Community Posts, Tips & Support on Mental Health

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Lonely

Hi I’m a stay at home mum to my 2 year old girlie. I love it although it is challenging at times. I’ve lost all my friends I only had really two close friends and they no longer keep in touch which is hard as I thought they would. I’m so lonely. Does anyone else feel this way?

Having a rough morning

I feel so stupid typing this out but I'm just having a really rough morning and struggling with my mental health and depression. I don't have any family out here 5 months pregnant I don't have a lot of friends and I really don't have anyone to talk to and could really use a friend right now

Hi mums so I’m 25 &
I have a two year old little girl and it’s only us two everyday … I have no friends myself so it’s hard to find stuff to do daily especially alone as I have really bad anxiety we are still waiting for a nursery place

I just wish I could find a genuine mum friend who doesn’t have a secret agenda towards me and we can just raise our kids together but it’s way harder for me because I feel like I don’t fit in anywhere at all anymore ..
I know there are some mums going through the same

Intimacy

I’m just over 8 weeks pp, and I have 0 interest in being intimate. Has anyone else felt like this?

Feeling lonely

Good evening I was just wondering if I’m the only one who feels more lonely now that I’m pregnant than I did prior. I don’t know if it’s hormones. I assumed stupidly my child’s father would be more involved in happy about the pregnancy, but he seems to never wanna talk about it. I don’t know. Maybe I’m just depressed.

Lonely

Anyone feel so lonely after having kids and no one cares about you anymore, but the husband has all the friends and his life stays the same ofcourse 😒

Struggling ❤️‍🩹

I feel like every time I think I’m getting better with my prenatal depression it kicks in 10x more. One day I’m doing good one day I’m ready to set it off. I dont know if thats Gods way of telling me to be alone and shift focus but im having a hard time mentally.. this is the hardest for me.. I just wanna be strong for my kids.

Feeling abandoned

I feel abandoned after birth. We are together, but it feels as though he cares about everything but us. He doesn’t wanna hear it when I say this, he says he feels unappreciated.

Bored

I’m on maternity leave and I feel… conflicted. I love being with my baby and I’m definitely busy, but mentally I feel under-stimulated and honestly kind of bored at times. Then I feel guilty for even thinking that.

I’m having a hard time shutting my brain off and just “being,” especially coming from a fast-paced work life.

Has anyone else felt like this? What helped you stay mentally engaged or feel more like yourself again during this stage?

Feeling alone

Lately I'm not ok and feeling me does anyone feel like this at all??

Finding it hard to connect with other Mums

I don't know if this is just me. Does anyone else find it weird to connect with other Mums who didn't have to go through the whole premature baby experience? I find it really difficult and isolating. Like how can they ever relate to not being able to bring your baby home and start your new life the very same day! That experience just seems so dreamy to me, like it wasn't my reality, like, at all. My reality felt like a horrible, cruel nightmare. Like my baby was not well when she was born. It was really scary and for what felt like a really long time as well... The whole thing just It feels weird now when chatting with other Mums

Coping with sleep deprivation

How is everyone coping with lack of sleep? I feel like such a hermit but the lack of sleep is really getting to me. I go out for a long walk everyday with my daughter, but I can’t muster anything else. The lack of socialising is starting to get to me but my social battery is so low that the thought of going out and chatting with others just feels too much. Anyone else feel this way?! X

For those that are paying attention to what’s going on in the US and the state of the WORLD…(Not enough people are)—How are you all coping?

How are you managing a full time job that is funding genocides—-Seeing our rights being slowly taken away. They already came for our reproductive rights. They’re trying to disenfranchise millions of female voters by passing the Save Act. Mainstream media and social media censoring. Mass civilian surveillance. Poisoned water, food. A health care system that puts a band aid on illness to keep the business going—and coming back home to your kids and pretending like anything about this shit is normal. Oh and our world leaders run the largest human trafficking ring. AND the US is trying to cover it up and refuses to hold anyone accountable. And these are the people in charge. Such commendable beings. I’m pretty anxious. So besides self care. How are you coping? Maybe you can comment on what you do for self care.

Do you ever feel like ‘damaged goods’ since becoming a Mum?

So basically my partner and I are not on great terms, and haven’t been for a while now. I keep thinking this might be it for us and we’d be better off separating, but one thing always comes to mind when I think about ever meeting someone new. I know in the grander scheme of things that meeting someone else isn’t exactly top priority but I hate to think of a life where I’m single forever, so of course it crossed my mind a lot.
The thing which worries me is that ever since having a child and becoming a Mum I feel like I’m damaged goods, in the eyes of anyone else that is. I feel like no one would ever be interested in me again.

Does anyone else have this feeling, or felt this way in the past?

Venting

I wanted to create a place to vent as we all head into the final countdown! Misery loves company 🥴😂

I’ll go first.

My workouts are lame. It hurts when I get up from sitting. I’m hungry but my stomach is too squished to eat. And my ribs are killing me.

Does anyone else feel lonely sometimes in motherhood?

I love my baby more than anything, but there are moments where I realize I’ve never really had a “best friend”… and becoming a mom kind of makes that feeling louder.
I have sisters and I’m grateful for them, but it’s not the same as having that one person you can text all day, vent to, or just feel fully understood by.
Some days it feels like I’m doing everything right as a mom, but still missing that connection for me.

Feeling useless

Im currently unwell and so are both my children. Weve spent the morning watching lion ling and 101 dalmations, reading and the baby crawling round floor play and cuddles. I feel like a really awful parent the screen time makes me feel horrendous, how do people manage when ill, i have no energy to do much. Feels like im damaging them

My village is missing

This is a late night vent session obviously but l make it short. My boyfriend and I went to a basketball game in Orlando. His sister was babysitting our son. We come back tonight for her to say he slept for 6 hours and just woke up. Now what type of shit is that. I’ve been feeling lately like no one cares for me or helps out in the way I need them to. People want to see you smile but don’t try to find the cause when you’re not. I’m an only child and my mom lives far. I feel very alone even with the dad involved. I feel alone and like I’m doing it all. I can’t even imagine having another kid which I want but this life here is tough

Has anyone else had issues with their friends that aren't pregnant or have kids?

I have a friend at work and we've become really close over the years. But ever since I become pregnant she just doesn't understand anything I'm going through which is fine except for the fact that the past few days I have been exhausted physically and socially. We have been helping another friend out for about a month now and we've had to keep him entertained as he's going through a rough time right now and it's drained me socially . my friend at work is frustrated because I'm not talking a lot and I'm exhausted and she doesn't understand why and I'm just curious if anybody else has had issues with friends that are not going to the same thing or have gone through the same thing as you connecting with you because she's literally mad at me. She stopped talking to me at work today and I just don't understand what to do.

Lost friends since being a mum

Good morning! Can anyone relate to this!

My two friends and me have always been close since our early teens. I’m the first to have a baby.

One friend has big house, career and boyfriend

Other out of a long term relationship and being single having fun etc

Before baby we would all hang at my
Apartment, chat eat and just have
Fun.

Now I don’t even get a text to ask how my baby is, how I am. I really thought they would be awesome aunties. But honestly they don’t care.

They meet up a lot to do cool things, which I can’t be upset about as I can’t as I have my baby.

I don’t know I feel sad about it.

Am I over reacting?