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Hi everyone, did anyone else experience thoughts of harming themselves or baby postpartum? I've had a few intrusive thoughts where I see myself hurting baby or hurting myself. I don't want either if these things to Halen and it is really upsetting me. I'm seeking mental health support but I wondered if anyone else had anything similar? Thank you in advance to anyone willing to share their experience

Has anyone had to use milk thickener and if so how did your little one get on with it the doctor has advised to start with it as our process of elimination I just have this gut feeling my little boy is really not going to like it and should just go straight to non diary milk which was the second step she said to go with

I went into work to talk about my return to work, which is when my baby is 8 months old. I did three full days and half a day before the mat leave. Well I went back and I can only do three days now and instead of 7.30am till 6pm, I need to change my hours to 8am till 5pm, work have said the can't promise me those hours and they had to reject other people returning because they can't do the hours they need. I am not doing the original hours before mat leave, the reasons I have to commute to work and it takes half an hour on a good day.... My husband could be on site all day and not be back till 7pm, I need to start dinner, bathe my baby etc I'm not 100% sure I finish at six bang on because of problems at work, we have a thing at work where we can't go till everyone is ready to go I am not asking to be a pain, I am asking for actual reasons, I was going to leave but found out I was pregnant when I was looking, I can't always have help from my husbands parents because they are in their 70s, my parents can't do it as my mum is disabled and my dad is her carer. I have no one else that can look after the baby, then my husband's job has started to get busy and he is out on site most of the time, he can't get another job because he has job security where he is and the pay is great, why go somewhere that pays less and he's not got that safety. I wont go back till I get the hours I need but will I win the fight? Thinking of a Union to help. My boss was like we all got family, I know but I will never let my baby do a full day at my work it's something I am not willing to bend on and yes I work at a nursery.

Looking for some similar stories please. I’m 26+2 weeks and I’ve been having growth scans every 2 weeks because the baby is measuring small (especially her head). Following my growth scan today, the fetal medicine unit have called asking me to go in for a specialist scan. The woman scared the life out of me on the phone saying it could be chromosome issues etc. has anyone had any experience with this?

Is this a necessary vaccine whilst pregnant? I’m not over keen on getting jabbed up if I don’t need too, so wondering if there are other mums to be who are also in same boat about whooping cough. I need to do more research, but wondered what others opinions are! Thank you!

Poll question: did you / have you got the whooping cough vaccine when pregnant?