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MIL seriously ill

We have just found out my MIL has cancer. We are devastated, trying to process it, honestly I'm still in shock. The woman is one of the healthiest people I knew up until this.
I have a two year old and a 9 month old. I'm trying to support my husband as best I can but I'm really concerned about my 2 year old. We took her to the hospital to see her grandma before she goes on the chemo ward, because kids aren't allowed on there for risk of infection. Totally understand that but how do I explain to her where grandma has gone or why she can't see her? She's already picking up on the vibe that things aren't right and she's worried and clingy, I've told her grandma is poorly and she's at the Dr in bed so they can make her healthy again. I didn't loose a grandparent until I was 7 and by then I'd had two hamsters so I kinda understood what death was. But how do you talk about that without scaring the shit out of a younger child. I'm trying to stay positive but if it comes to that how do I tell her. I told her it's normal for people to feel sad sometimes and daddy is crying because he's sad that grandma is poorly. It's so horrible I just don't know what to do or say to help either of them. We are gonna take it in turns to visit her going forward, try to keep her company. It's going to be a hard few months ahead. Any advice on any of it really appreciated.

First hair cut - feeling annoyed and upset

What would you do?
My partner took our little girl to my mums, after just coming to pick her up, no heads up, so that ruined the plans i already had with her, they have just got home and i found out my aunt cut her hair. Her first haircut and i missed it because no one told me, didn’t even ask if it was ok, i have made it clear so many times i want to be there when she has her first haircut cut. And this wish was denied. I feel upset that i missed it but mainly annoyed. Am i being silly?

Healthy start card

Anyone else find it weird that the amount you get from the healthy start card drops after your child turns 1?
Before 1 : £34 a month
After 1 : £18.60 as month

Nappies

Hello all, my little girl 8 months old sleeps through the night but wakes up soaking wet in the morning where her nappy has leaked through to her clothes. I’ve tried Aldi, Lidl, Tesco, and pampers and they all leak….does anyone have any other brands that might work 🤷🏽‍♀️

Baby stopped babbling?

Has anyone else’s baby stopped babbling? My little girl is 8 months old and used to babble a little but now doesn’t. She squeals and laughs though.

Not sure what I can do to encourage her or what has happened to cause her babbling to stop.

She’s also not super into trying to crawl either, just leans forward every now and then. I feel like I’m failing her in some way but I don’t know how.

6-8 week GP check

Do I need to ring my GP to arrange our 6-8 week check or do they/should they be in touch with an appointment?

I have my HV 6-8week appt date ☺️

This is the worst app for community or advice

You can’t even ask a genuine question seeking advice or maybe just to realize something new because someone just has to be negative. We’re supposed to be supportive of each other but instead there certain women being competitive and taking their pain out on others and I’m honestly sick of seeing it and dealing with it. Some people don’t have a village some people can’t leave there house for medical or other personal reasons. We don’t need some know it all bitch to tell anyone that they’re blaming their problems on others when you don’t even know them. I just hope you have to run into someone exactly like you and they give you the compassion and grace you shower others( which is none) but the acting authoritative and talking down to people has got to stop and you know exactly who you are. Dumb comments will be deleted

Help

I don’t know what to do my 5mo won’t let me put him down. Not when he’s awake or asleep. I have so much to do but he just screams at me 😩.

Potty training car seat

I’m currently using a puppy pad and a tea towel to protect the car seat but didn’t want it to interfere with how the seat works. Does anyone have any other recommendations? Do any of those protectors work?

Sleeping

Hey is it normal for my 13 week old to be sleeping 8:30pm till 7/7:30am? She’s having 5-6oz of milk every 3hrs during the day but everyone always says baby’s never sleep through and she is, I’m loving it but it also terrifies me lmao, I have to check she’s breathing like 8 times before I fall asleep and then wake up every 2hrs to do a quick check I think that’s just anxiety tho

Newborn dummy

My baby girl is 3 weeks on Friday and won’t take a dummy I’ve tried 3 types as much as I don’t want her to get in the habit of having it I feel like it will sooth her and I’ve heard it can be good at this age. What dummies did you try?

Co sleeping at 6 months?

Looking for a bit of solidarity I guess!

I have mum guilt at the moment because I keep seeing friends/ people I know on social media and their babies are in their own rooms in their cots.
I almost feel guilty or like I’m holding myself and my baby back by still co sleeping every night?
We started co sleeping because he’s never settled in his crib and to be honest I lack the willpower to try and break it.

The thought of baby being in his own room also freaks me out, I worry that he’d miss me or be sad if I started putting him in his cot in his room? I worry that if he wakes up alone at night he’ll ref really upset.
Am I falling behind by co sleeping or missing out on sleep? LO only wakes up 2/3 times a night? He’s EBF.

Thankyou!

Sharing room/ 1 bed room flat

Hi all, looking for some hints, tips and inspiration if you share a room with your baby after 6 months. I'm a single mama in a 1 bedroom flat (about to get on property ladder here so will be here for a couple years until I can upsize)

My LO is 4 months now so planning ahead. Have a large living room so half tempted to put a sofa bed in there for me if she's noisy 🤣
Thanks x

Car Seat Advice

So we have the MB450 LUXE 3-in-1 Travel System with Base - Black this is how the car seat is on the base (the base is solid and all the tabs are green) should there be this much movement? The woman in the shop said it’s ok? I am just not convinced has anyone else had this?

Breast feeding

Hi my baby is 3 weeks. I’m
Pumping and getting enough for my feeds. When I breast feed she falls asleep and then wakes up soon after so I assume not full. I would rather simply breast feed. Any tips?

Other people holding baby

How are we dealing with other people holding our babies? I don't want anyone to hold him, if I'm being honest. My MIL broke the cardinal "no kissing" rule when he was less than a month old. Now I don't trust anyone other than my husband and best friend (who's been super understanding because she has her own babies).

My family is making jokes about giving him kisses on his forehead, feet, arms, etc. Since I've been super specific about not kissing his cheeks, mouth, or hands.... Like I just wish people could use some common sense and realize that one, it's super creepy that they can't control themselves or as they say "resist him"... And two, just don't kiss him at all. I'm clearly bothered by it.

I'm latina so I feel like other latinas will understand what I'm going thru. This 💩 is so annoying!!!! Ugh!!!!

Co sleeping help/advice

My baby is 6 months old and has always been in his ‘next to me’ crib- he goes through phases (probably when he is poorly or teething) where he doesn’t go down….i am interested in trying co sleeping but wouldn’t know where to start! Any help and tips on best set up/practice would be appreciated x

Am I being selfish?

So cut a long story short I already have 2 kids to 2 baby daddies. Neither relationship is good and neither of them see the kids. I recently met someone and thought I had fallen in love we haven’t been together long only 3 months but I’ve know him 15 years cut a long story short in our relationship we had talks of having more kids moving in together and me not going on contraception because he didn’t want my moods and cycles to mess up. I didnt realise it at the time but I was being love bombed by a narcissist. One day he woke up and decided to ghost me. A few days after I find out I’m pregnant I’ve told him and I’ve had. I response to any messages or phone calls. He’s not saying to get rid of the baby or anything just total silence. My question is would I be selfish to have the baby?

What a shitty birthday

So on my birthday my husband had a mental break and went to hospital, he wouldnt let me go with him, his friend overstepped alot during this time and went with him insisting he knew him better than me, i was 32 weeks pregnant, after 2 days if him doing this, panicking and going to the hospital mental health ward i had the most awful sleep if i slept and i was so run down and crying worrying i was going to have this baby alone, so on the 3rd day he goes to the hospital and i insist on going with him, i take him in i go get a check up for my anxiety make sure babies okay, i take him home and then something my gut just plummets and i ask him " did you have sex with someone else" he starts shaking and crying and just nods his head, i am enraged, destraught and i feel awful but i just wanted the baby out of me, i feel bad that my first instinct was just to take the baby out because i cant cope with this and that right now, he asked me not to tell anyone i told him he had no right to ask that and hed be lucky for me not to tell our families,

We are still currently working through this because i just feel like he was my person, but i just can not bring myself to be intimate at all, I am also 5 months post partum and had a Episiotomy and assisted birth so I am still tender, so at this point I cant separate the hurt feelings from what I have heard is just regular birth recovery and im wondering if I will ever want to want again.

Pre school vaccinations!!!!😡😡

My son was given his pre school vaccine today. Which is the 4 in 1 booster vaccine. A while later the doctor phoned and said she had given him the wrong one and had given him the 6 in 1 vaccination that she was sorry and there’s no cause for concern that he will have extra dosage of what he wasn’t supposed to get! Tried to reassure me but I’m so angry about this and getting worse the more I think about how dangerous the situation could have been! Everyone makes mistakes but when it comes to trusting what your child is being given by doctors this is an absolute disgrace!!! Has this happened anybody? What would you do? I’ve googled and it says it’s fine and not to worry but I’m just so angry and hate myself for letting this happen and trusting the doctor on what she’s give to my child