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Collecting colostrum

Anyone else struggling to get anything at all when trying to collect colostrum? I'm 37 weeks so tried yesterday, couldn't get anything, tried again today and absolutely nothing!

Sorry this is a bit more negative compared to the lovely 1 year posts!

Does anyone on here have problems with their babies being held my other family members? Went to a family event and my baby did not want to be held by anyone else (they’ve always been clingy) and I was trying to explain to her uncle the “stranger danger” developmental patch they go through and he goes “well she needs to get used to it and learn that mums not a stranger” and I replied with “well she’s only going to get used to it if she gets to see people”

It really frustrates me that people just assume a baby will be fine to be in anyone’s arms. The majority of our family including both nans have barely bothered to visit or get to know our daughter. My LO is actually really social and confident at all the baby groups we go to or when we go shopping ect. Just hate when people barely bother then tell me she needs to get used to them 😤😡

Colostrum Collection

Had one successful collection on my second try and then the few after that nothing. Any tips would be greatly appreciated 💞

Could an AI caregiver trained in conscious parenting be the ultimate cycle breaker?

If being triggered by our kids and reacting the way our parents did is what passes on generational trauma, could an AI caregiver (that is unable to be triggered and always responds to the child the “right way”) raise a generation that isn’t burdened or shaped by the collective trauma of our past?

‼️thought experiment; not rage bait, and not something I agree with or promote‼️

(Inspired by a podcast I was listening to about AI’s role in how children are being raised today)

Holding newborn

Anyone get really annoyed when I let them hold my newborn but they don’t give them back for an hour or am I just being selfish

Im curious

So I just watched a video of kids being reunited with their dad after several months apart due to being in the army. 😭 it's so heartbreaking.

And I have a genuine curiosity....

I've never understood why any one would want to join the army voluntarily.

I also don't understand how they can stay when they have kids.

Also the wives, how do they manage all the emotions and emptyness that comes with it.

I honestly think if a partner ever wanted to join the army I would have to leave him. I would never want to go through that or put my kids through that.

I had 2 school friends who joined. 1 left because he didn't like it. The other seems to be in a mentally dark space now.

But guestion:

Why do you think so many join the army????

Do you think it is important not only for development, but earth to teach your little one love & respect for nature

We are raising our son to love and appreciate nature, because in our opinion it is important for his development. To me it teaches him about wild life, different plants and trees, respect, care and appreciation. Also, I believe it is beneficial to earth to raise future generations to care for nature and to respect it. Yes, I am a tree hugger 🌲🌳 after growing up in Canada and seeing so much development and having wildlife having to flee to cities and get severely or fatally injured....I realized I want our son to know better and do his part in life 💚

Do you think it's important?

*Photo to not get lost*

Has being a mother and raising a kid been an easy or hard experience?

Why does the world keep brainwashing women that raising a kid is not a job and it’s not that hard to do?
Im sorry but raising a child is the most important and hardest job in the world.

Tell me I can do this!

I have a 3 year old and a newborn and over the smallest argument my boyfriend left . Tell me I can do this and raise them right.

How to navigate having 2 children now

I have a 4 year old boy and recently had a baby girl 3 months and when I first had him I was out everywhere one week in. Now with my daughter I’m always at home. I think it’s because I start thinking I’m going to have a hard time taking care of both of them in public. Idk love any advice/suggestions

Introduce sibling

So I gave birth on the 24th July however our son wasn’t able to come to the hospital to see his little brother as he had a viral bug. He still hasn’t seen him and hopefully will see him tomorrow but we are home now. We haven’t seen our first born since Tuesday last week. We haven’t mentioned to our son that we gave birth or anything as we didn’t want him to feel like he’s been replaced whilst he wasn’t able to see us for so long. Now that he might be seeing tomorrow at home. Should we talk to him and say do you wwnt to see the baby from mummy’s tummy or do we just bring him into the house whilst baby is in the cot or something . What’s the best way to deal with situation . Any advice please 😩😩

Can a mother take her older children away from their father? UK

She has taken them from their family home, blocked all contact including their children’s phones. We think she’s changed their SIM cards. She was cheating on him and they had a massive argument. What are the next steps? He doesn’t know where they are. She isn’t the best mum and has mental health issues. He has been in there their whole lives and lived with them since they were born and on birth certificates.

Guardians

Bit of a morbid question I know, but can I ask for those of you who have written wills -
Who did you put as guardian for your children and why? (In the event of both you and your partner/husband passing away).
Myself and partner cannot decide on who would be best. (We have different views.) So just wondering who others chose.

We are both in our 30s. So we are thinking if someone is to be a guardian our choices are in their 60s, so they'd be 80 when our children turn 18! 🫣

Does anyone regret having a second child?

My daughter is nearly 20 months, and I’m currently trying to decide whether to have another baby. I was always confident I only wanted one (and took a long time to decide on any at all, to be honest) but now I’m wondering if a bigger family would be nice.

I don’t have a gut feeling either way and really like our current life - we still travel and do lots and have lots of fun as the three of us. I feel like I can see lots of downsides of another (plus we’ve been extremely lucky with our first in terms of health, sleep etc), but I can’t help wondering whether adding someone else to our family is the right thing to do. We have a very small family otherwise, as both me and my husband have lots parents, which also means we don’t have a lot of support around us.

So I wondered, what are others’ experience? Has a second child made life better, or do you wish you hadn’t rolled the dice?!

Black women, I'd like your honest thoughts

I recently bought my daughter a Black doll because it's important to me that she grows up appreciating people of all races. If you saw a white child playing with a Black doll, would you feel offended, uncomfortable, or would you see it as a positive thing? I'm genuinely interested in hearing different perspectives and understanding how it feels from your point of view.

People dont take kids seriously these days

I know this is true in different ways for each generation but what I'm referring to rn is when i see parents giving their 4yr olds pepsi, or letting their 8yr olds drink alanis. or when they complain constantly about their kids behavior but dont have one on one time, they don't even talk to their kids like they're real people.
this isnt necissarily all about one person, its a bunch of examples from a bunch of people.

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