Yes, you can indeed get pregnant without having penetrative sex. There’s no truth to the warnings you might have had when you were a teenager that kissing can make you pregnant. But if sperm gets close to your vagina – even if no penetrative sex happens – it’s possible that you could get pregnant. It isn’t very likely, but it’s possible.
In this article: 📝
- Pregnant without having sex FAQs
- Is it possible to get pregnant without having sex?
- What is a virgin pregnancy?
- Can a virgin get pregnant if sperm is on the outside?
- Can a woman get pregnant without a man?
Pregnant without having sex FAQs
Let’s start by separating fact from fiction:
Can I get pregnant by just rubbing?
If you both keep your clothes on, then no, you can’t get pregnant by rubbing up against each other. But if your partner has semen on their penis or hands and either one touches your vagina, then yes, there’s a chance you could get pregnant.
Can I get pregnant by sitting on a toilet seat?
Semen loves warm, moist environments – basically, the opposite of a toilet seat! And even if the sperm has recently been placed there (like, very recently), the chances of it getting to where it needs to be in your vagina are incredibly small. So small that, really, getting pregnant this way is practically impossible.
How can a woman get pregnant without unprotected sex?
There are some deliberate ways to get pregnant that don’t involve sex. Artificial insemination and in vitro fertilization (IVF), for example, are fertility treatments that can help you get pregnant. They don’t involve sex at all.
Can a woman get pregnant without breaking her virginity?
The answer to this question really depends on how you define “sex” and “virginity”. If you believe that you’re still a virgin until you have penetrative sex, then yes, you could get pregnant without necessarily breaking your virginity.
Is it possible to get pregnant without having sex?
First, it’s a good idea to have an understanding of what happens during penetrative sex.
Here we go!
Penetrative sex is when the penis enters the vagina.
If you aren’t using any contraception, such as condoms, the pill or an IUD, one of your eggs could be fertilized by your partner’s sperm when they ejaculate.
An egg can’t be fertilized if it hasn’t been released from your ovary, and this usually only happens once a month, often about 14 days before your next period starts (though every woman is different).
This part of your cycle is called ovulation.
If the timing is spot-on and one of your partner’s approximately 100 million sperm (yes, you read that right) manages to find your egg, it’s likely you’ll get pregnant.
(This isn’t always the case, though, and there are some reasons why you might not get pregnant this way.)
But generally, having penis-in-vagina sex makes pregnancy likely because the conditions are perfect.
It’s warm and cozy, so the sperm survive, and your body produces a type of fluid when you ovulate that helps them to swim easily and freely.
Penetrative sex also means that the sperm start their journey close to your cervix, and therefore close to the egg. It’s a win-win-win for fertilization!
While penis-in-vagina sex is the easiest way to get pregnant, it is possible to get pregnant without having your partner’s penis inside you.
Before your partner comes, they could produce something called pre-ejaculate or pre-come.
[While pre-come doesn’t always have sperm in it, a study in 2016 showed that almost 17% of men or people with penises have active sperm in their pre-come. (This is something worth remembering if you’re practicing the pulling-out or withdrawal method.)](https://www.peanut-app.io/experts/sex-and-relationships)
If either pre-come or your partner’s sperm get close to your vagina, there’s a chance that you’ll get pregnant.
Remember (probably the most important thing about this conversation), sperm can be carried on fingers, toys, and mouths, too.
Whew, that was quite a download! Still have a few more questions? Let’s take a look.
What is a virgin pregnancy?
A virgin pregnancy is when someone who has never had penetrative or vaginal sex gets pregnant.
In 2013, a study of 7,870 women found that 45 women (0.8% of the total) reported at least one virgin pregnancy “unrelated to the use of assisted reproductive technology”.
This means that they didn’t use any of the medical treatments that help with fertility struggles (we’ll look at this in a minute).
The study also found, however, that the women who reported so-called “virgin pregnancies” had often signed chastity pledges.
And their families also often didn’t have open lines of communication about sex and birth control.
It’s likely that even though they might not have had penetrative sex (and therefore considered themselves virgins), they’d probably performed other sexual acts that led to their pregnancy.
Can a virgin get pregnant if sperm is on the outside?
In order for you to get pregnant, sperm does need to get inside your vagina.
If sperm lands somewhere on the outside of your body, you won’t get pregnant unless it gets moved somehow to your vagina.
And remember: if you or your partner have pre-come or semen on your hands or a toy, you could place it into your vagina without realizing it.
Can a woman get pregnant without a man?
You can certainly get pregnant without having direct contact with a man or someone with a penis, but you will still need semen.
With artificial insemination, a doctor or fertility specialist places sperm directly inside your uterus.
The sperm can either come from your partner or a donor. Intrauterine insemination is the most common and most successful type of artificial insemination.
IVF is a bit more complicated, and involves using both medication and surgical procedures to help sperm fertilize an egg.
Your doctor will retrieve eggs from you and incubate them with your partner or a donor’s sperm.
Once this has happened, they’ll transfer one or two healthy embryos back into your uterus.
The IVF process can take some time and, sometimes, several attempts.
If you do want to get pregnant, but can’t or don’t want to do it by having penetrative sex, there are definitely other options available to you.
If you don’t want to get pregnant, it’s important that you look for a type of contraception that feels right for you.
Having unprotected sexual contact can be risky, even if you don’t have penetrative sex.
Here are a few more articles you might find useful:
Can You Get Pregnant from Anal?
How Soon After Unprotected Sex Can I Test for Pregnancy?
Can You Get Pregnant Right Before Your Period?
Can You Get Pregnant Right After Your Period?
I Explained Unexplained Infertility: Here’s How
IVF Success Rates: What to Expect
Can You Get Pregnant If You’re Not Ovulating?
Can You Get Pregnant After Ovulation?
Can You Get Pregnant While Pregnant?
What are the Chances of Getting Pregnant from Precum?
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