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Cons of being a young mom

Your family talks down to you and micromanaging in raising your child. Age doesn’t mean I’m stupid

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Egg Donor Stories?

Does anyone going the egg donor route feel comfortable either DMing me or commenting here about their experiences? I’m likely heading in that direction and want to better understand how it works, things to consider beforehand, tips, etc.

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Holding newborn

How do I politely tell friends that I’m not ready for them to hold my baby? I am a huge push over and already let husbands mother cross my boundary of no kissing baby. It gives me really bad anxiety and I just want everyone to respect my wishes as a first time mom. But also have problems enforcing them.

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Sons name change

My son is wants to be transgender and wants to change his first name when he is an adult Being his mom I’m cool with him dressing as women etc but emotionally attached to his first name Anyone experience this and how can I be not judgmental without hurting his feelings

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Anyone done more than 4 egg collections and had success?

Just looking for a bit of hope really, anyone done multiple collections but then finally succeeded? If so, what was different that worked? I don’t make many embryos so I keep having to do collections but struggling to keep going..

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Ready

Getting my membranes swiped next week hope that’s just gets me going feel like I’m at a standpoint

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Transfer on Monday 🤞🏻

Had the news today that out of our 9 eggs collected: 4 matured 2 fertilised So now it’s radio silence until Monday morning when they give me the green light to go in for my transfer at 2! I am STRUGGLING with the wait already. Just two little embryos that need to be super strong and make it to day 5 🙏 Can I…

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People's treatment of your second child

Hello all just wondering if anyone else has had differential treatment with their second child from family members. With my first there was lots of handmade blankets, booties and hats and my second has had nothing. This is my husbands family (I have no contact with mine), so I can't really say anything. I have attem...

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Separation anxiety at nursery

How did people deal with separation anxiety at nursery. So far, the nursery just asked me to go and pick up my boy and keep him home. I can’t do that everyday as I do work and I kind of need the money for bills and rent! How did you deal with it?

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Unable to get any colostrum

…anyone else? 😬

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Transfer Mondays

Hi!! Having my first FET transfer on Monday morning! Very excited and nervous!! Anyone else having a transfer this week? And if you’ve had one how long did it take to get a positive test because I know I will not last 2 weeks 😂

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Nursery

Is anyone else feeling nervous or panicky about sending their little one off to nursery after maternity leave is over? He’ll be 9 months by then☹️ I know I’m possibly overthinking but I’ve just heard so many horror stories about people sending their babies off to nursery☹️ and I hate the thought of him being upset ...

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What’s your opinion on this?

our children are a reflection of how we raise them

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White passing…

Hi, I’m mixed, white British & black Caribbean, light skin. I’ve always had an issue with my identity when it’s come to race as I’ve always been the “white one” - it’s clear im mixed, black features and curly hair but my skin is quite fair. My daughter however is very fair, blonde straight hair, blue eyes (her fathe...

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Under the weather ahead of egg collection

This is totally random, but on the off chance thought I’d ask in case anyone else has experienced anything similar… I have my egg collection in roughly a week, but in the last week or so I’ve had two styes (infection in my eye), and have also had a pretty bad reaction to an insect bite (a patch on my leg about 25cm...

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Letting others look after your baby

Anyone else feel like you don't want anyone to look after your baby as they're so young? My other half keeps wanting his mother to look after him, not because neither of us need to go somewhere or do anything. Simply just because. But I just don't want to do that! I would (reluctantly..I must admit) say she can have...

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