ADHD, Autism, & Special Needs Support

Hey mamas! I’m having a really time navigating physical aggression with my son. He is 3, nonverbal (more like preverbal) but I feel like majority of his aggression stems from his frustration from not being able to communicate. However, I’m tired of being a punching bag. We’ve tried everything under the sun. He’s in ABA currently and his BCBA is telling us to ignore the behavior but I’m having a hard time with it. How do you guys go about this? I don’t want him getting older and bigger, and to continue to hit others when he’s upset or frustrated. I’m not okay with this behavior. I know it’s communication but at the end of the day it’s not safe and it’s unacceptable. I’m desperate and exhausted.

My son is AuDHD, no problem with that, but I have no privacy whatsoever so I decided today that we are going to learn boundaries and I get a little bit of alone time. So I let my son know that I will be making a sign for when I decide to go in my room and calm my mind.(with the door open of course) we have a small apartment so I can see the living area: the kitchen, the bathroom and the door to his room from my room. Either way I allowed him three knocks for questions, but I don’t know how long my break should be. What do you think? Is this a good idea?

What’re yall doing for your adhd kiddos struggling in school? Hyperactivity and impulsivity is our worst enemy right now. We’re pending behavior therapy and I have them doing an Ot assessment. But I want to know what works for you? Whether that’s medication or holistic. I’m open to all feedback. Thank you in advance!

My daughter is 3 and autistic, she started going to school last April after she turned 3 she's in the special education preschool and get some of her therapies there and it was great for her, her speech has improved a ton and she seems to like going. This school year she got a new teacher and I have had several problems since she started but this made me see red today. I picked her up and saw it looked like she pooped through her pull up (she's gotten pretty good at peeing but still not wanting to go #2 on the potty and doesn't like to tell you either) but when I went to change her she was clean so they changed her and put the poop covered shorts back on her. She had an extra set of clothes in her backpack. And she was wearing a pretty long dress they could have just left them off and it be fine. I just put shorts on so she's extra covered while she's playing. I messaged the teacher and she claimed she didn't see it and apologized but how the heck did you not see that much poop on her pants.. I can't even respond I'm so mad I have nothing to say to her that would be productive but I'm not sure what to do at this point this is ridiculous

4 year old. Ideas to help? Hands are clean, but will run need me to stop what I'm doing to help her "wash germs" off her hands every maybe 10 minutes give or take. If I dont go with her she will have a soap party and flood the sink. Gloves? I dont know she would keep them on. She was settling for a baby wipe to "clean" but now those arent good enough for her. Also obsessive about clothes being clean, a drop of water means the whole outfit needs laundered. Changes clothes (rotates outfits every hour or more)