Postpartum Care

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Can’t Keep Your Cool? Surviving Postpartum Rage Without Losing Your Mind

Tassia O'Callaghan

What’s an Epidural Headache & How Can I Treat It?

Katie Mill

Your Complete Guide to the 4th Trimester

Tassia O'Callaghan

First Night Home from the NICU: What to Expect

Dr. Frankie Harrison

Postpartum Discharge: How Long Does It Last?

Keshia Sophia Roelofs

Postpartum Workout Plan Tips: How to Start and Why

Keshia Sophia Roelofs

Postpartum Preeclampsia: Risks, Symptoms, and Treatment

Keshia Sophia Roelofs

Postpartum Hemorrhoids: What You Need to Know

Deborah Vieyra

What is Postpartum Thyroiditis? Triggers and Treatment

Keshia Sophia Roelofs

Why Do I Get Postpartum Night Sweats?

Deborah Vieyra

40 Postpartum Essentials for Mom After Birth

Tassia O'Callaghan

Postpartum Diet: Top Tips On What to Eat After Birth

Keshia Sophia Roelofs

All You Need to Know About a Vaginal Tear

Keshia Sophia Roelofs

Sex After a C-Section: 6 Things You Need to Know

Keshia Sophia Roelofs

What are the Possible Postpartum Complications?

Deborah Vieyra

What’s Causing My Postpartum Headache?

Keshia Sophia Roelofs

From the community

Recent discussions

Am I doing things wrong?

My friend and her mum just came round to see me and my 5 month old and every time they tried to hold her she cried with real tears. She does this with everyone at the moment unless its me or my partner or my sister for some reason. My friend who has no kids said you need to leave the room as she spends too much time with you and the mum said I need to spend time away from her regularly which i said I can't as a breastfeed. They asked how we slept to which I said co sleep and she wakes quite a lot in the night and the mum said that her crying with others is my fault, that i need to be tougher and let her cry as she will struggle when shes goes to nursery. Friend also doesnt get why i cant go out in the evenings which i said is because of breastfeeding and cosleeping and to be honest I just don't want to. Doothers agree with them? I dont leave my baby at all, 1 hour max with my husband and I sleep with her and cuddle her when she cries in night. Am I doing it wrong and will she struggle at nursery when shes one? 😭

4 months pp feelings

4 months in and still don’t feel myself..
Every day I’m waking up and just waiting for my partner to get home. Feeling lonely constantly..

love my baby so much but he still doesn’t do a lot so sometimes (often) feel like monkey running around him so he doesn’t cry.. wish he was bigger so we could have a chat, I could at least have some conversation with him.

I thought it will get easier but feeling still the same as I felt before.
Maybe I wasn’t made to be a mother.
I see all these mothers so happy walking around and feel like I’m a bad mother even though I give all the attention to my baby so I know he feels loved for sure.

When will I start feeling better?
To add to this, Baby sleeping 11 hours at night with 1 feed only but I barely sleep so I’m exhausted (I just wake up at night for no reason and struggling to fall asleep)

Is anyone feeling the same? Mothers with more than one child - did you feel like this with your first one and it passed at some point?

Have you ever had a post partum plan?

I mean written down like you would a birth plan and getting your partner on board. Not just preferences for after birth like baby bath, but I mean for example taking care of yourself - or better yet who's there taking care of you and how during those vulnerable weeks when you can only sleep when baby sleeps and can't find time to take a shower!

Self care tips

I’m tired of the role of a mum ? I love my baby and enjoy being her mum but I’m tired of all the work that comes with it. It’s so much effort being a mother, and it’s 24/7. Even when I’m asleep there is a part of my brain that is still on high alert and can hear every shuffle , and feel breathing changes and temperature changes etc.
I’ve had a couple hours away from my baby but I spent that time thinking about what I need to do for my baby when she gets back !

What do people do to switch off and recharge? I desperately need to reset but I don’t know how

i’m about to totally lose it on my best friend

at the end of last month, my best friend cam to stay with my husband and i until our new baby is born to help with my toddler, since i’m super pregnant and struggling. but the issue is she really hasn’t helped much at all. she’s constantly annoyed with my son for picking up and playing with her things even though she leaves them within his reach despite us offering to move them to a place he can’t get to. she refuses to do dishes because it “makes her nauseous” and she doesn’t want to watch the toddler because he just cries for mama the whole time. she leaves her things all around our already small and cluttered space and in all honesty i feel disrespected in my home. i spent all night cleaning last night. i mean disinfecting and mopping and everything and by the time i wake up and come out of my bedroom the entire apartment is a complete disaster. she leaves her vapes around where my son can reach them. she dyed her hair and left the mess in the bathtub for me to get down on my hands and knees to clean up by myself at 37 weeks pregnant. i love her but i am so enraged i’ve thought about kicking her out and making her go home. i understand she doesn’t know what it’s like to be pregnant or what it’s like to be a mom but i expected HELP from her and now i’m just cleaning up after, cooking for, and taking care of another person on top of my husband and my son while heavily pregnant. i had an absolute meltdown yesterday and sobbed like i havent since i was a teenager. im so exhausted and i feel so taken advantage of and angry, betrayed, sad. i don’t know what to do anymore. she lives states away and can’t drive herself home because she doesn’t have a license. i’m losing it. please help.

I don’t think my husband is taking his meds

My husband has bipolar disorder. He was on Vraylar but when he got a new job the company that they use benefits for denied his authorization for approval to get the medication. He sent in so much paperwork saying that he’s been on this particular medication for 10 years and they still denied him. So his doctor put him on something else and it makes you sleepy so you have to take it at night.

When he was without his medicine for close to a month he had a manic episode and we were arguing every other day. He started going through my iPad and argued with me about pictures that were in my email from 2010 from an ex boyfriend. I didn’t meet my husband until 2020 so idk why he would be upset about something that was 10 years before he even existed in my life. Also he’s been accusing me of cheating when I’ve never cheated on him but he has cheated on me when I was pregnant with both of our boys.

Today he got mad because he went through my cashapp and saw my cousin sent me $100 last month for my birthday and wanted to know why I didn’t tell him and give him some of the money. For context I’m a SAHM and he is a Cyber Security Engineer who makes $160k/yr. I feel like if someone gave him money for his birthday I wouldn’t ask him for it.

So because of that he pulled all of the money out of the shared account and I have to ask him for money I would need for the kids, groceries, cleaning supplies etc. The reason I don’t think he’s taking the medicine is because he’s been starting arguments and asking about shit from 6 yrs ago. I love him but I can’t take how mean he is when he’s not on his meds. Idk what to do. Honestly this is making me wish I never met or had kids with him.

Am I being silly?

So I have a 4 year old who is a very girly girl. She has asked me to get her perfume that she can wear now and again but where do I even start?

I was diagnosed with PPA/PPD after she was born and it honestly gives me so much anxiety that perfume will really harm her.

Am I being silly? 🫣

Please be honest because I do feel like I’m a little too strict sometimes due to my anxiety and I don’t want that to impact her as she grows up.

Supportive partner

What does a supportive partner look like when you have bipolar disorder and anxiety and are a sahm to a 20 month old. I only have depressive episodes not manic episodes

Anyone else feeling quite emotional at the moment?

I don’t know if it’s my hormones or what but I feel so emotional. I cried 4 times yesterday for no reason. I’ve cried twice today for no absolute reason, I just feel really emotional.

Postpartum depression?

How do you know what's depression Vs just circumstance?

I'm feeling low but surely that's normal- as not sleeping due to regression, in the trenches with baby and toddler and partner roommate vibes. No money etc.
Not wanting to leave the house or do anything but surely that's lack of energy due to exhaustion?

Just feel a bit numb to It all. Is this normal?

Hair loss

The postpartum hair loss is getting out of hand. Any tips for what can help? 😣

Wrist Pain

Anyone experienced severe wrist pain postpartum? 12 weeks and severe wrist pain continues! Tried ice and hot compressions.

Struggling to accept

I have one of each and I’m pregnant with my 3rd and it’s a boy. I’m so desperately sad that I won’t have a girl again. I’m trying to come to terms with it and I’m just having flashbacks of my time with my daughter and it makes me sad that I won’t ever get to experience that again. My son has been a rough baby compared to my daughter. I’m just worried I’m gonna have a rough time with the new baby like I did with my son. This is my LAST baby and I’m angry and sad that this is it. How do I accept this? I’m hate change and always thought I would have two girls.

Feeling Not myself

Hello, My name is Tatiyanna and I am 23 years old and married, also currently 6 months postpartum. I have been feeling not like my self. Been trying to work on my overall health. Which has been feeling so overwhelming for some reason and I never had a problem like this before. I keep comparing myself to other women every time I go out in public I know my husband loves me, but sometimes I don’t like the way I look and feel about myself so which causes me to project my thoughts onto him. I’m struggling with my weight. I’m currently waiting 240 which I’ve never weighed that much before always been between 150 to 160. I love my child. I just feel like I lost myself. And I currently don’t have that much support for how far I live from my family. I just don’t know what to do.

Intense Constant Braxton Hicks

I’ve honestly lost count how many I’ve had today and they are sooooo uncomfortable and starting to hurt. Been getting them non stop all day and evening and especially tonight I’ve noticed I’m not getting a break from them. Anyone else? 😭 (this is my third baby and I’ve never had them like this before)

Mismatched libido

Anyone else's partner have little to no libido? I feel like a nun at this point. Bedsharing with my little one, and we're in separate rooms but we absolutely have opportunities when it's just us two on an evening and he is just not interested! I feel quite unattractive since pregnancy as I gained a lot of weight, which I've lost all of but combined with the section I've been left with an apron belly and saggy breastfeeding boobs. Probably just want to have somewhere to moan about it really. I feel sexually repressed!

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