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Sex postpartum - post 2nd degree tear

I had a 2nd degree tear and had stitches. I've had sex only twice so far since (now 4 months pp). It has been so painful mainly where the tear was, skin feels so tight and it just causes pain.

I used a lot of lube but that didn't help much, felt like my skin just wasn't stretching at all. Any advice?

Post partum hair loss

Hey mums so I’m currently 4 months postpartum and I’ve noticed in the last few weeks my hair is falling out on my bed the floor everywhere i have so much hair and now I feel like my hair has gone thin but I’m not sure if it’s normal and if there anything I should be using or taking to stop it or let it grow back I’ve broken down in tears so many days every time I find a new hair anywhere.

Meds

Hey mamas,

I’m reaching out here because this community always feels like a safe space. Lately, I’ve been struggling a lot more than usual with anxiety and depression, and it’s been feeling pretty heavy like laying on the floor sobbing for hours heavy. I was doing okay for a few weeks and then it started up again. I feel like I’m failing my son and now showing up for him because I’m always so sad or anxious

My doctor and I have been talking about options, and Sertraline (Zoloft) came up as a potential next step. Before making a decision, I wanted to ask if anyone here has been prescribed Sertraline? I’d love to hear what your experience was like—especially around how it made you feel starting out, how long it took to notice a difference, or any tips you wish you knew beforehand.

Sending love to anyone else who might be in the thick of it right now, too. Thanks so much in advance for sharing your stories! xx

Crying

Does anyone else’s baby just cry? Can never put them down otherwise they just cry. I’m drained

feeling like a bad mom

Lately i been losing it and being super negative around my family. I got on meds for my PPD but it doesn’t seem to help much. I am angry a lot and today my 3yo had explosive 💩 in her pullup and it got all over our new couch and carpet 😭😭. I yelled and got upset and I know i made her feel bad. I am horrible. After i gave her a bath i apologized and just asked her to please tell me after she poops so i can change her right away. And my sister’s 4 kids came down later and made a mess and got chocolate or something all over her toys 😭. And then they came down when the baby was asleep and woke her up. I just feel like i cant catch a break and im upset all the time. Helpppp

Hello moms I am reaching out to get some support. I am 5 months postpartum and am struggling with anxiety. Not necessarily towards my son but scared that there is something wrong with me. My birth was a c section and I am a plus size mom

My birth at the time I didn’t think was bad or traumatic but it was an emergency c section and I am a first time mom. I am trying to put my faith in God but am struggling

PPA

I'm 2 weeks pp and my anxiety is through the roof. I ve always been the logical one, calm and rationale. But since bringing my little boy home I have been extremely anxious. My anxiety is mainly that something will happen to him; bed time is horrific because I m dreading closing my eyes.

I dont feel depressed just anxious.

Im hoping im not alone and that someone has some advice to ease those feelings.

Postpartum

Hi all! Currently 9 weeks postpartum today and I just feel ugh. It just feels like I’m always frustrated and yelling and I hate myself for it. My son is currently in the stage where all he does is cry, barely sleeps and just wants to be on me constantly. I want to get to the part where I’m dealing with everything well and thriving, but I just feel like I’m drowning.

Collagen/ hair loss supplements

Hi ladies,
I’m currently dealing with postpartum hair loss. Whenever I shower,brush my hair there’s big chunks of fallen hair. I feel like I am bolding on the sides and it affects my self esteem. Is there anything that I can take while also ebf?
Thank you x

Lovely baby

My 7 week old daughter is an absolute dream, she doesn't cry (just shouts when she's hungry) very alert, happy and content, just an absolute pleasure to be around. Now I know how incredibly lucky I am with her but does any other mum with a similar baby struggle mentally? There's so many what ifs going through my mind and I'm scared to death she might change and start screaming, some days i feel sick with anxiety and nothing has actually happened? I'm driving myself crazy and scaring myself with thoughts of not being able to cope. I feel ridiculous because I know a lot of mums on here are seriously going through it and I have no idea how you manage xx

Drowning

Anyone else feel like your drowning trying to do it ALL and becoming a mother you don’t want to be?! 😭 I am 9 weeks postpartum with my second and have been a stay at home mom for almost a year now. I am trying to juggle all the things but catch myself either being frustrated or just crying. I want to keep the house clean, play with my 3 year old, tend to my baby, get out of the house everyday, cook, show up for myself and be a good wife but lately it’s too much. 🫠 I have a hard time asking for help but just don’t know how I can continue to do it all. The worst part is my 3 year old tells me sorry for being grumpy when I have been grumpy which brakes my heart. Any suggestions are welcome because I need to figure out a new way to do it all.

im going crazy

im breaking down bc my baby wont stop crying whe. shes tired my legs hurt IM tired too i need her to stop i cant handle it anymore

Should it be this hard!?

I am struggling... i don't remember it being this difficult with my first born a few years ago, why is it so hard this time around?

I love my baby, but I miss my old life so much. I miss being able to give my first born any attention whatsoever, I miss being able yo leave the house quickly, I miss feeling normal...

I just needed to vent... i know its hard and postpartum is not easy, but this is making me question my sanity.

Belly band Frida

I’m so confused if I’m supposed to use postpartum belly binder or not. Different people say different things. When do we start using it and when do we stop please advise from personal experience🙏🏻

People suffering with PPD

I’m pretty sure I have Postpartum depression. What’s everyone’s experiences been? I am a serious over thinker anyway but I’m worried they’ll try and take my baby away. The only thing that’s keeping me going through each day at the minute is my baby. I’m so overwhelmed and the stress from my ‘support’ system is getting too much.

Everyone obsessed with baby

Why is everyone obsessed with taking my baby from me. People taking him and holding him is fine, but the whole visit they will have him and wont give him back to me, i feel they think its a joke and laugh saying i need to share with family but it gives me huge anxiety.

People suggesting i leave him with them to go “rest”, i don’t want to. I want my baby with me he is only 5 weeks old! Everyone has had their time and this is my time.

Unpopular opinion:

Ladies who have sex a few days/weeks after giving birth are only doing it for their men/to keep them happy/doing it in fear of them cheating & not because they are ACTUALLY ready or horny AND I'm 99.9% sure they don't fucking enjoy the experience either as their bodies are STILL recovering!!!

Love yourselves more ladies & stop letting your men guilt trip you into having sex & using your bodies as sex toys!

God mother drama

I made my best friend of 13 years the godmother to my son (she lives in GA and I live in PA. She attended both baby showers in two different states. She is getting married in Mexico next year. At the time I told her it wouldn’t be a problem for me to attend. Now that my son is here and the wedding will happen before he is even 1 I can’t imagine leaving him, not to mention how expensive the trip will be for just two/three days. She offered to help financially, she said my son can attend, but I’m not comfortable traveling outside of the country with him and my husband does not want to go or want me to go alone for safety reasons. After explaining this to her she seemed understanding. I also mentioned how I’m struggling postpartum with PPD AND PPA. She told
Me to just focus on my mental health and my baby and to let her know for sure by a later date if I could attend or not closer to the wedding. After this conversation she began to ice me out and not really continue conversations. She hasn’t asked about her godson she was so excited about or checked on me after opening up about my mental health. I confronted her about my feelings and it didn’t go well. To sum it up she feels upset and says she knows I have a village and chose to take space from me. She says I want her to get on a plane for the third time in 6 months when I can’t get on a plane for the only thing she asked me to attend. Which I didn’t not ask her to attend both showers and it was her idea to visit once he was born. We both have been there for one another through it all and it hurts to know she isn’t there for me at such a difficult time in my life and has not even asked about her godson. I think our friendship is over. Anyone have any thoughts?

Baby wearing post procedure

Hey mamas. When did you feel comfortable wearing your baby post procedure? I'm thinking maybe the earliest I could maybe try is 1 week postpartum, but I'm curious about other people's experiences. I do have a ring sling that will probably be easiest to use .

FTM- PPD

7 weeks PP and it’s been difficult! My
Partner left and has not reached out regarding our baby ! I found out my no longer friend ( which was my child God mother ) was talking to my partner behind my back.. I’m really struggling and stressed! I start back work next week because I’ve been unpaid for 2 month and I’m so scared I have to leave my child w/ family since her dad doesn’t want to communicate or help out ! Idk what to do & I’m trying not to fall into PPD !