a interview for a job

So I had a car accident last month and was told I have a concussion
So I tend to forget many things now
My interview was at 10 am and I say it under my calendar as 1 pm
So do I explain I have a concussion and want to reschedule this interview?
Anything in the comments will help

Routines

Does anyone else NOT have a night time (or even day time) routine, and just pure winging it?

My baby is 14 weeks and we absolutely have no routine, but he has no feeds after his 11.30pm feed until around 8am, which sound lush, but he struggles with wind still so he’s up (and I am) 80% of the night with wind issues. However, I don’t even know where to start with a night time routine, as he doesn’t sleep well through the day, so when he’s asleep in the evening, I don’t want to disrupt him to start a night routine when he’s likely to be woken up annoyed, as he is always in a state of over tired ness

Any advice? Should I implement something or let the poor boy SLEEP😅

Would it be a deal breaker for you ..

If you had a “partner” that never sleeps early, and got the kids to school late more days than not. They are always late because he’s incapable of waking on time. Would you leave the relationship?

Leaving house alone with baby

Does anyone struggle leaving the house or being out and about alone with baby? Mine is still eating every 2-3 hours (little and often, HV has given her the okay), but it takes an hour to finish the bottle and another 30 mins to hold her upright so that she’s not sick. So sometimes there is only 1 or 1.5 hours between feeds. I dread going out because I spend the first 1.5 hours of the outing sat in a cafe feeding/holding her. Then we can shop for an hour or so before running off home for her next feed, else we will be stuck in the cafe for another 1.5 hours. Also feel we can’t walk anywhere, we need to drive, to make sure we can get home quickly in time for the next bottle or we will be stuck out of the house for another 1.5 hours for the feed. Baby groups - she usually ends up feeding at them, then I need to hold her upright for the 30 mins so we end up not doing the class activity.

I do try to time her feeds in line with our daily plans but it does not always work out.

Has anyone else been through similar? I really feel it’s ruining our time out - I feel guilty she’s not getting out as often as she should cos I am so worried about her feeds.

Baby Blues

Really struggling with baby blues and how fast they came on, I’m usually very in check with my emotions but this is wild ! Anyone else have shared experiences with these ? I’m very lucky and my husband is the backbone to everything and is extremely supportive and has taken everything on so we can recover and he is amazing. But these hormones dips are crazy even with the support ! Curious on others experiences and to make sure it’s not just me feeling the feels !

Bras after babies

I’m looking for the best bras for saggy, old worn our tatties that have breasted two babies! I’m a curvy gal and I need back support for the rolls and support for these spaniel’s ears also. I’ve tried M&S Flexifit and they still look haggard. Please and thanks in advance for suggestions!

Baby girl crying everyday

My baby is 3 months old and literally screams everyday from about 3pm pretty much till she falls asleep at 7-8pm, it’s heartbreaking because she’s almost inconsolable, I got so stressed I had to put her down in her buggy and walk away from her for 1 minute but then when I came back literally 60 seconds later she had fallen asleep now I have insane guilt that I’ve just let her cry herself to sleep and I’ve never ever done that in the years I’ve had my eldest so my heart has just broken! Is anyone else’s baby doing this if so what do you do to help them! I feel like the worst mum

Exclusively pumping help!

I’m bottle feeding expressed milk to 17 week old baby, have done since we left the hospital. I’ve always pumped milk whilst feeding him because that’s just what has worked.

Now that he is in his grabbing stage, he’s starting to pull at my pumps whilst he is feeding. Not only is it annoying because it stops the pumping, it really hurts!

I can’t manage pumping after feeding him because he needs to be kept upright for a bit after feeds for his reflux, but also can’t pump when he naps because some of the pumps are contact naps. I also don’t like yo pump when he’s doing tummy time/in his play gym because if he cries my pumps physically stop me from being able to pick him up.

Basically I just want to know how other people are managing to keep up with pumping throughout the day whilst home alone with the baby? When are you pumping?

Please offer any suggestions because I’m at a point where I’m considering a switch to formula purely for the logistics of not pumping 😢

Post Partum Depression

I’m 32 weeks, and I’ve been struggling with on and off prenatal anxiety and depression. It makes me super worried about post partum, does anyone have any advice on how to prevent or reduce the symptoms?

Tattoo

I have an unfinished tattoo that I’m eager to get finished. However, I am currently pregnant but wondering If postpartum will be okay to do while breast feeding. Has anyone else done this?

My baby cry’s after feeding

Does anyone know why my baby would cry after feeding? Burped throughly and comforted, kept upright for 20 mins or so.

Good moisturiser?

Been using Aveeno which was always great for my son but doesn’t seem to be doing the job with my daughter. She’s 12 weeks

Unwanted nappies and clothes

Ladies in south west London can you recommend any place I can donate nappies and baby clothes? My little one grows so quick I got plenty of brand new clothes or clothes worn once for newborn plus size one diapers 180 box

Baby really unsettled in the evenings

FTM looking for advice! My nearly 4 week old is really good during the day, sleeps well and only really cries when he’s hungry or dirty nappy. However we get to about 7pm and he just becomes so miserable and fights trying to fall asleep and just cries. Tonight he stayed awake from 5.30 to 9pm and only had probably 20 mins of sleep during this time because he just kept fighting it. Every time he drifted off to sleep he was awake crying within a few minutes.
I brought him up to bed at 9pm and he’s basically fallen asleep straight away on my chest….. but what am I doing wrong?? Do I need to bring him to bed as soon as he starts getting unhappy.
Any advice is appreciated

Rant #2

Does anyone else’s partner struggle with sexual resentment?
I’m almost 9 months postpartum, I had a 2nd degree tear and my scar is still thin and very sensitive. I’m exclusively breastfeeding so because of my hormones I have absolutely no desire for sex and my scar being sore sometimes just makes my desire less.
Despite this I still try to have sex with my husband once a week even though we spend no quality time together. If we skip a week or if he goes a little too long without sex he gets resentful and grumpy and makes me feel like I’m not doing enough.
He said he’s trying to understand but he has “needs”.

Feeling obligated to have sex makes me want it even less. Now I feel like I’m stuck between just do it and deal with it because I’ll eventually go back to normal and if I force myself it’s going to build resentment on my side and my desire for my husband will go away all together. What do I do? What do you guys do when this happens? I know this is common and normal after a baby