Gentle Parenting

No one could EVER make me feel bad for being an emotionally intelligent mother. Some people say Im “too soft” especially since I have boys, but at the end of the day my kids feelings actually matter to me. I will always make sure my kids feel seen and heard. This morning when getting my kids ready to go to their grandfathers my 2 year old cried all morning, stomping, denying everything. I tried asking him what’s wrong he just cried, I asked him if he was angry he said yes but nothing would calm him down. I eventually raised my voice telling him to calm down, stop crying and use his words, this didn’t work. Eventually in the car he calmed down so I took the opportunity to ask him what was wrong. His response was “I was tired at home” I told him I understand but we don’t act like that I told him I am sorry for yelling and to use his words next time. He acknowledged where he went wrong and I acknowledged where I went wrong and we had a great morning from there on out. It may seem soft now but one day this will come into his favor. Learning to properly, healthily communicate is KEY!

If you had an 'event' like hairdresses, dentist, doctors, new situation etc etc how long do you prep with your child to prepare for the event

Oh my gosh the last few days have been challenging 😥

My two year old has been having massive meltdowns, hitting, biting , throwing things!

She’s just hit her brother on the head with a massive train track part and made him cry - then hit herself on the head too ?

She’s very emotional and I’m not quite sure how to navigate it apart from offering her a hug, removing her from the situation that she hasn’t listened to me in, eg told her kind hands and it’s unkind to hit — this didn’t work so took the train set out of the room and her out of the room. And remaining as calm as possible. She screams when I get her in the car seat ?

Walks then wants to be carried then wants to walk but screams when I out her down to walk and she sits there in the middle Of town screaming ?

What do I do ?

My partner is so absent. He's not working or in school. He's supposed to be parenting. But he's not. He's physically there but completely ignoring our child. The space is safe but he's always looking at his phone. I wait until our child is sleeping to use mine. I never let it be more important than our kid. My partner complains that our child doesn't love him and I think myself that there's nothing to love when you're just completely ignored. I make the meals. I clean. I work full time. I'm in school online (log in at night) and have a 4.3 GPA. I am on 100% of night duty. I am on 100% of day duty on weekends. I do the drive to preschool for drop off and pick up.

Why can't he do anything? He's playing video games all day while we're out. So I come home to a mess.

Yes, yes, I got myself into this. I knew he loved video games when I met him. I knew he hated his job. I didn't think he'd quit and then refuse to apply to anything.

It's not a gentle parenting specific problem... But how do I get him to participate in any kind of parenting? My child doesn't ask for him because it gets us nowhere. I do all of the bedtime routine, etc.

It's not like having no partner because he actively makes such a mess every day. I'm not attracted to him right now because he's so self absorbed with tv and games... He says I need to chill out. But how? He required more parenting than our four year old.

So my 22 m.o. has been hitting more and more recently. It started as just not being able to control himself to now what seems like a deliberate choice. I’ve been trying to teach him to use nice hands, and I know he knows how to do it, but now he’ll just hit while saying “nice”. What has helped your toddlers learn not to hit? I know he’s still little, but what I’ve been doing hasn’t been helping and he’s just been hitting more. Help 😣