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Why is my last name the price of marriage?

I’m looking for some outside perspectives on a situation in my longterm relationship.

My partner and I have been together, on and off, for 12 years and have lived together for the past 7 years. We've talked about marriage, but we've reached a disagreement that neither of us seems willing to budge on.

He has told me that he doesn't want to get married unless I take his last name. The problem is that I want to keep my maiden name as part of my identity. I’m the last person in my family line with my last name, and it means a lot to me. My preference would be to hyphenate our names so I can honor both my family and our marriage.

He feels strongly that a married couple should share his last name, while I feel strongly about keeping mine in some form.
I'm curious how others would view this. Is it reasonable for him to make taking his last name a condition of marriage? Is it reasonable for me to want to keep my maiden name through hyphenation? Would this be a red flag to you, or just a difference in values that couples sometimes have to work through?

I'd appreciate honest opinions and experiences from people who have dealt with similar situations.

What are we eating in this weather?

It’s way too hot to be standing over a cooker or have the oven on… What are we eating? 🫣 I need my solid three meals… 🤣

Paternity??

Has anyone ever had doubts from the father of their child , no infidelity , just randomly requests a paternity test at the end or anytime during your pregnancy and starts treating you differently ? I’m giving him one but it makes me feel like have you had doubts this whole time ? Were those moments even real ? And just the uncomfortable feeling of him being in the room holding the baby he had doubts about :/ .

No friends

I'm 39 and have no friends!
I used to have lots of friends but as I've got older, I seem to have lost contact or life has just got in the way as we have different things going on.
I've tried everything to meet new people but nothing ever comes of it.
I thought I would meet other Mums at baby groups and things, which I did, but again no-one really that I clicked with.
Is anyone else in this situation? Any ideas of how to meet new people please?

Genuine question not trying to be hateful but HOW and why would you marry someone that doesn’t care about making you o during sex?

Sometimes I sit and wonder, with how most men are just… the way they are, how do people commit to a lifetime with one who’s not even good in bed? And follow up question if you *don’t care about sex* why?? Unless it’s trauma related which I understand.

Food!

What are we eating in this heat? 🤯Too hot to stand and cook! 😂

When to go on maternity leave

Hello! I was wondering at how many weeks do most women go on maternity leave? I work from home at my desk so my job is not physically demanding. Any advice would be appreciated! 😊

Vitamin d for breastfed baby

Also what brand are you using??

Looking for a bestie!

It’s very hard finding genuine friends. So imma take my shot and see if I can find a long term friend on here!

A little about me: I have a 3yro son. I am taken. I’m a Cancer. I love to thrift and eat. I currently live near Memphis,Tn but I’m open to a long distance friendship. Just gives me more reason to take a few vacations lol. I’m a loving and caring person. I’m outspoken, a little weird 😆, and antisocial.

Jump start period

Hiya mums, bit off topic but looking for period help- im due to get married mid July, but my period this month made a surprise 3 day early appearance which means im now due on for my wedding or the day before. I dont want to take the period stop tablets through fear of the mood swings as previously hormonal pills haven’t been kind to me. I want to get day 1/2 of my period out the way and i’ll be able to handle day 3 on the wedding day! Ive read hibiscus or parsley tea can make your period come a couple days earlier, has anyone got any experience or advice or other remedies? Looking to try and get a 24 day cycle, last month was 25 days and usually 28 days!? Is this even possible? SOS and sorry for the TMI

Teachers Gifts

My little boys officially approaching the end of his first year in nursery, he’s a September baby so he’s got another year to go before he graduates and will still be going in one day a week. I‘ve decided to give them gift cards instead of stressing over things they may or may not like. How much should I give? There’s five of them he talks about on a regular basis, his room leader is also his key worker. Do you gift differently to the key worker? 🤯 Initially I thought of baking them something as well as gift cards if I have the time for it but I may just do that during Christmas instead 🤔

Any SAHM thought about making thier own business?

So, I've been bored lately and I've been thinking about making different crafts and selling them. Actually, I am really excited and little terrified about starting my own business. I started working on ideas of what to make and sell. Also looking into what something I can make that people want that you can't really find. Sooner or later I want/probably will move .you business online once I get everything going. Hoping in a month I have everything bought and started.... 😬

Looking for ft friends

Usually don’t post on here but would anyone wanna ft and just talk bout random stuff my partner started working during the evening so I’m just usually watching tv 🤣 I need mom friends asap 😅

Second pregnancy

Hello, mamas! I found out last night that I’m pregnant! ❤️

I currently do not have any health insurance. I applied for state insurance but was denied like 3 months ago. Any advice on what my next steps should be would appreciated

Need a bestieee <3

Just a tired mom over here trying to build a peaceful home and find some real mom friends 🥺💛 Anyone in the Whittier/LA area who gets it and wants to connect? I don’t have family, it’s just me and my 2 daughters. and could really use community.<3

Anybody wanna be friends

i want someone to talk to🥲 i’m actually gonna go crazy not having and girlfriends😅
26
3 kids
Do you wanna snap?🥹

Horny

Looking for a spicy talk

How come nobody replies to messages?

I don’t understand most people on this app. If we’re all interested in looking to make more friends, why are we not holding conversations or seem interested? I don’t know why, but I’ve been on this app for two years off and on, and barely anyone responds to messages, and when they do they tend to disappear. I’m done 🥲