Routine Queens 🇬🇧

Any breastfeeding mums here who’ve been through this?

My little boy won’t sleep at night unless I’m in bed with him and usually with my breast in his mouth. If I try to put him down on his own, he wakes up screaming and panicking and it takes ages to calm him again. Sometimes he wakes every 20 minutes like this.

It used to be even worse — I couldn’t put him down at all — so I know it is improving slowly. But his bedtime is 7pm and right now that means I have to go to bed then too.

I’m starting to feel really burnt out and don’t know what’s normal anymore. Is this common with breastfed babies? Should I just keep going and wait for him to grow out of it, or keep trying to get him to sleep independently?

Would really appreciate hearing from anyone who’s been through something similar.

What’s everyone getting their OH this year?

I’m stuck!

My almost 10 month old will sleep for at least 10 hours at night once down, but getting him down to do so isn’t the easiest task. I have tried shorter day naps, longer but less day naps, less short day naps and no matter how many naps I do in the daytime he still won’t sleep until around 9pm.

Any routine tips to get him to sleep from around 7pm?

Managed to get into a semi routine with my 8 week old where she is fed at 6pm and takes the full feed easily. Then 10pm then 2am and back to 6am. Recently she falls asleep at the 10pm and barely takes it which means she only makes it to 1am and therefore only 5am. Any advice on how I can get her to take more of the 10pm or do I need to adjust my timings? I want to try and avoid having to do a 11pm if I can!

Hi everyone, I currently have a daughter with my partner. We our currently living in our in-laws annex whilst we save for a mortgage. Our in laws look after our niece, who is nearly 18 months. She stays around every other weekend.

We don’t see her often, however, when we do we like to make a fuss of her and our daughter as they are only 11 months apart from one another.

I have noticed that when she stays over, her parents pack her dirty clothes. My in laws wash it for her, ensuring she is returned home with clean clothing. I’ve noticed her nails always toenails always seem long, and are never cut.

I held my partners niece today and she smelt. She smelt of a cheesy build up, like she hadn’t been cleaned properly in days. Behind her ears, in between her fingers and toes etc.

I’ve heard now that her parents put their child to bed every night at 11pm so she sleeps through until 9 the next morning. If she isn’t at our in laws every other weekend, she’s with a different grandparent or great grandparent.

I know every parent is different, but a part of my worries about this little girl. She doesn’t get taken to the park, she doesn’t interact, she doesn’t get taken to baby groups, soft play, or nursery. Shes hardly ever taken out unless it’s to a family member’s house.

My partner’s brother, who is the father asks for money from his family constantly. They appear to be able to go out drinking every weekend, but do not take this little darling out at all. She doesn’t work, however I noticed she manages to have her nails, lips filled, sun bed topped up every so often,

I really want to say something, but feel like it is not my place to say. I don’t know whether to say something to my partner, however, I doubt he will mention it to his brother.

I just don’t want this to be ongoing for when she ends up going to school and this being picked up by others in the future. I worry that her parents won’t change there ways.

Any advice on what to do would be appreciated.