Lip and Tongue tie support

I am aware tongue tie cant be diagnosed from photos. But at birth we were told my son had a posterior tongue tie by a midwife. We had a lactation consultant at 8 weeks where he scored a 2/8 with low oral function and then at 11 weeks we got refered to the tongue tie clinic but the lady looked and said nope no tongue tie. My son is now 17 weeks old and does nothing but scream. We got told colic. Would end at 12 weeks. If anything its getting worse. Weve had cmpa formula. Reflux medications. He has never taken more than 3 oz. He gets tired before even finishing 3oz and falls asleep. He has awful reflux. And just screams all the time. Its £280 for a private clinic and I really dont have the money and dont want to go if shes just going to tell me the same thing. But I dont know what else to do. In the back of my head is the midwife who told me there was a posterior tie. He has all tongue tie symptoms. Clicking, milk dripping. If i know a tongue tie cut would help him id pull the money together somehow. But I just need help. Its been 17 weeks of constant screaming. He dropped from 60th to 17th centile. Hes currently gaining around 10g per week. Doctors and health visitor are absolutely useless. He has an appointment at the children's hospital. But not until the end of october

We are having difficulties with our baby (both feeding and mood) and wondered if she had a tongue tie contributing? She’s very clicky on the bottle, leaks milk, takes in a lot of air and is uncomfortable - I know it’s not the clearest of pictures but any advice would help before we pay to see someone

So my baby boy is three weeks today and had his tongue tie released yesterday. I was told to bring him to the breast every 2-3 hours which is fine. He is latching ok not to much pain and I can see that he is drinking and pulling milk. However he is not draining my breast at all and because I exclusively pumped I know how much my breast tends to produce and how much mls he tends to drink which is roughly the same amount so I’m now worried that if he’s not draining the breast his not getting enough milk. (He does pull of himself) and then also that I’m still having to constantly pump after feeding for at least an hour each time which is a lot of work and the reason why I wanted to get his tongue tie corrected to begin with.

I know it’s early days but really hoping I don’t have to go on like this as it’s not feasible for us as I also have a toddler

We’re considering having our daughter’s tongue tie released, but I’m honestly really scared and wondering if we should wait. I’d love to hear from parents who decided to wait, parents who went ahead with the procedure, and how you came to your decision.

If you did have it released, what method was used (laser or scissors/snip), and why did you choose that option? How was your baby’s recovery?

I’ve been trying to do my own research before making a decision, but if I’m being honest, it’s left me feeling even more anxious. I’ve come across stories about babies needing to relearn how to feed afterward, stretches being difficult, and some babies struggling with feeding during recovery. I know every baby is different, so I’d really love to hear real-life experiences from parents who have actually gone through it.

I currently have the procedure booked for mid-August, but I’m wondering if I should delay it until she’s older, or wait and see.

Also, how did you handle very opinionated grandparents or family members? My mom is strongly against the procedure and feels like my daughter is fine. I know the decision is ultimately mine and my partner’s, but it’s hard.

Does everyone have one under tongue or is it a tongue tie how do you know