November 2020 Babies 🇺🇸

Has anyone else experienced their 5 year old being really mean to them? The short version is I had a second baby and all was good for the first year and change. Then I had to leave to see my brother in the hospital- first time I left overnight without him. After that he wants nothing to do with me. He says mean things- for example today he told me I had no friends. I just moved to a new state that I absolutely hate and have no family or support (only my husbands family that barely shows up even though we are literally within walking distance of them). He says he only wants his dad, he told me I should leave the house and never ever cone home, one time we were sitting on the couch no one else in the room and he told me to get away once he realized it was just him and I. He’s becoming a kid I don’t recognize and it’s breaking me. Sometimes everything is fine and we play and cuddle like normal but then he will switch and just have this deep contempt for me. I have tried everything, literally. Sometimes these things work for the moment but then he reverts back. He is my son and my baby so nothing is going to make me stoop or stop loving him and caring but it is creating this hurt inside me that makes me want to stay away and not allow him to hurt me. I don’t want that, I just want my old relationship and love that was there.

I think the only way to fix this would be to go to Florida where my family lives without my husband for a while and let our relationship be repaired. That way my mom would be attentive to the baby and I could be attentive to him. At this point I can’t financially do it but as soon as I can I want to go. I want to move there and never ever return. I’m so sad I ever came here in the first place. Covid destroyed my business and forced us to move here for my husbands career, one that he hasn’t had work in for a while so that’s why my son is always preferring him over me. I have not recovered mentally after having my last baby and this is putting me over the edge. My husband will try to force a resolution right away but I am still upset and not ready so it’s this fake thing that occurs and makes me feel gross to feel that way with my son. This kid that is my whole world, that I would die or kill for. I’m not even seeking advice because I’ve tried everything. Just wondering if anyone else has experienced this in any way or how you would handle it. My youngest has been so clingy lately, he’s in that stage where he always wants to be held and only by me. Anyway thank you for reading and for any feedback.

My 12 month old hasn’t been feeling good for the past few days and I just figured it was a little cold. Then I saw redness around his nose and mouth and checked his hands which had blisters on each one. Chat GPT said it is consistent with HFMD. I currently don’t have insurance until October so I am wondering if anyone else has any experience with this and what I should do. Should I take him into the urgent care or will they just give him a diagnosis and that’s it. I have read there isn’t any treatment or cure, just Tylenol etc. I’m so upset for my little guy. He’s usually so happy and active and he’s just been crying and wanting to be held all the time, I’m so upset. We just got back from a trip so I’m sure he picked it up at the airport somehow, even though I was constantly disinfecting everything, something must have gotten through. Poor guy.

The other day, I get a message from my child’s teacher saying how during their rest time, my child would sometimes have his feet sticking out of his cot. At one point another child went to use the bathroom and she said that my child purposely stuck his foot out and had another child trip and fall. The thing is, I dk where he learned that considering I’m careful with what he watches and observe him all the time. So, anyway, we get home and I question him about it and he keeps going back and forth from saying it was accident and then on purpose. Finally, he says that boy fell by accident but the teacher said that …. did it on purpose. Then I asked my child to show how he was laying down when it happened, so he showed and I asked how did the other child fall and my child kept saying he doesn’t know. I paraphrased my self and asked if that child fell on his own or you did it? And he said “he fell on his own but the teacher said I did it” so, now I’m not sure what to think of it

So i have a 4 year old son and my partner wants us to have another kid. I know my son would be the best big brother and my fiance is a great father and partner. I definitely have the support, but i just don’t know. I finally started to get fit, my son is now in Pre-K and i finally have a minute to myself. I run a business, along with managing a staff of 14 people. Toddler boy age is so hard for me. I constantly feel overstimulated. I don’t know if having another kid would send me over the edge or if it will all be ok and I’m just overthinking it. Have any of you ever felt like your life was better before you had your second baby or wish you would have just stayed with one?

I stayed home with my daughter until this September and this transition to daycare has gone relatively smoothly. We struggled a lot for the first few weeks with meltdowns afterwards and not wanting to go, but things are more routine now so it’s smoother. But for the last few weeks my daughter has been telling me how much she hates daycare and how mean the teachers are. She cries almost every morning and begs me not to make her go. Most days when I pick her up and ask how her how her day was, she says bad because the teachers make her sit still or be quiet or whatever it was that day. I assume this is somewhat normal but am not sure how to handle it. If anyone else has experienced this, how did you affirm your child’s feelings and support them?