Community Posts, Tips & Support on Mental Health

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I miss my pre baby body

I really miss my perky boobs and pre baby bod. I catch myself staring at others cleavages and I wanna cry. I don’t feel sexy and young anymore. It’s so hard to accept because I can’t change without wanting to cry

Nursery drop offs

Genuine question to parents out there. Why is it so hard to say a simple hello to other parents at pick up/drop off at nursery , why go out of your way to avoid other parents, wouldn't it just be easier to say hello. Surely it's harder to avoid, seems so odd when we have something HUGE in common.... I get that we don't have time for full blown convos or room for more friends in our lives but surely it's just polite to acknowledge other parents.

For someone who's just moved to a new town I'm finding it incredibly difficult to find other parents to chat to, everything seems so closed. Yes it's my responsibility to go out there and go to mum groups and classes but it takes 2 to form a bond and there is effort required from both sides.

Im exhausted. Does anyone feel the same?

Motherhood blues

What can I do to stop letting myself feel so lonely when it’s just me and my daughter. I know I’m not alone because I’m with her but coming from a failing marriage husbands never around to help or just hangout with us so it’s just me and her I been doing it for a year and still not use to it does it ever get easier?

Is it normal to feel lonely?

Is anyone else feeling lonely during pregnancy? People who I thought were friends don’t bother to message or check in. Family members don’t either.
I’m not expecting everyone to constantly message me or anything like that, but even just once in a while it would be nice to get something to say “how are you/bump doing”.
I feel like I’ve got no friends to talk to about anything really and my partner seems dismissive of things I try to tell him about the pregnancy. I get he’s busy working almost 7 days a week currently but it just gets me down.

Want to give up on Everything life is hard

There’s been times where I wanna give up cause everything not falling into play for me and babies and I carry everyone problems but my own problems and it is not fair to my kids that can not tend to them how I want to cause of financial issues

Can you love your kids so much and at the same time missing your life before having them?

I really love my children, and I enjoy playing and spending time with them! seeing them growing is the biggest blessing.. BUT I don’t recognise myself anymore. I used to have so much social life, plenty of friends, dates with my husband, travels and free time to eat out, going to galleries, theatre and now I am doing nothing at all.. just home, work, cooking, prepping things for my kids. Who am I now??

Does reality TV also mess with your mind a little?

Okay, random observation, tell me if I’m the only one.

If I watch something gross like too much fighting on a reality TV show — on my phone or TV — does it impact my mental well-being?

It’s not every day. Sometimes once a week, twice or thrice.

But after watching those aggressive fights, I feel like it kind of infects me.

Not like I start fighting. But some kind of excitement and irritation starts getting into my mind. Like my mind is still buzzing, still restless.

Is it okay to watch it? Does it really impact us?

I feel like it does, even if it’s just once in a while.

Has this ever happened to you?

Let share our stories

Let’s have a little deep conversation. ❤️

What’s one experience that made you stronger?
What’s the biggest mistake you’ve learned from?
What’s a life lesson you wish you had learned earlier?
What changed the way you see life?

I’d love to hear your stories. No judgment, just genuine conversations. 🫶

Why does everyone say it gets easier?! 😮‍💨

It doesn’t get easier you just replace hard things with something different that’s hard.
Do you feel the same?!

Am I bonkers 🤪

I have two boy’s 13month’s apart and I have this nagging feeling I’m not done I want one more , my partner is firm no says he is done😂
I don’t mean right now in a couple of year’s time maybe I should admit defeat 😩🙈

Feeling disappointed and angry towards people who haven’t shown up

Feel so angry and disappointed by friends and family who I thought would check in or want to see the baby or come over or ask how I am and they haven’t.

I can’t shake this feeling of anger and hurt. How do I get rid of it and just forget about people?

Need someone to talk to

I wish I had a best friend I'm going through so much and I just wish I had someone I could call and talk to that isn't going to judge me or anything. Life has been so fking hard recently and I just feel like a failure as a mom and idk how to handle it I feel like everything is just out of my control idk how to explain it

SAHM

When I tell people im tired of being a sahm I actually mean that im tired of being the only person that takes care of the house , im tired of not getting time for myself im tired of talking about if paying bills means more than raising our child and keeping the house together , im tired of being disregarded, im tired of ONLY being a wife and a mom. Im tired of feeling bad for wanting to enjoy myself by myself.

Depression/Mental Health

Has anyone been diagnosed with PND or anxiety? If so, have they been able to do anything to help you?

Interested in hearing stories from people that have experienced either positive or negative outcomes.

I’m not sure if I am struggling more than ‘normal’ and if it’s worth speaking to someone.

Feeling fed up of life

Since the last month or so, life is really feeling repetitive. Work every day, pick up toddler from nursery, home on my own in the evenings as husband gets home at 11pm mostly. I’m getting sick of seeing him at the weekends even, I don’t know what I can do to turn this around 😭 it’s bringing me down atm. The long dark evenings don’t help plus my family live an hour away. Not sure what is going on. Does anyone else feel like this?

Help

Does anyone see a second line? I always feel like I see something

4 months PP

Hi mamas I just hit 4 mo pp and everything has been great up just very tiring but so worth it until recently ive felt so lonely and like my life is falling behind? I don’t feel like myself still and I guess I thought I would. I feel guilty for feeling like this because it somehow makes me think I’m saying something negative about my baby girl and I’m definitely grateful and praise God for her every day. I work from home full time so I’m kind of here all day but thankfully my husband does to. Any advise on getting through this season?

Alone

I'm currently 11 weeks postpartum and I am mentally struggling a lot. I have a partner to support me but he has friends who have just had a child also so he can relate to them whereas all my friends don't have any children. I'm 20 years old and feel like I don't have many friends

Back to work

I returned to a new role today and am really fortunate that I am working 2 days a week until 3:30pm and a few extra hours later in the week. My partner works a later shift so dinner, bath and bed are all me. It was so rough after being at work all day to then have to do that all on my own. Does anyone else have the same? I’d Love to know that I’m not alone with the solo evening shift as a working mum and how are you coping if you do this part of the day alone? It is tough out here! I’m presuming I’ll just get used to it as I have no other choice but my god I miss the days of finishing work and sitting on the sofa all evening🙈