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I need to know all the secrets Mama especially those mamas who are over the age of 35. During postpartum did you have a problem with shedding like your hair constantly falling out or thinning? No matter what I do or take or anything my hair will not go back to being full again. I haven't had full hair since my second oldest daughter was born. I'm on birth control. I take prenatals I use anti thinning hair care system. I'm doing it all. I'm getting stressed out because this is crap. What are your go-to secrets now? I'm going to say this as a n FYI I have psoriasis on my scalp due to allergies so I need sensitive friendly

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Good baby

I just wanna see if there’s any mums who are actually having a good time with happy
Babies that sleep well. Eat well. Play well ?
I feel like I’m shamed in mum groups when I don’t share the same problems. I know we’re lucky. And we take each day as it comes. There’s been ups and downs but she is a happy baby who isn’t much trouble. But I’ll scared to say the truth in mum groups because they all look so judgey and cross that she’s just an easier baby than my friends. I don’t take it for granted. Like I said we take each day as it comes knowing our luck could run out but I’m tired of being shamed for it. I have a good baby. She sleeps 12 hrs at night without waking. She eats well. She’s so bright and meeting milestones early. She naps in the day and rarely scream cries.
Don’t get me wrong. The first few weeks were rough but I just wanna be able to share that she’s good I’m good and not feel shamed to share it.

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Advice pleasee

I know the answer to this, but I really need to show my husband because he doesn't seem to understand boundaries or anything about postpartum and what women go through.

I had my little one last week. We asked his family not to visit for the first two weeks (because they live in a different country and would need to stay over). His sisters turned up outside our door uninvited TWO DAYS after giving birth. I was in so much shock and fuming - i felt completely violated. Instead of my husband being on my side, he stopped speaking to me for three days... I had just given birth, and he hadn't said a word to me.
He said I'm trying to cause "war". I'm bleeding, going through so many changes and needed him by my side - how am I causing war?
He sides with them for everything. They laugh and joke, and I get silent treatment, when I need him the most.
When it comes to them, I am always wrong and they are always right. He won't even try to understand or care about my feelings when his family are involved. It's been like this throughout my whole two pregnancies - I feel completely robbed of my experience of pregnancy. 😔

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Anxiety going out on my own

Hi everyone so my baby is 5 months old and I took him to a nearby shopping centre to meet some friends and he screamed the whole round and I just felt so closed in , frustrated and anxious that everyone were staring at me luckily my partner was there and he was the calm one who held him while I had a minute but I think that if I was on my own when he was like that I would have really struggled and it’s completely knocked my confidence with going out on my own with him. Does anyone else have anxiety like this how do I get over it?

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Feeling like a failure

Anybody else really struggling at this stage? I’m 26 weeks pregnant and have a nearly 3 year old. Oh my goodness everything is hard. From back pain to patience and feel like a really bad mum. I’m so irritable when I used to have a lot more patience. I struggle on days when hubby is in work. And struggle to get her out the house to entertain her. I feel like I’m failing her. Not really sure what I’m asking for but needed to get off my chest.

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3 weeks post partum I’ll be 1 month Wednesday

I only get sad at night and become very numb and don’t want to be around anyone, don’t want to talk. Anyone else experiencing this and what do you do to help yourself? And what can your partner do to help?

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soooo mama’s how are we doing our hair for labor, and even as important- postpartum?

everyone keeps telling me to get braids and while i understand the maintenance and all. i don’t feel all that beautiful in braids. & postpartum is a time where ima be feeling crazy so least my hair can maybe keep me in touch with my sense of self… idk i been overthinking this for days and i dont have much time😭 im overwhelmed.

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Child haters going to her dads…

What should I do, my child is 10 coming upto 11 years old she’s always not liked going to her dads since being a toddler but when her dad and new partner had another baby in 2017 it progressively got worse she loved it at first until the child reached 4/5 years of age. And now she completely HATES going she cry’s before going and she’s very angry when she returns on the Sunday she’s expressively said it’s not her had but how the dynamic is with her half sister. She constantly asks me to lie and make things up for her not to go on weekends she’s told him once she did not want to go and he made her feel awful about it so she doesn’t like speaking to him about things.

I’m unsure what I can do without upsetting dad or daughter because he will definitely have a word with her if I was to say anything but on the other hand I’m soo fed up of seeing how unhappy my child is when it comes to going there.

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Did anyone else’s epidural not work?

Writing retrospectively here. I had a epidural with my 1st baby in 2025 and it pretty much had no effect, I was in absolute agony the whole time (hours). Anyone else experience this?

Midwife now says this isn’t normal and I shouldn’t have been in pain.
Due my 2nd in 6 weeks and debating weather I should go for one again. 😣

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Withdrawal symptoms

Has anyone experienced withdrawal after leaving their partner? It’s like I was on drugs or something! The angry fog is lifting after months and i just miss them so damn much 😭I keep going back and forth. I love him, I hate him, we need him in our lives, we are better off without him. I don’t know how to stop it

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Marriage tension after 2nd baby?

How is everyone’s marriage/relationship after their second baby?? Mine is struggling and I have no idea what to do. I am miserable. Not cos of my marriage. Cos of the arguments, lack of sleep, and a second baby that cries 90% of the time.

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need advice!

so i’m about 34 weeks with my first baby 🥳🥳 i have these friends who seem to care more about the baby than they do actually being friends with me ( i met them early in my pregnancy)… one of the girls even implied that their fiancées would be the fathers of my baby… im a single mom and she kept talking about how my daughter would be damaged severely. i dont know my biological father but i grew up with an amazing stepdad who later adopted me. the other girl has her wedding 11 days before my due date and has invited me but im conflicted on if i should even go cause 1. it’s so close to my due date and theres a huge chance she’s going to be early and 2. they honestly make me feel awful. they both came to my gender reveal and talked about morbid stuff on the couch the whole time and when it came to talking me they talked about themselves the whole time and that’s the same way with when we hang out.

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Whew

I literally have to stop at this very moment and just release it here as my thoughts are eating me alive and making me feel so anxious.

I separated with my ex partner last year. I have been able to stand back bit by bit but at times i just spiral back. . LIKE NOW!

From the feeling of isolation, when most people left u (from family to friends) when u most needed them.

My mind is in a constant battle to be strong for my daughter but at the same time all other thoughts (isolation, questioning myself what happened during my younger years and why i didnt manage to do a lot of things i want etc etc)

Sorry i just feel so overwhelmed and spiraling down always.

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Post partum hair regrowth!

Mums can we just gather here😂😩…

Please tell me I’m not alone. A few months after having my baby I lost quite a lot of hair particularly around the whole edge of my head.
I’m 13 months pp and as much as I’m happy it is growing back I’m stuck with all these short bits all around my head and a brand new fringe that I’ve never ever had! 😩 and it’s not just little flaying baby hairs I feel like those I could manage no it’s full on thick regrowth. They don’t pull back into any hairstyle and whenever I go outside 90% of the time it’s windy they are blowing all over the place I hate it.

Does anyone else have this? Any tips? The length of my hair is down to my bum.

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Thoughts?

Is it just me?
Me and my husband have a 7 week old baby. But is it just me? I kinda miss our old life, when it’s just the two of us, when we can do things and other stuffs. Don’t get me wrong I love my baby so freakin much, but being parents, our world revolves around our baby now. So idk i feel like i’m being a bad mom for thinking about this :(

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Feeling like a horrible mom

My husband has been out of town for work the last 3 days. We have a 4 year old, 3 year old, and 6 month old. I fell asleep on the couch while breastfeeding my 6 month old and she rolled off the couch. She cried for a couple minutes and then went back to sleep. I feel so bad 😭

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