Incognito Only! 👻

And I think what melted me was somebody's response which was hell no but I want to be her mother because, damn.

Do you think it is arrogant to want to be your own real mother's mother in the next lifetime?

We were not trying to conceive, used protection and had sex on week 2 of my cycle (accidentally on my peak ovulation day). Week 3 we had Flu A. Week 4 my period did not come (it’s very regular). I tested and it was negative (2 different brands). What should have been week 2 of my next cycle (now 6 weeks post last period), I had light red/ pink spotting for one day when I wiped. The following week, I tested again, still negative, but this time almost all the dye was in the negative space, which I’ve never seen happen before. The area where it shows one horizontal line for negative and a plus sign for positive, the horizontal line was super faded at the 3 minute mark, and the negative vertical line in the next window was VERY dark. Now I’m on week 8 of all this, period did not show up yesterday. Nothing in my life has changed (no additional stress, no other illness, no changes in diet or exercise, etc).

Has anyone gone through this and NOT been pregnant? I’m super nervous as we thought we were done having kids.

PS. I know I should go get a blood test, does anyone know if urgent care will do that? I’m past being convinced by a pee test.

I'm really struggling on how to move forward.

Me and my partner are due to get married later this year. We live in our own home, we contribute 50/50 towards bills/mortgage but only his name is on the mortgage (I'm due to get added after marriage).

I have my daughter, she sees him as her dad, she's 3. His family absolutely dotes on her and treats her as if she's their own.

We both work full-time.

When we first moved in together I wasn't working, so naturally I took on the home and that was my contribution. I have now been working full-time for around 1y5m and I'm still responsible for all of the house work.

• He complains that he has no clean clothes - I tell him he knows where the washing machine is.

• When I clean his clothes, they end up in bags around the house because he never puts them away.

• Whenever we get into an argument he always brings up how I don't do enough around the house/the house is a tip.

• He's supposed to do all the dinners, I still end up cooking the majority of the time and when he does cook, I still help.

• He's responsible for the garden but again, I still help. Also, the front garden somehow became my responsibility also.

• He drives, I don't. So he does do the driving if we're going somewhere.

• We don't have sex. I've had two conversations with him about this, told him I didn't want to be in a sexless marriage, things improved for maybe a month and we've gone back to not having sex again. I think we've had sex maybe 10 times max since 2023.

• I want another child but I don't think I want another child with him. I can't imagine having to be responsible for 2 children and the entire house all by myself.

• He's never really made space for me inside of our home. The majority of my stuff is still boxed up at my mum's because we don't have the space.

• If I leave, I obviously lose everything I've put into our home. I'm not on the mortgage so have no right to the home. I'd have to quit work.

• He is good in other ways, which is what makes it difficult. Aside from work and things he wants to do/achieve he's just fucking lazy, he has rotting milk glasses on the side of his bedroom.

I'm just exhausted and feel like I'm settling with this life because it's easier than starting over but it genuinely feels like I'm living with a teenager/roommate half the time.

how are people keeping there toddlers entertained all day long from 6am? especially ones that don’t use screen time (i do) lol but i’m running out of things to do daily helpp also 38 weeks pregnant rn so everything is a struggle lol

So on Wednesday around 11pm I noticed my discharge had increased quite a lot, I bent down and felt quite a bit come out as it was more thinner than usual and it was pinkish in colour. I called maternity triage and they didn’t seem overly concerned and said an increase in discharge at this stage (39 weeks) is to be expected.

Yesterday around 4pm I noticed the same but it was a clear thinner discharge that sort of dribbled out and then stopped. The triage midwife told me that again it’s to be expected and she didn’t think it was my waters leaking - to lay down for 30 mins and then get up, if I notice a gush to call them back. I did this and when I got up nothing happened.

This morning I have woken up and turned over and again felt a dribble come out, decided to move quickly to the bathroom to be able to take a pic of what I’ve been seeing (the pic attached, sorry btw).

It was enough to fill my underwear, and then be wiped away. It’s still a thin ish consistency but as you can see it has a pink tinge to it - just like it did on Wednesday evening.

This is my second baby, I’m due to have a section on Tuesday. With my first I also had a section at 38 weeks, so I never lost anything so I don’t know if what I’m losing is normal or my waters.

Any advice would be appreciated 💛