Struggling to make a decision
Hello. Prior to pregnancy I suffered from depression, PTSD, and anxiety. Now that I am 10 weeks postpartum and preparing to return to work I'm realizing how much my depression and anxiety are hitting. I exclusively breastfeed my daughter and am now torn with the decision of getting back on Lexapro (which works wonders) or continuing to do therapy weekly and try to manage the depression without meds. All medical professionals I've spoken with and my husband stress that the benefits outweigh the risks if it's needed but that now has me questioning how much is it needed. I'm not at my lowest (I don't want to hit my low) but I'm also scared of the risks. To say very small amounts are passed to baby but monitor for drowsiness, fussiness, changes in appetite, and then withdrawal makes me feel like there is more than a very small amount getting to baby. Has anyone used this medication while nursing? Is anyone else going through similar? I'm so torn and feel so alone because I don't have much support when it comes to this. Thank you all for the safe place to vent 💕
Am I overreacting??
Okay so I like my MIL. I’ll just start with that. But I feel like the dynamic has just changed so much between us. Before my hubby and I got married, she and I were pretty close, she was welcoming, etc. Since we got married 2 years ago, that changed a bit but that’s to be expected. And now that we have a 9 month old son together, I just feel like it’s been somewhat tense. At least for me. She wants to babysit more often, which I get, because this is her first grandchild, but I’m not sure I trust her anymore. I feel like she’s almost trying to pretend that he’s her son or something. For context, my husband is definitely her favorite of her two sons and she’s had some issues letting him go. Honestly most of that is fine, I get it. But she loves to call my son “my baby.” And she’ll call my husband her “sweet baby boy,” which to me is wayyy too much. He’s an adult. And I know this is just her trying to express her love so I let it roll off my back, but it’s still annoying sometimes. His whole family loves to be passive aggressive and will make comments about how they never see us, or miss the baby, or whatever. (We definitely visit or see them at least once a month, so it’s not like they haven’t seen us) They RARELY ever initiate to get together, but will blame us for not planning anything. Anyways. Whatever. I guess I just don’t know what to do with this… she recently said to my son (in front of my husband and me) that’s she’s so excited to babysit and do things together that “your parents won’t know about!” Like…. What?! My hubby and I just kind of looked at each other, stunned. It was weird. She also loves to make comments about how when he gets older she can teach him about mental health and blah blah blah. It just bothers me that it seems like she’s trying to have a secret-ish type relationship with him or something. I know he’s only 9 months but it’s still weird to me. So I don’t really want her to babysit. She’s babysat once and it went fine, but after those comments and the way she acts, it just bothers me. She also was talking behind my back to my husband basically saying that I wasn’t doing enough for him as a SAHM, which I found incredibly disrespectful. He defended me, just everything has been bothering me. Does it sound like I’m overreacting?
Sorry for the gigantic paragraph, yikes.
Mum Guilt After My 6-Week-Old Baby Fell on the Floor
I’m really upset and struggling with a lot of mum guilt right now. My six-week-old baby loves sleeping on my chest, especially when we’re lying on the bed. Lately I’ve been extremely sleep deprived and haven’t been getting much rest. This morning at around 3:45 a.m., I woke up to a loud thump followed by my baby crying. When I opened my eyes, I realised he had fallen onto the floor. I was absolutely devastated.
I immediately called 111 and took him straight to A&E. Thankfully, he was examined by the doctors and discharged, and they reassured me that he was fine.
Normally, if I’m lying down with him, I put him back in his cot or beside me once he’s settled. I honestly don’t remember falling asleep. The last thing I remember is patting him to sleep, and then I woke up to hear him crying on the floor.
Seeing my six-week-old baby lying there broke my heart. I can’t stop replaying the moment in my mind and blaming myself for what happened. I know it was an accident, but I feel terrible.
My baby struggles with reflux and hates sleeping in his cot, which is why he often settles best when he’s on me. However, after this scare, I’m determined to be much more careful and make sure he’s sleeping in a safe space, even if it’s more difficult and means less sleep for me.
I’m just feeling incredibly guilty and upset about the whole situation.
Anxiety over nursery
I am dreading my little girl starting nursery! Not because it won’t be good for her, because I am scared to death of leaving her anyway but if she cries, I’ll walk out with her. I honestly will not cope.
I can’t be away from her now but if she cries at drop off…. this is something that keeps me awake at night, aswell as her waking!
She doesn’t start until Sept (had to start early to reserve her place), I’m due to start back at work end of Oct so I do have time for her the settle in and I’m around if she needs me. She also only be doing a couple of hours each week while I’m not at work. I still want my time with her.
I’m also worried that if she’s poorly/needs picking up and I’m at work and my husband can’t get there straight away - she’s not comfortable with anyone else, grandparents etc.
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