I want to share this because I was convinced my child would never potty train.
She’s very sensitive and autonomy-driven:
• hated being told what to do
• afraid of peeing (“it will leak”)
• didn’t respond to rewards
• didn’t want anyone watching
We tried everything — nothing worked.
What finally worked was completely counterintuitive:
👉 we stopped trying to get her to pee in the toilet
👉 and focused on making it feel safe for her to release
That meant:
• no pressure
• no rewards
• no “try to go”
• full privacy
• completely calm reactions to accidents
At first, she peed on the floor. A lot.
Instead of correcting it, we just guided the location:
bathroom → basin → potty
And then suddenly, it clicked.
On day 2 of underwear:
• she used the potty
• then pooped on it
• calmly, on her own
It wasn’t excitement — it was readiness.
Biggest takeaway:
These personalities don’t respond to pressure.
They need:
👉 control
👉 safety
👉 space
If your child is resisting everything, it doesn’t mean they’re not ready — it might mean they don’t feel safe or in control yet.
And when that shifts…
👉 it can happen incredibly fast.
If you want you can message me and I’ll explain in more detail how we went from peeing on the bathroom floor, basin use and then potty introduction. I also used specific language, NO more “good job!” “Just try”. It worked and I am stunned because it was months of struggling.
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