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Recent discussions

Alone

Anyone else raising a toddler without a village around?
I’m struggling at the moment 🥲

I’m booked in for an iron infusion on Friday and feeling really nervous about it! 😩 I’d love to hear about other people’s experiences, especially if you’ve had one before.

How did it go for you? Did you experience any side effects, either during or afterwards? And how long did it take before you started noticing an improvement in how you felt?

I’d really appreciate hearing your experiences, as I’m feeling quite anxious about the whole thing! ❤️

For the 1 and done mamas

Hi all, for all the mamas who has decided 1 is enough..how do you feel about that decision?

What are pros to this.
Most importantly how does your kid feel?

Grandparents Visits

Hi, LO is 5.5 months and both sets of grandparents live 10-15 min away. When LO was a newborn, visits were frequent, now once a week from my side and maybe every other week from dads. I want baby to be close to her grandparents and for them to know baby’s cues. They grow so fast and what was happening one week could be so different the next. Because she’s still little, it would be nice for visits to happen instead of expecting us to visit them (though who doesn’t like to feel special with a visit) Sooo who should visit who? Both ways? More on their end than ours?

Absent Family

Any advice for a first time mum who hasn’t got a village to help? It’s just me and my partner. I thought my family (who live 30 minutes drive from us) would be more involved in their first grandchild but they’ve visited 3 times in 4 months. We went out yesterday and everything I was doing with my baby was wrong or criticised. I can’t win and I’m feeling very upset about it. My in laws all live in Scotland and would love more than anything to be closer. Any advice from others who don’t have family help? We knew it would be mostly us raising our baby, but I didn’t think they would be this bad

Feeling overwhelmed

So i am white and the father most likely is black. (Please don't judge) i feel like i'm gonna get all the time while out with the baby "awh, how cute! Who's baby is it?" Any other biracial moms get this and how did you handle the situation?

How do you cope?

Hi mamas, my husband and I have a 7 month old and we would like to have more children but I am afraid if I can cope. My family don't live in this country and his is still a 40minute drive away so we don't have much help. Just wanted to hear from you how has it been and how do you cope with 2 under 2?

⚠️Teach children

Please don't teach your children to hate someone because of their race , don't teach your children to hate at all

Sticky situation.

My husband and I are currently planning on becoming strict in the new year and knuckling down to save for a mortgage we are currently renting. But also my daughter is now two and I want to conceive again before there’s too much of an age gap. Also I feel as though it’s very important as we have no family in the UK and I want to my daughter to have a sibling to bond with. I grew up with siblings and cousins and it was absolutely everything to me and I had the best childhood and the best memories , I don’t want my daughter to grow up lonely. But also having another right now might delay buying the house. Also the current rented flat we are living in is too small for two babies so I would feel a bit guilty squashing us all into that so we can still continue to save for house whilst pregnant/ new baby under one. I don’t want too big an age gap with my children I want them to be able to be friends and do stuff together. Also I know not everything has to work out perfect and it will all work itself out in the end but if you were in my position what would you do???

Nacho Parenting Method?

Has anyone tried the Nacho Parenting Method? If so, does it really help? I think it’s time for me to disengage a little and set some boundaries for the sake of my sanity and peace of mind. I’m honestly just scared that by going with this method, it will overwhelm my fiancé since he’ll have to pretty much handle everything while I just step back and support. He might end up resenting me for it and that’s what my concern is, which is why I’ve been contemplating on rather or not to try this method.

Eggs

Is it a good idea to give eggs in the first week or wait? As it’s an allergen

2 mum family

Hello! I am a 2 mum family with a little girl on the way! My partner is 38 weeks pregnant and I am so excited to meet her I am just nervous as she still doesn’t feel like mine. We done AI and found a donor and I was involved in the whole process but I think I am struggling with the idea of she doesn’t have any of my DNA. I was just wondering if there was any other mums out there who felt the same way? And how did you come to terms with it and was it easy to bond with baby when they was here?

I obviously know for a fact that she is my baby and I will always be her mum, I just always have in the back of my head that I am not biological to her and it upsets me and I want to over come that so I can be the best mum she needs 🫶🏻

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