My marriage has never been in a worse place. I am so unhappy. I cannot count on my husband as he voluntarily works after hours and his days off. (He is a salaried employee, so itβs not about extra money) But he is lazy at home, swears heβll get to stuff but never does. Forgets everything. But he comes down so hard on our kids if they are messy or forget anything. He is defensive whenever I bring it up, and recently started insulting me if I ask when heβs going to do or finish stuff. He acts as if his time is more valuable than mine or the kids. Now my kids are picking up his ways and I am so sad, mad and confused. I donβt know what to do. I donβt work, mainly bc I canβt count on my husband to be here so I can get to work on time. We have no money saved, weβre living paycheck to paycheck and Iβm trying to get Xmas together but have no fundsβ¦..or spirit if Iβm being honest. I never get a day off. Ever. And I signed up for that I get itβ¦but how do I not feel resentful when I ask my husband for help and get told heβs sleeping in Bc itβs his day off?