2021 Babies

My daughter will be 5 in April and has been completely toilet trained for quite some time. But recently she has started having wet accidents which she says are because she is “too busy” doing something to go to the toilet and so she leaves it until she is desperate. This happens at home and school despite prompting her and taking her at set times now to have a wee.

She wears pull-ups at night which used to be bone dry in the morning but now are wet but she seemed surprised that they were as if she didn’t know she’d done it.

We have tried reward systems and talking to her properly about why it’s not good to leave it until she’s desperate.

I’m really not sure if she is just being lazy for some reason or if it’s a physiological thing. I’m going to talk to her teacher and the GP but just wondered if anyone else has experience of a sort of toileting regression like this at this age?

My LG is 4 she wears nickers during the day and pull ups for bed i want to start putting nickers on her for bed to how do you mums keep them to stay dry or proct the bedding in case?

I took my son to the toilet in a coffee shop and was standing propping the cubicle open whilst he went. This woman said I think my phones in there so I said ok my son’s just doing the toilet but he’ll be out in a minute. She tried to move me out of the way and open the door. I got so angry and said don’t you dare try and go in there whilst my son’s naked and doing the toilet! She seemed to think I was being over dramatic. Surely I’m not the only person who thinks that’s not ok?

We went to a Christmas market and he saw the dodgems and went running up. He’s been on them loads of times at the fair but here they said he was too small which is fair enough. But he was just not having it, he started screaming and crying and no matter what I did he wouldn’t move away. I can’t pick him up when he’s like that because he just fights it. Whilst I was trying to comfort him and calm him a few people did have to go past us to get to the entrance and I apologised. Just as my son was finally starting to calm down the man behind the till came and shouted ‘can you get him out of here please’ to which I responded do you not think that’s what I’m trying to do, he’s calmed down now but you’ve obviously never had children if you don’t understand how hard it is and his response was ‘I have but I know how to be a good parent unlike you’. My son was now distraught again and crying because he thought he was in trouble and I was mortified. Then as we were walking away a security guard tapped me on the shoulder and started also having a go at me. This man had called security because a child was having a tantrum. The security guard told me to never come back to the market again. Because my child cried!! I feel so upset. I obviously am a terrible parent, my son just can not handle being told no but I don’t know what I’m doing wrong or how to make it better. The only thing I can do in these situations is let him cry it out but I was made to feel like shit and even kicked out of an event for doing that!

My son is just on the go 24/7, I really can’t take it much more. He won’t play alone so it’s constantly ‘Mummy play with me’ from 6am til 7pm. I’m starting to lose my temper with him because I just need a break! Single parent so can’t get Dad to play with him. Is it normal for a child this age not to be able to play alone or even watch a film for longer than 5 minutes?