Step Mamas 🇺🇸

Sd is 13. Apparently lied about having a bf . In general I’m being told that she and her mom aren’t getting along . Husband and bm don’t get along and anytime he’s tried to discipline her he’s the asshole , now that sd is talking about to her mom now she’s starting to send her over because she doesn’t wanna deal with is . Well recently it sounds like sd was having inappropriate convos with her bf and sd is now considering moving in with us . I told him to put their differences aside and that he should ask what they’re fighting about. Or what’s going on. I think my husband is just more excited at the thought of his daughter moving in with us which I’m not against but I don’t think it’s right that he just hops in with no background of what’s going on In his daughters life

Hi, Ive almost been a step mother for almost three years and we have a very long story but don’t wanna post the whole thing on here rather have someone I can talk to that doesn’t know about it that can give me a third party opinion. Also want a judgement free conversation and I will involve all the good and bad from all angles. 😊

We originally never cared if she would take a couple of things until about the last year she wants to take everything we get her to her moms . Problem is the the next time she comes she complains she has nothing to wear . We then end up shopping for her each visit then she wants to take everything back to her moms . She then says how her mom doesn’t buy her anything and being that we don’t want her to be without we let it slide . How would you go about addressing this to where sd isn’t caught in the middle ? Bm gets over $1k a month so It’s not like her mom can’t afford it . I understand if it was a one off situation but it’s literally always something .

I’ve been a step mom for over 6 years now and it seems like this year it has all went to hell. My relationship with my step kids, my feelings as a stepmom and everything else in general. I love my husband and he supports me every way he can I just don’t have anyone else in my situation that can help or understands what I’m going through. If anyone is willing to listen or just give their thoughts I would greatly appreciate it 💜

My husband and I have been together 6 years and he has 50/50 custody of his 3 kids 7,9, and 11. His oldest has always had a seemingly strained relationship with her mom. For years we were told she didn’t want to be over there and she felt like her mom didn’t love her as much as her new husband and new half siblings. We put her in therapy which has helped and their relationship has gotten better….however her mom has always had an issue with me. Recently she has started telling lies to SD about me, ones that one day made her not want to come back to our house. She ended up coming back and we were able to tell her the truth and told her to always give us the benefit of the doubt. She seemed to understand and was sorry she had let it get in the way of her coming back. But the lies and manipulation have continued, each time I am told a new lie I am able to prove it is a lie and SD knows it is. However she has still been asking to go to her mom’s on her dad’s time more frequently and it honestly hurts that even though she knows her mom lies to her she would choose to be there instead of spending time with her dad who she has an amazing relationship with. We don’t want to tell her no and end up being the bad guy if it’s really what she wants but it hurts both my husband and I that she would want that. Any advice?