While some women will go through menopause with little more than some slight inconvenience, others will find themselves with the “classic” menopausal symptoms. Yep – think hot flashes, night sweats, and more. But what about sex after menopause?
Sex after menopause might be fantastic, it might be pretty similar to before, or it might be affected by all kinds of symptoms, such as bladder control issues, a loss of self-confidence, poor sleep, and stress or anxiety related to the transition.
Everybody is different.
And if you’re wondering “do women enjoy sex after menopause?” the answer will, of course, vary depending on who you ask.
But with the right information about sex after menopause, we hope everyone will continue to enjoy a loving and intimate sex life.
So what’d good to know about having sex after menopause? Here’s our quick guide.
In this article: 📝
- What happens to a woman sexually after menopause?
- Why does sex hurt after menopause?
- Does sex drive return after menopause?
- Can a woman have an orgasm after menopause?
- How do you pleasure a woman after menopause?
- Sex after menopause tips
What happens to a woman sexually after menopause?
Levels of the hormones estrogen and progesterone are lower after menopause.
And it’s this reduction of hormones that causes your periods to stop, after all.
But it can also lead you to feel less aroused, have reduced sensitivity, and possibly mean you’ll find it harder to reach orgasm.
Why does sex hurt after menopause?
So, why is sex painful after menopause in some cases?
Low estrogen means a reduced blood supply to the vagina and pelvic area.
This in turn can cause vaginal dryness.
The vaginal tissues can also lose their elasticity, meaning sex can feel uncomfortable and cause irritation.
Does sex drive return after menopause?
With the easing of symptoms (often within 3-4 years of menopause), some women may find their sex drive after menopause increasing again.
But you shouldn’t feel any pressure if this doesn’t happen naturally, because there are many factors that can affect your sex drive.
Can a woman have an orgasm after menopause?
Yes, although it can be more difficult, and may take more time and effort to reach climax. Some women may find it easier to orgasm after menopause from clitoral stimulation rather than vaginal – so take some time to find out what feels best for you. Again, everyone is different.
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How do you pleasure a woman after menopause?
Accepting that menopause can have a major impact on a woman’s physical preferences and mental attitude towards sex is important.
Switching up the routine, trying new things together, and following her lead will mean it’s more likely to be a pleasurable experience for everyone.
Sex after menopause tips
Painful sex after menopause doesn’t just have to be something you just put up with.
These could well be the best years of your (sex) life! Finding out how to enjoy sex after menopause may be an interesting journey, but here are some ideas to try:
- Water-based lubricants can help tackle dryness
- Focus on foreplay and/or oral sex before, or instead of penetration, to increase the likelihood of climax
- Try new positions where you can control the depth of penetration
- Experiment with new ways to arouse each other — e.g. toys, massage, erotica (our Peanut menopause community love the KURVE for hitting all the right spots!)
- Do daily pelvic floor exercises
- Use safe vaginal moisturizers daily and before intercourse
See a counselor to discuss your feelings and concerns if you think it might help
- Try some stress relief activities, such as meditation, yoga, or tai chi
- Try to stay as healthy as possible, with a good diet and regular exercise.
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