SEX ~ DRAMA ~ MARRIAGE & MORE

Hi I have a 16 day old via c section, I'm a FTM never having been around babies before as I am the youngest of my household and from a small family. My husband is fantastic with our little one. But ever since I've had the baby I just feel like the only thing I'm good for is producing milk. I feel disconnected from my husband like the only reason he's around is because am producing milk. We were having some issues before the baby and we're struggling it took a while to feel like he was onboard even though he said he was from the moment we found out. I dunno if I'm feeling like a spear part because I'm lacking confidence with baby or because I feel like he wouldn't mind being a single dad. Is this postpartum hormones or something else?

We want to move in together but he’s insistent we move into his place and it just doesn’t make any sense to do so. My place wins in every single category of consideration. Cheaper, better neighborhood, bigger, I own/he rents, more parking, fenced in yard, has a moving kitchen, doesn’t have a roommate… I could spend hours explaining why my house makes more sense. But he won’t listen to it and he just keeps saying my place needs too much work. And it does need some work, but I can call a repair man if he doesn’t want to do the work, which is his main concern. He says there’s no way he’ll live in this house though, and I think that means I need to end the relationship because I can’t sell my house to go live in a tiny, overpriced apartment… am I being too dramatic?

We have this guest he has been staying with us since late February, he had no idea how long he is staying with us for. I have set a deadline for him to leave.end of this month. I am the one spending my paycheck of bills and rent,he and my partner arent contributing much at all. My partner gives me 200£ but that is gone for most of the bills.. his friend has got a job and another one in waiting, the job he first got was for recycling company to do packaging he was going to mon-friday now he isnt going he is lounging on the sofa not doing anything, he is setting his heart on the place he wants to work,which is where I work. Personally I dont want him to work there..

Hes just not cleaning or doing anything leaving everything a mess, he doesnt cook,yesterday my partner was doing the cooking as I came in from work. His guest snapped his fingers for the ketchup I almost said something.. 😳 then my partner sent a text "im doing everything i can and you are stressing me out by asking all the time" if I wasnt asking we wouldnt be pushing him, I want my home back

and, its taking me so long for my partner to come with us to the park, what does he do his friend mentions the park and he goes there with noah, I have tried for over a year for him to go with me and he never does.. im so pissed off

My bf and I have a 7 week old baby. For like the last 5 months of my pregnancy he would basically only have sex with me when he was drunk. He only pecks me on the mouth, he won’t makeout with me anymore. And since I’ve not been pregnant anymore he’s only had sex with me twice: the first time he was drunk and the second time he was drunk and literally said to me “I just wanna have sec from behind and then go to bed” he always comes from behind and I come on top and so usually I hop on top and finish and then we switch to doggy and he finishes. We always talk about having sex when we are sober but never actually do it. One time I was complaining about how he doesn’t make out with me anymore and he like basically yelled at me for being upset about it. I’m like k. Nice, I’d feel reassured if you made out with me not yell at me for feeling insecure because of it. Anyways because of our last drunk sex where I was basically requested to be a wet hole I’m like insecure about having sex again but the man won’t do more than peck me so I guess I have nothing to worry about. Last time he was drunk and came home I was sleeping so no sex this time. Idk I feel like he’s obviously my bf to be a “good guy” because we have a baby together. He’s really the perfect gentleman and a great guy all around and has a good job and gives me and our daughter whatever we want and need and I get to stay at home mom with her. I just miss having a boyfriend that actually seems to be into me. Kinda used to it now. He won’t like any of my posts on social like pics of his own daughter and removes his tags and only has pics of his nieces on social. It’s pretty obvious he’s either ashamed of us or doesn’t want females to know he’s a dad with a gf. I know he loves his daughter. When he’s drunk at the bar he makes them like put her picture on the tv screens and brags to the whole bar about our daughter. Idk 🤷‍♀️ I’m so over it because it’s been the way it is for a long time but after I gave birth I was really craving cuddles and affection so it was hard for a few weeks but I’m good now. At night when I’m trying to sleep I feel a little sad that my boyfriend treats me more like a roommate but whatever. It is what it is. He gets mad when I’m insecure and say he doesn’t love me or like me. So I’ve pretty much stopped. I figured sharing how I was feeling he would like be like oh okay you need kisses and I want you to feel loved so I’ll give u kisses but nope. Just says shit like “I never makeout in relationships, ask all my ex girlfriends” meanwhile he’s completely forgetting I was there at the beginning of our relationship when I couldn’t get his tung out of my throat. But whatever. I feel like there’s a chance he’ll initiate sober sex just to shut me up but maybe not, I don’t really even want it anymore after the last drunk sex (I’m always sober for his drunk sex) but when he didnt want me to come…. Like how awkward for me. I’m probably always going to be insecure about finishing with him now and never do that again. I feel like it’s going to take a lot of him chasing me and wooing me and wine and dining me and endless makeout sessions for this to resolve. I love hanging out with my new baby. But it sucks my boyfriend like doesn’t like me. Feel like im at the point where im getting so used to zero affection that it’s become a way of life and this is just how it’s supposed to be. I’m like forgetting what it’s like to have a boyfriend that is into me. He just says I love you and pecks me like once or twice a day. Will sit in bed with me and watch a show because (and I quote) “you like cuddles” and I’m like if you don’t like to cuddle me then please don’t. He like denies not being into me or attracted to me but his actions say otherwise. I used to cry about it but I’m over it. Just venting I guess. Thanks if u read this whole post. 👍

My boyfriend and I will be together for 5 years in may, and have a 2 year old girl together. I currently am unemployed, and stay home with our daughter. (Side note: I'm very grateful for everything he provides for us.)

Since I'm home with her all the time, I make sure that the household chores, and pets (as well as our kid) are taken care of. However, when my bf does get home, he basically just sits on the couch and doom scrolls while I juggle making dinner, and watching our child.

I get really frustrated, because we've talked several times about ways he can help take some of the load off my shoulders, and I have told him each time how he can. He's promised to help with dishes, feeding the animals, or bath time and bed. He never follows through, so I end up doing it all.

He then asks me how he can help AFTER everything is done, sitting down for the evening, and then tells me I should have asked for help if I needed it.

For context, we usually do dinner around 7, and then it's straight to the tub and bed. It's been this way our daughters entire life.

I don't feel like I should have to ask him to do these things, when he can clearly see what needs to be done to end the evening.

I'm almost at my breaking point, and am thinking of finding my own place once I start making money. Any advice is appreciated.

Edit: I also want to mention that I've been the one that has always gotten up with our daughters during the night her entire life. He has done it a handful of times due to him getting irritated when I have woken him up, so I just do it