Fuck mother in laws😂😂😡😡

Hi mums, I’m really looking for some advice because I’m feeling angry and hurt.

I’m a first-time mum and my son is still very young. Over the past few months, things with my mother-in-law have become increasingly difficult. There have been hurtful comments towards me, criticism about my parenting, and issues with boundaries.

There was also an incident where my son was unwell and struggling with feeding. Instead of asking how he was or showing concern, we felt accused of lying or exaggerating the situation and keeping her away from him. That really hurt, especially as we were already worried and trying to do what was best for our baby.

My partner and I decided to take some space because the situation was affecting us as a family. I recently reached out to her myself because I genuinely wanted to try and talk things through calmly. I suggested meeting for a walk and having an honest conversation, but she ignored my message and instead called my partner while he was at work.

When he didn’t answer, she told him that if he didn’t answer, “this whole situation was going to get a whole lot worse” and that she had spoken to people who said she had a “high chance of winning.”

The thing that has really upset me is that she has previously told both me and my partner that she would take our son away from us. Hearing words like “winning” and “fighting for my grandson” has made me feel like my child is being used as a threat or a way to pressure us.

I completely understand that grandparents love their grandchildren and want to be involved, but I don’t believe a child should ever be used as leverage in adult disagreements. My partner and I just want a respectful relationship where boundaries are listened to.

At this point, I honestly feel like I don’t even want a relationship with her anymore. I feel like too much has been said and done, and I’m struggling to see how we move forward after feeling like my child has been used against us. Part of me feels like no contact is the only way I can protect my peace and focus on my little family.

Has anyone experienced anything similar with a family member? How did you handle it when someone brought your child into conflict or threatened to take them away? I’m just looking for advice and support because this has been really stressful.❤️

So my BD (his family is Mexican) keeps saying that we need to give his mom money for child care. I’ve talked to my mom (we’re Filipino) about it and she says never in her life has my grandparents on both sides of the family asked my parents for money to watch my siblings and I.

Idk if it’s a cultural thing or whatever. Mind you I let my MIL live in my home for 2 years free and she never followed my rules by simply not wearing her nasty shoes in the house(she’d be in the backyard stepping on dog shit then wear those same shoes in my house walking everywhere) and she would purposely disorganize everything, leaving her shit everywhere. Never offer to cook or help out not even clean. Again, mind you I work an hour 30 mins away from home, so I’d have to come home then cook for my family let alone her son and her expected me feed her too ? (She’s a grown ass adult that can feed herself, you’re a roommate atp.)

In my opinion, she’s living in my home because NO ONE WANTED HER (her own children) Her other son is a crack head drug addict and almost killed her and the neighbors around them because he lit their apt on fire. She allowed him to do drugs and got her section 8 voucher taken away from her and evicted. Me being nice I took her in….

Long story short, what the fuck am I doing wrong…. I feel like I can’t voice my opinions about his mom because he gets so defensive of her. Which idk why, when she was fucked up to me and disrespectful. This has been going on for 6- almost 7 years. I voice my opinions about me feeling like I’m losing my shit at home because I went back to work and everything is a disaster at home… he doesn’t care. I tell him, I don’t feel great, I don’t sleep in, mentally I do not want to be alive…. I’ve been on anxiety and depression meds… I just want to pack my shit and leave. Idk who to tell. I just don’t know anymore. I’ve told him that I don’t feel like living and I feel like I’m drowning within all this stuff…. And his response: well I’m at work, I don’t get enough sleep(he gets more sleep than me)

I want to give up. I’m not happy with life right now and I’m tired of trying to fake shit.

My father in law has terminal cancer. We were just told he needs to be place on hospice. This man has been disrespectful toward me from the beginning. Trying to put his hands on my child who does not belong to them, hes even gone to extend of calling over family to attack me and child. No I never given this man a reason to be so disrespectful towards me. I was told he doesn't like me because I dont catered to him like a woman should. Anyways, my issue is I was told by one of his siblings today in my house. That I need to help take care of him because im dealing with their son. I personally dont think i need to because hes been so disrespectful towards me. What would you do in this situation??

My hub and I desperately need a car. In 5 years we have gone through 2x cars; mainly because both were 12y and older so they wiped out. This time we agreed we were going to follow mechanics advice, which were all, purchase a car that is 10 years or less in age, and check the milage. We found a PERFECT one, 2020 Qx60 for 15g. Less than 70,000 miles. My MIL sends us a different car that is 20 years old, 170,000+ miles, Jeep. Though very well kept, it's another older car with miles and a gas eater. I declined politely and she began to blow up my phone, explaining how I am wrong and this is the best option. I thank her again and inform her of the newer cheap car we were looking at. She says we shouldn't aim for a new car and need to learn baby steps. We are both 34 and again, already had two old cars. Both bit us in the ass. She tries calling my hub and he agrees with me and she becomes upset and insulted that we wouldn't. She even begins to go off the next day about having to let us use her car or her driving our son to school. And even begins screaming and cursing out my hub when he let's her know he can only give her some gas money and not a full tank, because again, we are trying to buy a new car. The universe sucks and the car we wanted fell through. I was in tears and he was fuming, we had to eat crow and get the older car. We reach out and let her know, she replies that her bf is actually going to buy her the car so she didn't have to use her luxury car so often. But when he is basically away or not noticing, we can use the car. I raged the hell out. I thought it was a tasteless, petty move.

Am I in the wrong?

So when my MIL visits I always notice dirt under her very very long natural nails and the one time she didn’t wear perfume she had that smell (the seriously needs a shower BO smell).

She loves holding my baby and grabbing her little hands and feet and every time I see the hands it just gives me the biggest ick. 🤢

My husband and I aren’t OCD but we try to keep our fingernails short and clean and shower regularly. We also have the wash hands rule before touching the baby but a simple hand wash ain’t helping this…

I don’t know how to approach it with my husband or MIL. Obviously I don’t want to embarrass her but at the same time it’s disgusting 🤮

I feel like my baby senses my unease or the smell because whenever my mil tries to hold her she screams and cries straight away now 🙈 she’s usually fine with other people…

What do I do?