Pregnancy
  • G
  • 12 months ago

Grieving During Pregnancy

I am 23 weeks pregnant. In June my boyfriend died, so I’m doing this without a partner. Grief is bottomless...It has taken the front seat to everything else going on in my life, including my pregnancy. I am wondering if anyone out there has been deep in grief during pregnancy? I feel like I’m alone in this.
  • J
  • 12 months ago

I’m so sorry for your loss 😔 I lost my mom two weeks ago I thought it would push me over the edge as I was due soon,I felt guilty for not being happy when my baby was due any minute.I felt bad that my mom would never meet her, you’re stronger than you will ever know. You can get through this x

  • C
  • 12 months ago

I lost my grandad to covid and my nan a week after due to heartbreak when I was pregnant x

  • V
  • 12 months ago

My deepest condolences 💐 hun to you and your family.

  • B
  • about 1 year ago

Firstly, I am so sorry for your loss 💗 Secondly, give yourself time to grieve be kind to yourself your going through so much right now. Pregnancy can be difficult enough. Surround yourself with friends and family for emotional and mental support it will really help. Talk to them about anything and everything Take each day at a time and as it comes. You'll have good days and bad days. It's okay to cry, it's okay to laugh. Remember the good times your memories of him will never be taken from you they will always be in your mind and your heart.When your little one is born tell them about him throughout their life this in turn will help you so much. If you are struggling please see speak to your doctor there is so much help out there for grieving and loss. Although not the same I lost my nan to undetected cancer when my baby was 8 days old. She passed in February 2020 so it's still quite raw even though some months have passed. She was more like my mum than a nan x

  • L
  • about 1 year ago

I lost my brother 3 weeks before I gave birth. He sadly took his own life so was a shock passing. I was extremely close to my brother & it’s been 7 weeks today and am still struggling with his loss massively. I really feel for you as one thing I have found is no help for mums to be who have lost a loved one during pregnancy. These little babies are very resilient thou, I literally got home from my brothers funeral and labour started. My son knew it was safe to enter the world! Just make sure you are looking after yourself, getting extra checks is recommended. Also inform all medical staff of your situation. They have a duty of care to you not just your baby! If you ever need to talk please message xxx

  • K
  • 12 months ago

Dear Ginny, I’m so sorry. Please know you are not alone, even though it feels that way. I lost my mom unexpectedly right before I got pregnant. I felt like I spent my whole pregnancy staring at the wall and crying. Yes, you do have to just “go through it” but try and ask for help. Grief counselors, therapist, a friend, anyone who can just sit with you and listen as you go through these emotions. I hope you can strike a balance between gritting your teeth and getting through it, and also letting the emotions come up and express them even though it’s so hard and ugly. If you don’t let them come out now, they will surely come out later and probably worse. If you have people reaching out to and trying to help, let them be there for you. Try not to isolate yourself. What you’ve gone through is extraordinarily traumatic and I’m sending you thoughts of strength. I’m here if you need to talk. Wrapping my arms around you. ❤️

  • G
  • about 1 year ago

The conditions surrounding my boyfriends death, while not suicide, have proven to complicate things for me. I’m so mad. I don’t want to talk to anyone or do anything to cause any further pain. One of the first things I did after he died was call my healthcare provider and inform them. They have been amazing and told me I truly just need to go through this/there is no way around it. Thankfully, grief is not the same as stress on a baby, though they can look the same. I am so sorry about your brother. This year can end anytime now!

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