October 2020 Babies 🇬🇧

I’m not sure if this is the right place to post this kind of topic but curious to see if anyone else is in the same boat and get some advice!

My partner and I have 2 (almost 3) children and whilst we both love being parents we have no support network..

Most of our friends have their parents helping out throughout the week or other family members and none of ours are particularly interested in our children (which is sad).

Whilst I love being a mummy I have found in the last year or so that I feel trapped, I don’t seem to have a social life without my children being involved. I feel guilty at the thought of leaving my kids to have life outside of just being a mum. My partner keeps telling me to arrange something but the last time I took our eldest child out to the cinema and he stayed at home with our youngest he called me after 2 hours saying she had been screaming the entire time!

I feel emotionally drained every single day and most days I dread getting up and having another day dealing with tantrums or having to hear “mummy” 65000 times in a day. It is unequivocally exhausting.

I want to enjoy motherhood and wake up looking forward to spending the day with my kids but it seems to be getting on top of me.

Any advice?…

I love my daughter but she has been very demanding over the last few weeks.. it doesn’t matter if she has all of the attention for long periods at a time or we’re out all day doing fun stuff, she does not leave me alone.

It doesn’t matter where I go I cannot seem to escape the constant “mummy” as lovely as it is that she wants to be around me 24/7, it is exhausting I feel myself constantly wanting a break from her as she is so overbearing.

Am I being unreasonable or is this just the norm for her age? How do I deal with it?

Just need opinions..

For those that are in the UK, are any of you sending your kids back? My princess is 4 years old & I’ve heard all sorts of things online about people attacking primary schools & I just don’t know whether to believe it or not. I don’t want to lose my baby, but I also don’t want to restrict my baby’s life..🎀

My little girl has always slept well and still does. She is a lazy thing and will wake around 8-9 every day with some mornings 7. Anyway, she can take a very long time to actually get to sleep. I can put her into bed around 7-7:30 and she will not fall asleep until around 8-9pm. She sometimes asks for loads and other times doesn’t ask for anything. She’ll just lie there tossing and turning until she is ready. It’s like her brain is wired and she can’t shut off. We have an 11 week old baby now so it’s harder for me to spend all the time with her. This also has nothing to do with the fact we have another baby, her sleep has been like this for a while but I was able to help her more. For example I was able to do a breathing tonie figure with her and massage/push her muscles to help her relax. I can’t do that so much anymore. Tonight she went to bed at 8, and fell asleep at 22:15. She was silent but just couldn’t sleep.

I am lucky in the sense that she doesn’t get out of bed. I can carry on my evening with some call outs. But I just wish I could help her settle easier and quicker.

Any advice?

Thanks.