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Has anyone else had issues with their friends that aren't pregnant or have kids?

I have a friend at work and we've become really close over the years. But ever since I become pregnant she just doesn't understand anything I'm going through which is fine except for the fact that the past few days I have been exhausted physically and socially. We have been helping another friend out for about a month now and we've had to keep him entertained as he's going through a rough time right now and it's drained me socially . my friend at work is frustrated because I'm not talking a lot and I'm exhausted and she doesn't understand why and I'm just curious if anybody else has had issues with friends that are not going to the same thing or have gone through the same thing as you connecting with you because she's literally mad at me. She stopped talking to me at work today and I just don't understand what to do.

Lost friends since being a mum

Good morning! Can anyone relate to this!

My two friends and me have always been close since our early teens. I’m the first to have a baby.

One friend has big house, career and boyfriend

Other out of a long term relationship and being single having fun etc

Before baby we would all hang at my
Apartment, chat eat and just have
Fun.

Now I don’t even get a text to ask how my baby is, how I am. I really thought they would be awesome aunties. But honestly they don’t care.

They meet up a lot to do cool things, which I can’t be upset about as I can’t as I have my baby.

I don’t know I feel sad about it.

Am I over reacting?

Missing ex

Need help and inspiration rn. How did you stop wanting your ex back or wanting them to contact you? It’s been months with little contact. I feel like I should be over this by now. I keep having this dumb glimmer of hope that we will be a family again😔

Anyone finding this incredibly isolating?

I've had my second (premature but coming up to 1 month old) and it's hit me how isolating being in the newborn trenches are. I'd love someone I can message silly stuff to during the two am feeds or see while we cuddle our bubbas.

I have amazing friends but all their kids are older (same as my toddler) or they're just in a different period with their second.

And it's also isolating despite having a community. Does that make sense?

Pregnancy loner

Why do pregnancy feel so lonely 😫

pregnancy loneliness

i’m genuinely feeling so lonely. no one sees me. no one puts any effort in. i cannot seem to make new friends and it’s putting me in a deeper depression than ive had in a long time. idk how ill manage this

Those without a village..

Do you ever wonder what it’s like to be so loved and cared for by lots of people?
I have 0 support in my life, I have 3 kids, 1 being tested for autism, I’m going through a rough breakup which will ultimately end up being a divorce and not 1 person has asked how I am. My mum, my brothers they know what I’m going through but no one offers any support emotionally or even asks if I’m doing ok.
I see people doing pregnancy announcements and it makes me emotional to see how happy people are for women and how supportive and loving they are.
I just really wish I had that some days. The few friends I have leave me on read for days and don’t seem to be bothered to make an effort. Just makes me so down

Help a mama feel better

Anyone else not enjoying the newborn stage? I’m really struggling and I feel like a bad mam for feeling like this, can anyone relate? Baffles me when people say they want more than one when I’m over here struggling with one 😭

Stronger than you think

I don’t even wanna be awake but you know I’m glad I have a walking buddy

My second pregnancy and it feels so lonely. Almost no one asks about the baby, no gifts (which don’t matter but basically no attention), I feel no one is excited specially because I’ll be having the same gender.

Feels hard because you still go through all the things physical aches and stuff. By yourself!

Socialising

I’m due on July 9th, and lately I just don’t feel like myself socially. Before pregnancy, I loved seeing my friends, making plans, going out it used to genuinely excite me. But now… I just don’t have the energy or desire for it.

All I seem to want is to stay at home, be with my partner, and keep things really low-key. I’ve been cancelling plans a lot, and it’s starting to make me feel like a bad friend or like I’m being selfish. I do love my friends, nothing has changed in that sense I just don’t feel up to socialising at all.

I’m also just so exhausted all the time, and part of me worries I’m isolating myself or that something’s wrong with me.

Has anyone else felt like this during pregnancy? Is this normal? I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who’s gone through something similar 🤍

FTM scared of being alone with baby

5wks pp… is it just me? Anyone else feel this way now or in the past? What helps?

Today I realized....

Today, while venting (in my head, as I have no friends) I realized that "I like my husband less than I like a stranger"

I may sound mean, and I hadn't meant it that way. (I never said it aloud) but DAMN
"Honey, I like you LESS THAN I like a stranger."

........

Do depression meds help for this?

I can’t tell if I’m actually depressed and medication would help or I’m just chronically dirt poor and never get a second for myself. Do depression meds help if your depression is really situational?

Friendships after having a baby…

I only have a few friends who have known me a few years before i became a mum and i feel like they will never understand me until they become mums. They have their own lives where they have fun, spend time with friends, go dinners, museums etc and i’m never considering or included in any of these. They will come visit us and they’ll barely make conversations with me anymore. I feel like im completely invisible as a person and im now only seen as my baby’s mum. Which of course i am and i love it that im her mum but theres also a person behind that title that is being forgotten and i dont know how to feel about it.

My closest friend has been ignoring me, replying late to my messages and its just bringing up so much resentment. She is a busy person but im also a person who has feelings and again i feel like im not being thought of.

Can anyone offer any advice or tell me about your similar experiences and what happened to your friendships in the end? I really dont want to lose my friends as i always hold them dear and near to my heart but it’s upsetting me more and more over time…

I need mum friends.

I have a 5 year old and a 7 month old. I find my self stuck in the same rut all the time.
Does anyone else feel the same?
I have friends but they never seem to bother unless it benefits them and it’s really getting me down

Friends

Imma just be honest imma mom of a beautiful 9 month old baby boy and I’m lonely

Alone

Welp. I expressed negative feelings to my husband and he responded with “I don’t feel comfortable talking when you’re angry”. Now we’re sleeping separately and I’m along for the night with the baby.
Trying not cry too loud- baby’s asleep (thank goodness). But I feel so unheard, so alone, so frustrated. My baby doesn’t like riding in the car, so I can’t even get out for a drive.
I’m a recovering stoner (over a year) and don’t want to turn to alcohol, so I’m alone with my thoughts and anxieties.
Feeling raw/vulnerable. May delete this later

Scared of how I will cope

My little one will be here soon, I already love them so much. But as my due date looms, I’m getting more and more apprehensive of the impending massive life change and inevitable loss of independence 😢 has anyone felt the same way and how did you get over it?

Mother’s Day…..

So it’s almost 8pm on Mother’s Day and I haven’t a single message from anyone, none of my mum “friends” messaged, no family, literally not a single person. I’ve been trying to hold it all together but I genuinely feel so alone. There’s also other stuff that’s gone on and made me realise that people don’t care the same way I do about them…. Is anyone else feeling this today.