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Colostrum collecting

Is anyone else struggling to get colostrum? I’ve been trying for a few days and nothing.

I have a friend whose mom had her when she was 40. When my friend was 20, her mom was 60 and her health had deteriorated. My friend held a lot of resentment towards her mom as she had to take care of her and felt she couldn’t enjoy her youth due to this.

Is it selfish to have a child after a certain age?

Have you ever suspected a relative or close friend as being a child predator?

What were the red flags/signs that led you to feel that way? What did you do?

I have a relative who I have never left alone with my child even for a minute as I don't trust him due to his odd behaviour and constant need to try and get my child alone (have never allowed it) and a need for various forms of physical touch - all "innocent" but it is relentless and I feel exhausted after he visits from monitoring the situation the whole time. Anyone else gone through this?

If you know your child committed a terrible crime that took a life, would you protect them from the law? (Not give info you know, lie, defend them, cover it up, etc)

Whether you are actively lying for them or covering it up vs cooperating with law enforcement or turning them in, what ya doing?

do you gentle parent?

gentle parenting ≠ permissive parenting!

How do you….

Deal with the stress and anxiety of raising boys? I mean, these little dudes are going to be grown men, out in the world and will statistically date women. How do you handle the constant worry of “am I raising a good man? Am I showing him and teaching him how he should treat others and especially how to make sure he is an obvious safe person for women?”? I’m constantly second guessing myself and don’t want to harp on the kids but also need to make sure it sticks in their heads. Something as simple but critical as consent. I HAVE to make sure they have no questions when it comes to consent, that they understand it backwards and forwards. But what if I miss something or fail?

Tw! Is this my colostrum coming in?????

Is this colostrum guys????

FET after previous successful fresh transfer

Hi, just wondering if anyone has had a fresh transfer that worked in the past and went on to have an FET? If so did it work? How did it go? I am super nervous. Thanks xx

Fatherhood

Has the father of your child(ren) been alone with them for more than a few hours?

Just wanted to do a poll because I’m shocked that some people on here post about the father not taking care of their kid(s).

When you decided that you were done having children what options did you go for?

Trying to weigh my options

Breaking Generational trauma/cycles

Hello everyone! I am pregnant for the first time, 10 weeks! I am the eldest sibling in my family, and the first one on my mom side to have a child in my generation.
Before I became pregnant, I had started cutting ties and distancing myself from a lot of family, because I see how some generational traumas are continuing throughout our bloodline and I am not OK with it. Especially around discussions of safe touch and religion.

Now that my family knows I’m pregnant, I’m torn between allowing them the opportunity to build a relationship with myself in this stage of life, or continuing the distance while I figure out what I want mommy life to look like for me.

I’m wondering if anyone has had similar struggles? It feels so scary to be walking away from my family, but I’ve never fully felt like I belong, and I do not want that for my child either.

Adoption

Has anyone on here ever adopted? I’m thinking about adopting a child but I want to know other people’s experience with it. How long did it take? What’s the process? Was it expensive?

Colostrum collecting

37 weeks and managed to get 6ml between hands and haakaa! Anyone else just find it so satisfying to collect?

Ps - I WISH it would send me into labour before my due date. I collected it from 37-42 weeks with my son lol!

Can anyone relate?

I won’t let anyone look after my son because I’m absolutely terrified of button batteries and I’m scared he’ll play with someone with one in.
My partners parents want to always look after my son but I can’t let him due to my anxiety and I know they’ll think I’m ridiculous if I ask about button batteries they already make comments about
My anxiety

Thoughts on Stay At Home Dads?

Do you respect them? Do you love them? Do you think they are shirking their role in the family, or do you think they are stepping up? Do they make you uncomfortable in child focused spaces? Would your partner be comfortable with you and your kids spending time together? Would you go on playdates with one? Should they be welcome in SAHM communities, or do they need to make own communities?

Going from 2 to 3 kids

Please only answer if you have 3+ kids! We have 2 kids currently and are very on the fence about having a third, we go back and forth. Going from 1 to 2 was very hard for me. But people tell me “the 3rd just slots in”, which I don’t know if I believe.

If you have 3+, what transition was harder for you?

20 month old and 9 week old.

Hi

When did you get into some kind of Rhythm with your two under twos please?

I’m having an overwhelming time and keep having thoughts of this is not what I want or wanted and adoption of my 9 week old I’m unsure if this is postpartum thought or reality but I’m struggling.

I have my husband who is here since as he’s been made redundant for now and even with him here I’m still having these thoughts and feelings so when he does start work how else would I be?!

Advice needed thanks x.

Tips for solo parenting 2 children without support?

Baby girl is now 1 year old. I really want another baby but my partner works away weeks at a time and I have no local support. I guess I'm looking for any practical support from other who solo parent 2 young children. How do you manage it?? Especially when sleep deprived and managing night times. Thank you

Final chance

Is anyone working towards a transfer that is their final chance for baby number 2?

As it gets closer I’m getting more and more anxious and stressed. Would be good to chat to someone in a similar situation.

Frustrated

How as mothers (in the US, specifically) literally raising the upcoming generations. How are we not more enraged with the state of our country??? Instead, people want to ignore it. It’s only getting worse. We keep having more children completely ignoring the decline of our society. If this keeps going, our children won’t have much of a future….unless you’re rich af and can pay your way up….