How do you know when to tell people you’re pregnant? Well, it’s simple: There’s no set time. It’s your news, and you share it how and when you see fit. You can announce pregnancy early or keep people guessing — it’s entirely up to you.
Discovering that you’re expecting is exhilarating. You just want to scream and shout and tell the world. But when should you? There are different schools of thought when it comes to letting the pregnancy cat out of the bag. Some mamas-to-be like to play it close to their chest, while others spill early to close friends and family.
No matter what you decide to do, remember, it’s your choice.
When to tell people you are pregnant
Deciding when to tell you’re pregnant will, more often than not, come down to your personal circumstances. You might go early or you might wait. Here’s why:
Why you might want to tell early
If it’s your first, or if it was planned and friends and family know you’ve been trying, then you might be more inclined to let them in on your secret sooner rather than later.
The advantages of telling early are mostly fun. You get to share in that initial excitement with the ones you love and the buzz of a new baby starts fast and lasts longer. But there are practical benefits, too.
For starters, you won’t have to pretend that you’re not pregnant. This means you won’t have to find elaborate excuses to turn down a cocktail or explain away your morning sickness as a bad breakfast sandwich.
And it also lets you form a support network from the outset to answer your pregnancy-related questions and concerns. Between your friends, family, and the mamas on Peanut, you’ll be well covered.
Note: Depending on what you do for a living, you may be forced to tell someone early (i.e. your boss or an HR person). That way, you’re not putting yourself or your baby at risk. And you may also want to tell your co-workers in case you need to call in sick from time-to-time.
Why you might want to wait to announce your pregnancy
Of course, your personal circumstances might mean you wait a little longer before sharing the happy news. Maybe you want to enjoy some of your pregnancy in secret, away from prying eyes and personal questions (hello, Kylie Jenner!). Or maybe you feel more comfortable waiting until you’re absolutely certain that everything’s okay before telling people.
It’s completely up to you.
Why is 12 weeks considered safe?
It’s not uncommon for women to navigate the first trimester before spreading the word. But why is 12 weeks considered “safe” to announce pregnancy? Well, roughly 80% of miscarriages occur during the first trimester, but once you’re past 12 weeks, that risk falls dramatically. This should offer some peace of mind that everyone is safe and healthy.
At the same time, too many women suffer miscarriages without the support of their loved ones, as they believe they must stick to the long standing social convention that is the ‘12-week rule’.
So please remember that the decision to share your pregnancy news should be a personal choice, and should never feel like an enforced obligation.
Is 10 weeks safe to announce pregnancy?
For some mamas, week 12 is the holy grail. For others, it’s just an arbitrary number. As we keep stressing, it’s entirely up to you. You can tell as soon as you know, or you can wait until week 9, 10, or 11 — or week 20, 30, or after you have your babe in arms. Surprise!
Should you announce pregnancy on social media?
When it comes to how to tell family you’re pregnant, a quick Tweet or Facebook update probably won’t cut it. But should you play out your pregnancy journey on social media? That’s another question entirely.
Some like to use it as a way of sharing their happy news with those they’re no longer in touch with on a daily basis, but others are reluctant to post about it in case it upsets those who are struggling to conceive.
Ultimately, announcing your pregnancy on social media is another deeply personal decision.
Knowing who to tell (when to announce pregnancy to family & friends)
It usually goes a little something like this: the grandparents-to-be receive the news second (after the partner, assuming they weren’t present for the ceremonial peeing on a stick). Then it’s often the turn of close friends and family, and maybe colleagues. And then, of course, there’s social media (if you partake) to inform acquaintances, third cousins twice removed, and friends of friends of friends.
In the end, however, there’s no cookie-cutter approach. What’s right for you won’t necessarily be the way another mama will handle it. Take your time, let the news sink in, discuss with your partner, and do what’s best for both of you — and bump, too.
And once you’ve told? You can get to work planning the shower.
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