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Recent discussions

How can I help my son understand who he is more?

Im a mama to a 7 yr old biracial (black/white) boy. His dad (or dad’s family) isn’t in his life. Im trying to get my son to understand that he is black also and that it’s ok to be both white and black. He doesn’t like it when we bring it up (we don’t push it). I asked him if it’s because his family (that he knows) is white. He said yes. I’m planning on getting him more age appropriate books for him with characters that look like him. Some black history shirts and books. What else can I do? Help this mama out!!

Adoption process

Me and my soon to be husband want to go forward with him adopting my son as he want his to be his on paper which is such a blessing and beautiful thing

Has anyone had any experience with this sort of thing and how does it go?

Bit of back story
My sons father is on his birth certificate but has NEVER made any effort, he’s not seen him in 5 years no contact no nothing he now has 2 kids of his own

My soon to be husband has lived with us three years, always been around for my son from the age of 3 months, he’s the only thing my boy knows as a dad, and we now want it official for all of us

Passports for children

Is there geniunely no way i can get passports without the other parents permission without me attending court?

For background he walked away after the youngest was born both children are now 8 and 5. There has been no contact since his choice.

Advice please.

FIL wants a copy of baby’s birth certificate

I’m due to register my baby officially soon and my boyfriend’s dad has asked for his own original copy of the birth certificate…? I found this so weird because what is he able to do with this document. I don’t want to give it to him
I’m very confused as to why he would even request this or am I overthinking things

What should I do? Would you give it to him …

(Me and my partner live together and are doing well there no animosity between us )

‘Lazy parents’ do exist.

If you’re not a lazy parent, it’s not about you. I don’t known why people get so defensive about this.

There are hundreds, thousands of lazy parenting in the world. Throwing around “we’re all trying our best” is defending bad parenting.

Example,
If you can assess that your child isn’t ready for potty training or if you have tried and it didn’t go to plan. Obviously you aren’t what people are referring to when they talking about lazy parents. But that doesn’t take away from the fact there are parents that can’t be bothered to parent.

Round 3 date confirmed!

Start my down regulation on 14th October. So nervous and excited

Is this too light?

11 and 12 days post 5 day fresh transfer. There is slight progression. I'll do a digital tomorrow

Little rant

Just found out I’m pregnant, I have a two year old son and second my son will be 1 in next month

I’m little older so trying to have as many as I can in this little time

I told my family they didn’t seem as happy, I know it will be super hard but if I’m happy shouldn’t they be too?

Toddler and a new born

I'm on maternity leave.

Just had a new baby.
My daughter is 2.8 years old and I'm considering taking her out of nursery, but wonder if I can manage.

But surely I can, so many people look at 2 kids at one time.

Please share your experience looking after a new born and toddler.

Nursery fees are sooo much, so I'm thinking for financial reasons too take her out. But is it worth it?

Girl mom question about 2nd baby introductions

We are expecting a son and we are nervous about introducing the “wrong” way.

Did other moms have success if so what did you do to prepare toddler (18 month old) for a baby sibling?

Imaginary friend

Has anyone ever experienced their child having an imaginary friend?

One and done?

Hi, has anyone decided to stop after one child? I'm really torn and don't know what to do. I really struggled when my son was born and not sure I would cope mentally if I had to go through all that again. The only reason I would have another one is so he had a brother or sister. I worry he'll be lonely on his own and wish he had a sibling. I'm worried I'll regret it if I only have one but at the same time don't want to do it all again. I'm 40 next year so don't have long to decide either. Are there any only children on here (adults)? Do you mind being an only child?

Torn between religions and life choices

I was born into a Muslim family and raised to believe Islam was the only way. I was never taught to pray or never understood anything about Allah or the quaran. Though I once thought Islam was peaceful there are many things I do not agree with and the fact I must learn a foreign language just to understand prayer again is something I question. I was forbidden to enter a church or read the bible.
Now as an adult I am completely torn. I have children we ‘raise as Muslim’ despite never praying or understanding anything about Islam. Right now I don’t believe in anything I just know there is a god. I don’t want to go to hell but I don’t know what religion is the real one.
I don’t want to raise my kids the way I was raised I want them to have a religion but then should they wish to investigate other religions or convert them I will support that whole heartedly.
I want to believe. I want to belong. What do I do?

Any tips or recommendations on books for toddlers going through home moves and change of people leaving behind and new people coming into life and just big life changes

I’m solo only parent and we are moving a few hours away leaving behind a few people my daughter has had in her life around to help with childcare that she adores (au pair and friends etc).

We don’t have extended family around as such in life, so she has always had a support network of people that have been around that I’ve tried to create where we are currently living, leaving. Alongside an au pair who stayed with us for a little while while I was going through some rlly stressful life stuff and not been myself, whome she adores. She will be leaving us just after our move and settled into our new place in two wks 😢 . (as this amazing girl / au pair is going to uni).
She adores her, I’m so worried how she’ll take it. She calls her her big sister/best friend 🤍

But I’m doing a hopeful overlap of a lovely new au pair joining us at new area, as realised my daughter needs this. Just for a bit longer in life. I’ve been so stressed and quite low with some tricky life stuff going on, when it’s just her and I, I realised I wasn’t doing the best for her, and she regressed. So am sacrificing some things to be able to carry on with plan on new au pair after our current one leaves us who was with us for nearly two months, so my daughter doesn’t feel stuck with just me. I need it too tbh, the support has been life changing.
But also my daughter will be starting nursery for the first time at our new home and area (although she’s excited about that)

It’s a lot of change, but positive change. That it is a lot of change. And the worry, she may miss a few people. But I’m trying to create a support network to carry us through the change and hope she copes okay with it all.

But if anyone has any recommendations of books about changes like this and that goodbyes are not Forever and how to embrace exciting new changes etc

🙏🏼

Telling kids about seperation

Hi all, my partner and I have recently split and plan to tell the kids this weekend. Im feeling sick about having the conversation....are there any words of advice on how best to deliver the news to the kids? They're all 5 and under so I guess mainly my 5 year old will understand what's going on....

Sweep 39 weeks

I have a sweep on Wednesday and really nervous about going should I just miss it or is it worth going ?

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