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Mum Guilt After My 6-Week-Old Baby Fell on the Floor

I’m really upset and struggling with a lot of mum guilt right now. My six-week-old baby loves sleeping on my chest, especially when we’re lying on the bed. Lately I’ve been extremely sleep deprived and haven’t been getting much rest. This morning at around 3:45 a.m., I woke up to a loud thump followed by my baby crying. When I opened my eyes, I realised he had fallen onto the floor. I was absolutely devastated.

I immediately called 111 and took him straight to A&E. Thankfully, he was examined by the doctors and discharged, and they reassured me that he was fine.

Normally, if I’m lying down with him, I put him back in his cot or beside me once he’s settled. I honestly don’t remember falling asleep. The last thing I remember is patting him to sleep, and then I woke up to hear him crying on the floor.

Seeing my six-week-old baby lying there broke my heart. I can’t stop replaying the moment in my mind and blaming myself for what happened. I know it was an accident, but I feel terrible.

My baby struggles with reflux and hates sleeping in his cot, which is why he often settles best when he’s on me. However, after this scare, I’m determined to be much more careful and make sure he’s sleeping in a safe space, even if it’s more difficult and means less sleep for me.

I’m just feeling incredibly guilty and upset about the whole situation.

New mum to rainbow baby

I'm a new mum to my beautiful rainbow baby . Just looking for advice on postpartum anxiety. I can not sleep or do anything as I am constantly worried that something bad is going to happen such as SIDS. Has anyone else had this experience and how did you manage.

Struggling to make a decision

Hello. Prior to pregnancy I suffered from depression, PTSD, and anxiety. Now that I am 10 weeks postpartum and preparing to return to work I'm realizing how much my depression and anxiety are hitting. I exclusively breastfeed my daughter and am now torn with the decision of getting back on Lexapro (which works wonders) or continuing to do therapy weekly and try to manage the depression without meds. All medical professionals I've spoken with and my husband stress that the benefits outweigh the risks if it's needed but that now has me questioning how much is it needed. I'm not at my lowest (I don't want to hit my low) but I'm also scared of the risks. To say very small amounts are passed to baby but monitor for drowsiness, fussiness, changes in appetite, and then withdrawal makes me feel like there is more than a very small amount getting to baby. Has anyone used this medication while nursing? Is anyone else going through similar? I'm so torn and feel so alone because I don't have much support when it comes to this. Thank you all for the safe place to vent 💕

Rant alert

My MIL is driving me crazyyyy and I feel like she says things on purpose for a reaction and I do bite my tongue but how much am I meant to take?
It might not seem like a lot to some people but the type of person she is is she always has to have one up on me and be better than me, she does make me feel welcome but sometimes I feel like it’s all for show as she always has to be better than me.
But I obviously refer to my baby as ‘my baby’ like ‘oh come here my baby’ and the past month or so she’s been saying it to him aswell and OMFG I want to just go mad because he most definitely IS NOT YOUR baby. Why do they say things like this?!
When he was born I called him my blue eyed boy and not long after she said it to him which now makes me feel like I’m the one copying her if I even call him that so I don’t anymore and f*** me, now I can’t even call my baby… my baby without her saying it too.

Recovery from birth

Anyone else still struggling with the after effects of giving birth? I had a vaginal birth and my pelvic floor is a mess

Postpartum knee pain

I’m 3 months postpartum and have been getting quite bad knee pain.

I’ve had some swelling just above the kneecap for about a month that won’t seem to get better.

I’ve been trying to rest as much as possible but it’s quite hard with a baby and know it’s probably only going to get worse when my baby gets bigger.

Anyone else experience this or have any advice?

I’m going to book a doctors appointment but worried they’ll just say to ice and rest which is what I’m already doing or take ibuprofen which I can’t do due to a sensitivity.

Is it too soon to think about pregnancy or is it just my hormones

I’m four months postpartum and loving motherhood but I wanted to know how soon or when do you feel would be the perfect time to give your child a sibling . I know it’s too soon, though constantly having baby fever and missing my pregnancy . I

Am I overreacting??

Okay so I like my MIL. I’ll just start with that. But I feel like the dynamic has just changed so much between us. Before my hubby and I got married, she and I were pretty close, she was welcoming, etc. Since we got married 2 years ago, that changed a bit but that’s to be expected. And now that we have a 9 month old son together, I just feel like it’s been somewhat tense. At least for me. She wants to babysit more often, which I get, because this is her first grandchild, but I’m not sure I trust her anymore. I feel like she’s almost trying to pretend that he’s her son or something. For context, my husband is definitely her favorite of her two sons and she’s had some issues letting him go. Honestly most of that is fine, I get it. But she loves to call my son “my baby.” And she’ll call my husband her “sweet baby boy,” which to me is wayyy too much. He’s an adult. And I know this is just her trying to express her love so I let it roll off my back, but it’s still annoying sometimes. His whole family loves to be passive aggressive and will make comments about how they never see us, or miss the baby, or whatever. (We definitely visit or see them at least once a month, so it’s not like they haven’t seen us) They RARELY ever initiate to get together, but will blame us for not planning anything. Anyways. Whatever. I guess I just don’t know what to do with this… she recently said to my son (in front of my husband and me) that’s she’s so excited to babysit and do things together that “your parents won’t know about!” Like…. What?! My hubby and I just kind of looked at each other, stunned. It was weird. She also loves to make comments about how when he gets older she can teach him about mental health and blah blah blah. It just bothers me that it seems like she’s trying to have a secret-ish type relationship with him or something. I know he’s only 9 months but it’s still weird to me. So I don’t really want her to babysit. She’s babysat once and it went fine, but after those comments and the way she acts, it just bothers me. She also was talking behind my back to my husband basically saying that I wasn’t doing enough for him as a SAHM, which I found incredibly disrespectful. He defended me, just everything has been bothering me. Does it sound like I’m overreacting?

Sorry for the gigantic paragraph, yikes.

Helppp

Had anyone been thru severe hair loss during post partum and came back from it. I have fine hair already

Its hard to believe I’m a mom now!

I still can’t believe she’s my baby and that I gave birth to her.

Sometimes when she’s sleeping, I forget she’s even there. Then she wakes up, smiles at me, and for a split second it feels like there’s just a random adorable baby sitting in my living room.

It’s such a strange feeling because I’m not disconnected from her at all. I love her more than anything. My brain just hasn’t fully caught up with the fact that she’s actually mine.

Please tell me I’m not the only one who has felt this way.

Needy baby

My baby has always been a bit mummy needy. But this week it’s been so bad. I can’t even put her down or leave her for a second. If I do she screams and tears streaming down .

Anyone else in this stage and now why it might be ? Advice ? X

I told my hudband I want to leave him

I think I have PMDD and each month I have rage and tell my husband I want to leave. And that he's a moron.

I haye myself for doing this because I get so angry I just want to punch something but I stop myself.

The I wish I was dead.

I am trying to get help and am going therapy and doctors but nothings working, I'm even trying to pray but nothings working

I am literally crying my eyes out as we speak because I have no one to turn to anymore

Postpartum Anxiety

I think I’m dealing with some PPA. I’m constantly checking on my 5 week old son to make sure he’s ok/still breathing. I’m constantly worried about the way he’s breathing or about other things that make me feel like a hypochondriac for him haha. At night I feel like I can’t go to sleep or something bad will happen. Tonight specifically I just was filled with dread and it’s currently 4 am and I don’t think I’ve slept. Does anyone have any tips?? I’m feeling miserable.

Anxiety over nursery

I am dreading my little girl starting nursery! Not because it won’t be good for her, because I am scared to death of leaving her anyway but if she cries, I’ll walk out with her. I honestly will not cope.

I can’t be away from her now but if she cries at drop off…. this is something that keeps me awake at night, aswell as her waking!

She doesn’t start until Sept (had to start early to reserve her place), I’m due to start back at work end of Oct so I do have time for her the settle in and I’m around if she needs me. She also only be doing a couple of hours each week while I’m not at work. I still want my time with her.

I’m also worried that if she’s poorly/needs picking up and I’m at work and my husband can’t get there straight away - she’s not comfortable with anyone else, grandparents etc.

Mom dropped my baby

My mom dropped my 1 year old in the kitchen and she landed on her back. Not sure if she hit her head but it’s been about 2 hours. She’s fine. Running playing jumping etc and only cried for maybe less than 10 mins. She’s okay. I’m not. I’m rage cleaning and just irritated. My mom lives with me and I’m already annoyed with her even living with me but I know it was an accident. I’m just very irritated right now😑 send encouragement please

Postpartum hair loss 😩

Things that helped? Didn’t help? How long did it last for you? Tell me all the things 😭

Hair fall 😭😭😭

Is anyone else experiencing hair fall, I am 21 weeks postpartum and I have severe hair fall, I don't even feel like combing my hair anymore as there are hair everywhere. Any tips to reduce it.

Venting

I am now 1 year postpartum and it’s bitter sweet. I have watched my babygirl who I never thought I could have grow into such a funny, sweet, and already so smart girl. I have also let myself go and put myself on the back burner. I have pcos and have not stayed on top of my medication for it and I haven’t eaten the best or worked out. I am just not taking care of myself. I am always tired and always just so busy. I’m by no means complaining because I did pray for this life but I am nervous about the blood work I am getting tomorrow. I am just nervous it’s going to be the worst thing. I am needing prayers that it’s nothing serious and can be a fix. Please and thank you for everyone who takes the time to read this and respond if you like. Tips help, I am just a momma trying to be the best I can be for myself, my baby girl, my spouse, and God.

Did you cry during first trimester?

Were you hormonal during pregnancy or only postpartum? I feel like I’m an emotional wreck these days at 6 weeks pregnant

Searching for mommy’s who are mommy’d out.

Look I know we love our babies so so much. But who is just so overwhelmed and needs mom time but then at the same time gets instant mom guilt for needing that time for yourself. Can anyone relate to these stupid intense emotions we have to go through??? Or am I just crazy??