Mother-in-Law Problems

My sister in law dropped her line on the family line that my husband was on with their family. Which caused call mom her brother and my husband to pay more a month. So my husband hi talk to his mom about canceling that plan and moving to something else that is cheaper. I am with t mobile been with them since 2004, My plan is locked in really cheap for 4 lines. At one point they were all being used but between two deaths 2 of the lines are not being used. I told my husband that he is now able to take one of my lines. 2 switch everything over and getting insurance. It'd be about $30 month so that would make it I'm only wasting $15 month than. His family decided to go look at t mobile when they were having family night to see if that was something his mom, my brother wanted to do 'cause they're with verizon right now. And I told my husband that they have a two line for 55 and up that Is mom and brother to get that's like a 130 a month everyone would save and I would not waist. His mom threw fit about him planning to be on my plan. And there was this other plan she wanted vs the 55 and up She complained to have my husband join to make a cheaper on everyone aka brother and his mom. So instead of my husband's bill being $30 a month he is now at $95. He did not talk to me about it before. He did it because he knew i'd be pissed but he's acting like it's not a big deal. I made a big dealout of it and now his mom seems to be upset that I got so mad and made a big deal out of it. Prior I didn't throw fit about him being on the family plan because it was set before we got together. Am I wrong for being so mad?

Which I believe my sister-in-law has move to her boyfriend's plan. So they can have a family pack.

I don’t even know how to get into detail, her energy is so off and intense, behaves so strangely around my baby. Keeps spanking her bum, getting right in her ear and whispering, puts her mouth and tongue all over her, seems desperate for her to have and use her firstborns things and for me to do things the way she did with her firstborn. The one thing that gets on my nerves the most recently is wanting to hold her all the time and is expecting my baby to just be in love with her or something, then my baby starts crying by which point I take her back because I know she’ll calm down in my arms. Mil becomes visibly annoyed. She even told my baby off and said “you need to stop this” and shook her a bit. I think maybe she’s struggling to transition from being a mum to grandma. But like cmon, I wish she respected me as a mum, seems as though she centred herself in this

My husband and I have had brief talks about having a 2nd child but I have serious concerns regarding my MIL. While in the hospital in labor she was at my house painting the walls after I was very clear I didnt want her doing that. I also asked they not come to the hospital until after my labor and I was feeling up for visitors. They didnt respect that request either. My husband invited them to come over/spend the night the day we got home from the hospital. They visited every weekend the first month of us being home. I asked my husband to not invited them for a while and he was not very kind about it. The two of them have been pushing "grandma bonding" on me since day one. She also rarely acknowledges me with visits. She will take a lot of time to say hi and bye to my son, who is in my arms and not say a word to me. Recently, it seemed all the times Ive brought up issues to my husband was finally heard and understood. He went to his parents to explain how I feel disrespected by his parents and that my trust in them respecting my boundaries and myself is completely broken. They came over and gave a sincere and tearful apology taking accountability. However, since the apology, the behavior has not really improved. Its hard to discuss it with my husband because his reactions have been very dismissive and defensive. All this to say, when he brings up a 2nd baby, he says we will need to lean on his parents(mom). My family isn't in the same state. I have flown out my mom to babysit. His mom has not baby sat once and I do not feel comfortable leaving my son alone with her. Does anyone have more insight in having a 2nd child and how much they may have had to lean on family with a 2nd baby compared to just one?

I need opinions on this because I’m honestly really pissed off and I can’t tell if I’m overreacting.

My husband was on the phone with his mom, and she asked how the baby was doing. My husband said everything was good and that I’ve basically been handling everything with him. Then, immediately after that, his mom randomly says something like, “I saw the scariest thing on the news. This woman went off the deep end after having her third baby and killed her whole family.”

Like… am I crazy, or is that a REALLY weird thing to bring up right after talking about me and how I’ve been handling everything with the baby? The timing felt so pointed and passive-aggressive to me.

I brought it up to my husband afterward, and instead of even acknowledging why it would bother me, he got defensive and told me I was reading too much into it and “drawing a parallel” that she wasn’t making. That honestly pissed me off even more because I feel like he never stands up for me when it comes to his mom.

I’m not saying I can prove what she meant by it, but who says something like that in that exact context? Would anyone else have taken that as a passive-aggressive dig, or am I really reading too much into it?

Argh ! 😡