My Husband Said What?!

Throwing things at our 2 year old and trying to pick her up by her top and shouting at her. All because she had a tantrum over brushing her teeth .. tells me I’m too soft and don’t discipline the kids correctly ? Ended in a heated argument because I wouldnt let him rag doll her out of the bathroom and kept her safely in my arms whilst she covered her ears. I can’t get her eyes out my head. He’s saying I’m too soft. I don’t think a 2 / 4 year old needs screaming at / physically ragged around to behave. Now I’ve told him back discipline is one thing but physical abuse is another. He’s stormed off to bed not talking to me. Am I in the wrong / over reacting.

FYI I did get her teeth brushed and I would have got them done with out all the screaming and shouting as I always get to her level, keep calm and it eventually happens. He just doesn’t like that she doesn’t do it on first request ?

Okay, so I have to ask because I’m genuinely baffled — is it a thing for husbands/partners to be obsessed with wanting to suck on engorged boobs/drink breast milk?? Mine keeps bringing it up and I’m just sitting here like… what?! Is this normal or have I entered a weird corner of parenthood no one warned me about? Is this some kind of new dad rite of passage or have men officially lost it? 😂

Basically had a row with him because we hardly ever have sex and he said maybe I should put effort into the way I look to make him want to have sex and it’s my job to doll myself up blabla … I’m 7 months postpartum with baby 2 still haven’t Lost the baby weight actively trying though, my old clothes don’t fit me So I’m stuck in my gowns for now I can’t afford to buy a new wardrobe I barely have any time to myself I do everything for both kids I do pretty much 95% of the house work and even that 5% he does he leaves half the jobs for me. I’m crying on the bathroom floor rn feeling like an ugly whale I just feel so low and lonely and I hate this and I’m trying my best not to self harm really struggling idek why I’m writing this here

So my husband works with all females, and very closely with females who r much younger than me and also model type women - beautiful thick hair, amazing bodies and so forth. And I’m struggling atm with hair loss and il also heavily pregnant so don’t feel my best but, a few of these women I’ve met and haven’t been very welcoming to me, they’ve kind of ignored my existence, and my husband tells me the stories of a couple of them giving BJS to men in the office and each to their own I know that. I just can’t help but feel insecure, and I need advice on how to not feel this way. My husband works till 7-6 with them Mon-Fri, and by the time he comes home to us and our kids he’s tired, and I’ve noticed he’ll talk to these colleagues about people at work he doesn’t like and so forth but everytine I ask him about work his response is always the same ‘Boring and busy’ so I just feel like he doesn’t really talk to me about stuff, and he’s there with them all day, surely he’s bound to fancy these girls and the fact that he talks to them more than me really am I just being silly

Husband and I have been struggling with our son's (12m old) sleep for well...12 months now lol. We finally got him to go down and stay down for the most part or just need a quick cuddle, I stopped night feeds after my husband kept pressuring me (it was the right this to do but I wish he hadn't badgered me to stop nightly breastfeeds as if he had anything at all to do with it). Anyway, he's been going through a regression I think and he's been screeching his head off when I put him down... he's fine when I pick him up and snuggles into me and fall asleep so I put him down and then he screeches. I usually set a timer for a few minutes to let him see he is okay, especially because he's clearly exhausted and doesn't really want me to keep picking him up I don't think at least....just tired and still learning he can just..sleep? Lol.

My husband said I was being cruel and I can't just let him screech...which in my experience, with two kids (4years and 1year), sometimes they screech just because they want you to come running, not because something is actually wrong if that makes sense? Which I told him.. he kept going on and on about go get him go get him...so I finally turned to him and said I wish he would just let me handle this, especially since I've been doing this for a year now with our son and he (husband) has not helped..I said I'm tired of him nudging me in the night and telling me to do this and that and adding his 2 cents when he has nothing to do with it.... So husband said, "okay fine then I'm going to insert myself then so I have a say" and I took that as he is going to go comfort our baby himself...great, right? No, my mistake.

So he brought the baby out of his room to the living room where we were, and sat on the couch with him...of course, as soon as baby saw me he went ballistic and only wanted me...which my husband KNOWS. I said "fine, just give him to me" and got annoyed because he did it on purpose... Husband got all smug and shrugged, saying "well! What was I supposed to do?! I told you I was going to insert myself!!!" So I told him I thought he meant go in there and comfort him back to sleep himself not deliberately bring him out so he sees me and wants me so then husband doesn't have to deal with it?? (Which btw is not the first time husband has offered to "help" at night then purposely showed him me so he freaks out cause he wants me and I would have to take him instead). So I called him out and said that was extremely manipulative. Then husband got smug again and said "oh, well you didn't give me specific instructions for what you wanted me to do so I brought him out here" to which I got pissed off and told him to 1. Grow up?? And 2. We have TWO kids and he can't figure out how to comfort them and put them to bed by himself??? And then I said, "are you stupid or just being manipulative?" To which he got extremely angry about and said he can't believe I just called him stupid...which I didn't really...I asked IF he was stupid or manipulative, which was mostly a rhetorical question because clearly he's not stupid and knows full well what he was doing...

Anyway, it's not about getting my baby. I've done that for years. It's about the fact that he 1. Messes with my routine/way I handle things (which btw I've tried so many different things so I know the ways that work best) when he doesn't even actually help...he just has an opinion which he thinks is right above mine yet he doesn't actually know anything or do anything??? And 2. His "help" is him deliberately making my life more difficult and finding manipulative ways to pass the kids on to me so he doesn't have to do it but doing it in a way he can say "oh, well they don't want me..they want you!!". It's so frustrating!!! And now he's being passive aggressive to me because I called him stupid???

Anyways idk if I just wanted to rant or wanted advice but if you read this and have an opinion on the matter feel free to comment it lol...and yes I'm aware this entire situation is beyond stupid. 🤦🏼‍♀️