Community Posts, Tips & Support on Adoption, Fostering & Surrogacy

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Can anyone help? Raising bi-racial child alone.

Hello My partner decided to leave - just before I gave birth, he had been cheating and seeing several other women and had secret children. I still wanted him to be in our child’s life, regardless of what he did to me. He saw her about 5 times after she was born, then just stopped. I have been raising her alone s...

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Colostrum harvesting

Hi girls! I’m 36 weeks tomorrow, when did everyone start collecting their colostrum? X liquid gold?? And did any of you hand express or pump ? Xx

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4th transfer this Sunday. Feeling nervous and excited

I just want the next few weeks to be over. The two week wait is so hard…. Any suggestions for how to get through it easier?

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My husband and I want to adopt so badly not sure how to start.?.

We have tried for a 3 years to have a baby and 1 year Ivf with no luck wanting to know what to do

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Visitors holding baby

Is anyone else struggling with other people holding your baby? My little one is 2 weeks old and I’m finding people wanting cuddles really difficult, especially when I’ve not offered them to hold her. My MIL is desperate for cuddles so I feel bad about not wanting other people to hold her as I don’t want to upset a...

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First transfer cycle

I'm a little nervous. Just now starting my first transfer cycle

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When did you test?

For those who have had a day 3 fresh transfer, when did you test and what symptoms (if any) did you have?

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Egg Collection🥚

1st egg collection tomorrow… any tips for this would be very much appreciated as the nerves are real😫🫶🏻🥚

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I don’t like my step kids

They have no manners, and expect me to do things for them and I just don’t want to do anything for them anymore. They are both boys 9 and 12 and their father and I recently had a baby 5 months ago. Their dad expects me to watch them when he goes to work and cook for them, take them to practice, etc.. but they never...

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2 week wait after a MC

Anyone else in the 2 week wait??

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Have you or someone you know adopted?

Hello, I am considering adopting a child. I have always wanted to, but partner is on the fence. If you have adopted, or know of someone who has adopted, could you please share your experience? I am wondering what age when adopted, how things turned out, any problems that came up? TIA!

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Postpartum help?

So I’m expecting my first child ever very soon. I’ve already been laboring and dilated since Tuesday evening and I’m trying to figure out rules or request or whatever the right word is for people that want to visit me when I’m ready to have visitors. Some people like to bring food, some people like to just hold the ...

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Cons of being a young mom

Your family talks down to you and micromanaging in raising your child. Age doesn’t mean I’m stupid

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Egg Donor Stories?

Does anyone going the egg donor route feel comfortable either DMing me or commenting here about their experiences? I’m likely heading in that direction and want to better understand how it works, things to consider beforehand, tips, etc.

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Holding newborn

How do I politely tell friends that I’m not ready for them to hold my baby? I am a huge push over and already let husbands mother cross my boundary of no kissing baby. It gives me really bad anxiety and I just want everyone to respect my wishes as a first time mom. But also have problems enforcing them.

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Parenting time dispute

What time would you say is the transition of parenting time from July 15 onward when the children have returned to full time care during working hours? Would you read this as 4 pm transition or 8 am transition ? Narcissistic ex is determined he is right. Thoughts?

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Sons name change

My son is wants to be transgender and wants to change his first name when he is an adult Being his mom I’m cool with him dressing as women etc but emotionally attached to his first name Anyone experience this and how can I be not judgmental without hurting his feelings

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Anyone done more than 4 egg collections and had success?

Just looking for a bit of hope really, anyone done multiple collections but then finally succeeded? If so, what was different that worked? I don’t make many embryos so I keep having to do collections but struggling to keep going..

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Ready

Getting my membranes swiped next week hope that’s just gets me going feel like I’m at a standpoint

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Transfer on Monday 🤞🏻

Had the news today that out of our 9 eggs collected: 4 matured 2 fertilised So now it’s radio silence until Monday morning when they give me the green light to go in for my transfer at 2! I am STRUGGLING with the wait already. Just two little embryos that need to be super strong and make it to day 5 🙏 Can I…

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