Poly Moms

I want to know the good and the bad of being in a poly relationship with a added female to the mix from yalls experience of it please.

The rules that yall have or even rules you and you partner had before adding a 3rd or one's yall couldn't agree on and how if so yall resolved that issue. And even how yall came upon the 3rd and who decided on the 3rd stuffing that

I will add still not sure if the added female would I be involved with or not like that.

So I’ve been with my partners H(M) and L(F) for 4Yrs and Married for 2Yrs. The entire premise of our relationship started with the agreement of a child, when we were just friends. I’m in the 3rd Trimester and Nesting has officially Kicked In. I reminisce how I wanted to be a mom so bad I was willing to do it alone. I look at both my partners H is cooking dinner while L is making our new dinning table and I couldn’t be more thankful for everything they have done for me these past months. I’m incredibly independent so asking for help is hard but they have been so sweet understanding and honestly the best partners I could’ve asked for.

So I share someone basically and I found out that the other girl is around her ex again and ik she's withholding how close they are at those times (it's a guy) and idk if I should inform the guy we share or not honestly

Ik he dont know about it.

I currently have 2 partners our relationship is a little different because while we each have relationships with each other my husband also has a girlfriend who doesn't live with us but our girlfriend who does live with us has 2 kids and we chose to school at home this year And I'm the primary for there education as there mom didn't graduate high-school but it's kinda hard to talk about our family in regular home school groups because most people don't understand our family

Last summer my Meta moved in with our hinge and they now have a 3 month old together. I have been dating my partner for over 3 years, and they have been dating just over 2 years. I used to go to his place fairly often but he still mostly came to mine bc of my kids. I've been trying to go over to their place more often so that he isn't skipping his evening baby duty and she can get a break (especially since he is back at work). However, the last 2 to 3 times I've been there I have been on edge and physically uncomfortable the entire time. I don't know where anything is and have to ask her. My offers to help with the baby are rejected. Last night I just gave up and went to sleep at 9pm as the baby was taking a long time to settle and I was just alone in the bedroom the whole time. I guess I don't really know what to do or say or what I should expect. I don't know WHY I'm on edge or in physical discomfort the entire time and I hate feeling like this.