Community Posts, Tips & Support on Mental Health

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Anyone have days they just don’t want to parent.

Both my girls have been poorly for 6 weeks because my eldest started nursery and it’s literally one thing after another.

My youngest threw up all over my bed last night and I just hate seeing them so poorly it’s mentally draining not being able to help them.

I have woken up with my whole body aching and the shakes so I’m guessing I’m joining them. I’m struggling and have no one to help.

I’m also nearly out of wipes so I have to go out and get some. Honestly just feeling really sorry for myself.

Solo parenting has hit hard today 😣😭

Loneliness☀️

Is anyone experiencing loneliness during pregnancy too? I have an amazing partner, who is super helpful in everything. Although he’s happy to listen to me rant, or moan about certain symptoms. We both know that he’ll never truly get it, he’s a man. This is preventing me from sharing things with him, especially prenatal depression traits. It leaves me feeling alone at times. I don’t have other mum friends to relate to. I love to know if I’m the only one feeling like this so I can suck it up, or actually others do feel like this. ❤️‍🩹

Give up

I feel so lost in the world right now is there any mommas who don’t judge at all ! And have been In a difficult with ex and still loving them but both in weird living situations ? Any mommas who won’t judge I am so lost anymore all I do is cry ? I just want to give up

how does your SO make you feel appreciated??

I told my hubby I didn't feel appreciated by him, and he asked me how did I wanted to feel appreciated, and I didn't know what to say...

Loneliness as a Sahm

Feeling so lonely as a Sahm of 3 kiddos more and more and not having a village makes it worse. I’m so burnt out and just in a state of stress and my nervous system is just so messed up. I’m so lost in motherhood idk who I am anymore.

Has being officially diagnosed with a mental health disorder damaged your self esteem?

For me it has. Before I was told I have mental health issues I felt a lot more confident. I’m not saying I was happy, but I didn’t feel like so ashamed of myself. All I do now is tell myself there’s something wrong with me, when I try to come out of my comfort zone, I feel like a fraud, like everyone is going to find out there is something wrong with me. I don’t believe I can do anything or belong anywhere, I just feel like a freak.

Am I the only one?

We’ve got a 4 year old and 1 year old. And I feel like we’re hanging on by a thread. Cannot keep up with the housework or laundry even if I feel like I’m trying my hardest. It’s just constant. And I look around and feel like every other parent has it together.

Feeling lonely

I feel deeply saddened to always be alone. It's nice to have my baby for company, but it's not the same thing. I wish my husband was able to be home more. He's gone for 2 weeks and he's home for 1 to 3 days. I have one friend and she's usually busy and my family is all usually busy.

Work

I’ve gone back to work and feel so behind. Everyone I started with has been promoted and moved on within the organisation and I’m with a new team and feel so behind. Now if I was to have another child because I do I’ll fall even more behind 😭

Feeling disconnected.

I’m 3 weeks PP and I know it’s totally normal but I’m feeling really sad about how I’m getting no quality time with my partner. He’s been totally amazing looking after me and my kids and doing all the cooking and cleaning and I feel he’s getting ignored. Not purposely it’s just I’m so tired, exclusively breastfeeding, healing from a C-section.

I know it’ll get better but I miss the intimacy between us and think it’s the worst part of postpartum tbh! Anyone feeling the same?

Choosing to stay at home

I had my little one in January and after thinking about it for a long time I decided to stay home with him. With The price of daycare it honestly didn’t make sense for me to go back to work. My fiancé and I both worked at our local hospital I was there for about 6 years and honestly when he gets home and tells me about his day I miss it. I also don’t have a car so I can’t go anywhere during the day. Which makes finding a part time job very hard. It’s not that I regret choosing to stay home. I love that I get to spend so much time with my son and see him change and grow into his personality. But I do miss my job and I miss my friends. Does anybody else feel this way. Does it get better?

Doesn't anyone else just sits at home over the weekend and do nothing?

I m single mum,i dont have any friends or family nearby,I work Monday to Friday and all I do at weekends in clean and sit on a couch and watch netflix.evey weekend looks the same and I get annoyed if I have to do something else. Anybody else? Or it there's something wrong with me?

Am I the only mom that doesn’t want to be around my family tomorrow? Like at all?

Unfortunately, I’ve been battling with my relationship. I’m a mother of two (ages 1 and 11) and my partner is not the most “thoughtful” person. I feel so unseen, under appreciated and just overall not the greatest. I’d much rather spend the day alone - relaxing than to feel so uncared for on a day that should feel extra special. Am I the only one?

Am I expecting too much from others ?

im sincerely struggling with loneliness during this pregnancy i’ve always struggled with friendships because it’s always one sided , friends who are inconsistent and only reply when they feel like it . It’s draining so i stopped putting in the energy blowing up peoples phone . I was never the type to be like I’m not texting first but after a long time, I realize it’s best for my sanity and mental health because it really all just one side truly and it drains you . I have people that check on me every now and then saying how much they’re there for me & how much they love and care for me and I just don’t feel like it’s sincere. I need you guys to understand if you read this that I’m not asking someone to blow up my phone all day or always hanging out all I can say is regardless of anything everybody picks up their phone everyday these are people that I know who spend time on the phone during the day. I’m just asking for consistency and something genuine .
And sometimes it feels like i’m asking for the world .
I have my husband and I’m truly grateful for that he really is my best friend the biggest support he does everything with me and doesn’t open his mouth to every complain but sometimes I do want a true friend and it hurts a lot .

And I wanna be open to meet new people but it’s a cycle no one replies 😅

Leaving my husband

, I am so fed up of being the default parent all the time and I am fed up of doing so much of the parenting and household shit. My husband does more than lots of men but I just feel like I would rather be on my own, at least then I would have some time on my own when he has his boys every other weekend. Am I over reacting?

Sad 😢

My boyfriend took our 11 month old to go see his family for the day. I didn't go because they don't know I'm pregnant yet. I feel sad and alone, I really have no friends and I don't know how to be alone

Feel so alone

Mum of 3 I feel
So alone right now going threw a breakup only last night it ended !!
I just feel crap today

Going threw a breakup

Going threw a breakup finding it hard atm I have also just moved to a new area and away from all family etc
So it’s very hard atm
The loneliness is horrible
The anxiety it’s all just sad right now
My hearts hurting
I don’t want go into details
Just reaching out

Insecure

I don’t feel like myself anymore :( I don’t know how to feel like myself

Antisocial

I’m currently 33 weeks pregnant with my first. I definitely have noticed I feel extremely antisocial, and I just don’t want to make small talk in my office job I would rather sit in a back office for 8 hours on my own. I feel like my coworkers of course know I’m in my third trimester but I feel bad I just can’t muster enough energy to socialize and be bubbly. No one has done anything untoward to me but I just am in my head others think I may be a grouch or awkward? Has anyone experienced this, and did it get better?