Community Posts, Tips & Support on Mental Health

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Lonely

Does anyone else feel so lonely in motherhood and feel bad that their kids have no friends either? It’s so difficult to make Mum friends, I have no one to go on play dates with or to invite to my daughter’s birthday. I’m not originally from Manchester but I feel like I’ve tried so much so now I’m thinking it’s me? Maybe I’m unlikeable

Does seeing others achieve /do well motivate you in life?

I know when I see others doing great and doing what I want to do it should motivate me to think I can also be like them and achieve but it just has the opposite effect on me and makes me depressed. Not for lack of trying but because some aspects in my life are not changing for the better as quick as I would like. How to get out of this rut and maybe stop being envious/jealous?

I m sick and tired of being ugly

I am 45 and always struggled with my appearance,I have really big nose,wonky teeth( my mum never bothered tit ake me to orthodontist,on top I'd it all I had really nad diet and my teeth are awfull) I also have policystic ovaries so I m hairy,and I can't loose weight..i m no good at anything,I m not liked by many people,never had any interest from men,I ended up I anusvue relationship because i was hapoy that someone was giving me attention.i was born into poverty,alcoholism and I seriously feel like I had enough of life.If I could get something,anything,looks,personality,intelligence,talent,anything....I m nothing...

Would love to connect with women stuck between staying and leaving

Is anyone else currently separated or considering divorce, but keeps going back and forth about what to do?

I’d really love to connect privately with other women who are in that in-between stage too especially if you’re struggling with indecision, grief, guilt, missing them one minute and wanting to move on the next.

Would be nice to have someone who genuinely gets it, where we can support each other without judgement 🤍 Feel free comment then I'll message you.

Feeling lonely and excluded

My husband and I were from different areas before we met, I moved in with him and now we have a beautiful baby. I have no friends or family nearby. My husband comes from a very large family and several of his family members had babies around the same time we did, which is nice but I never get included in any group events/outings/group chats. Even his mom I expected would want to stop by more often, but she doesn’t. I spend 24/7 with the baby and I love him to death but I rarely get adult conversation other than my husband. I feel like I am all alone as a new mom

Feeling lonely 🫤

I do t know if it’s the fact that I have two or less weeks left #38weeks or what but i truly feel like I don’t have a village, anyone else feeling lonely as they get closer to their due date?

Mind you I’m in the process of washing clothes, bottles, and pump parts, organizing the room and car… etc trying to prepare for my second LO’s arrival

First time mummy🩷

Hey,
I’m a first time, full time single mum (from the beginning) with no support at all!
I know I am doing an amazing job😍

…But why do I feel like I’m not💔

Feeling stuck.

I'm a stay at home mom and now that both my kids are in school I'm at a stand still of what to do with my time. Not sure I even know who I am anymore. Anyone else going through this?

mums without mums 💔😪

Anyone else no contact with their mum or other family members? It is so hard and isolating, I wish I could have had that perfect family, my baby should have grandma and other family!! I tried so many times to fix it and to deal with my mom and at least try to stay cordial and ignore her remarks but my mom was always so overly dramatic and mean to me, she even said I’m not her child anymore and to not come around for holidays about 4 years ago because she didn’t like the guy I’m with 💔😪 Our relationship was always strained since I was a child too..

Fed up!

Is anyone else just finding this stage really, really hard? The tantrums, the not listening, my LO is fully in their hitting and kicking era. I get told I’m a good Mum but the point is that my LO doesn’t make me FEEL like I’m a good Mum if that makes sense? I took them out this morning and I felt like everyone was watching their behaviour. I looked around and it felt as though every other Mum/toddler was having a lovely time. I ended up cutting our trip short as I had enough and cried as soon as I got in the car. I find it easy to open up and to speak to friends about how I feel, but the hard bit in that is I find very rarely do I get met with ‘yes we’re going through that too!’ I feel like there’s such a thing with people wanting to make out things are perfect rather than just being honest!

i am so homesick..

my husband and i are living in florida, my family all lives in ohio. i came to ohio with our daughter (he stayed in florida because he had to work) and ive really enjoyed it. i dont feel so lonely, in florida all i have is my husband, our daughter, and his mom. here the main person i have is my mom but she can help me and talk to me during times my husband is at work. i actually get to interact with more people go get out a lot more, it has been so nice. i miss my husband but i have been missing just spending time with my family / being around them. this was my first time my brothers, grandparents, and aunts have met my daughter. she is 3 1/2 months and we do plan to move back to ohio in the future, we are planning for before she starts kindergarten, but i just wish we lived here now. being back in ohio really makes me realize how much i miss it and how much i miss my family.

I wanna disappear

I have been with my husband for 15 years and currently have two kids. I have always been on the back burner , I use to be fun, i was fashionable and considered "pretty" and I swear to you im everything but . all that now, I hate myself and I stopped looking at myself for 5 years . I would avoid all mirrors and now that I finally got back into the groove... i dont like what I see. I wanna go "lick my wounds" in private. And im trying very hard to not do it.

Struggling

Does anyone feel like they are not cut out to be a stay at home mom?

NYC Anyone?

There are so many people here, but its still so lonely. I want to make friends, but I feel like in my neighborhood its really impossible if you don't fit the mold. I live on the UES, but I am by no means rich. My husband and I went from dual to single income. The women in my community talk about nannys, private schools, and plastic surgery. I never had friends here to begin with, so now that I'm becoming a Mom I understand how even more isolating it is.

I'll be honest, I'm a hermit. When I don't have someone to go places with, I very rarely leave my apartment. Would anybody in this group like to do both? Apartment/netflix and chill + go on a walk along the river or go to the park?

Being 32 weeks has made even smaller errands feel immobilizing.

I'll make tea. I'll even spill the tea! I'm also a great listener. If there's someone a few months behind me in their pregnancy I'd even love to pass down my baby items as they become available to another Mom looking to save money.

I could really use some advice from other people who went through difficult mental stressers while pregnant, encouragement, and some in-person friendship. I believe in God, and am spiritual. If we have that in common thats awesome, but I'll never try to push it on you.

I am scared to meet people, but figure this is worth a try.

Sorry if this comes off as desperate.

Do you have these kind of days ?

I’ve been scrolling through my gallery and got so nostalgic.
I have a pretty baby girl that’s 10 months , a good partner and an upcoming wedding. We moved to live close to the beach because it was my childhood dream , we are still trying to travel even though it’s different now and I don’t have to worry about finances and etc .
However, I constantly find myself grieving my old life . I looked at the pictures and I’m so happy there and I miss it but then I’m trying to remember if I was really happy at that time and no I was very very sad partying and traveling too much just to escape loneliness and reality.
I got pregnant when we were together with my partner not the full 2 years and I miss the moments when we were just 2 of us . Hugging and enjoying company of each other. We are still trying to have dates , kisses and hugs etc but it feels completely different.
Sometimes I feel like I’m missing baby”s moments because I’m still in my imaginary life that was or maybe wasn’t before the baby .
All my friends are without kids and seeing them so free and independent makes me question everything 🤦🏻‍♀️
We have fights sometimes with my partner because of that , but at the same time we have 11 years difference and I think I can be having my own crises . He already went through them and telling me just to relax and not to take everything so personal- is a little weird because come on man , you lived your life and were not even thinking to have a baby at my age so yes I can be sad sometimes and miss parties or whatever. Maybe it’s also because we had a lot of fights after my PP that’ I suppose somehow effected our relationship .
Everything is good but my brain is always jumping to conclusions that gonna lead me to believe otherwise…. Like a survival mode , thinking that everything cannot be good true

Lonely

Nobody talks about how lonely it is when your postpartum with no family around and really not many friends cuz all my friends in Texas and I’m in IL … I need new connections and friends really bad , I’m a mom first n a baddie right after drop socials if your wanting to really build a connection! We can talk about being moms or just talk about anything ! Lmk❤️ and come as you are too 😌

Breakup

Hi

I’m really struggling recently with finding anyone who’s possibly went through or knows anyone going through my situation 😭 my fiancé wanted to separate recently after 15 years together and our baby who is 4 months I can’t ever get my brain around how you just stop loving someone our house is getting valued this week and everything just feels so numb not many people will have probably went through this so maybe I’m just being hopeful! X

Little to no help

Is anyone else getting little to no help by friends/family.
When I was pregnant I found out I would be a single mummy. I was promised by my family especially my mum I would get lots of support and help. Since the baby being about 2 weeks old it all stopped I’m lucky if I get 5 mins a week of help. Anyone else experiencing this. I’m struggling bad. Baby is now 11 weeks old.
Any advice x

The irony

Imagine criticizing someone else's life while your own life has things that clearly need attention.

Does anyone else ever feel completely overstimulated as a mum? 😩🤎🤎🤎

Its not that I don’t want to be around my kids… sometimes there’s just SO much going on at once. Constant questions, noise, being touched, things needing to be done, everyone needing you — and suddenly your brain is just like, I need a minute! 😂

I love being a mum, but sometimes I just crave a quiet cup of coffee, a bit of peace and five minutes where nobody needs me. ☕️😂