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My daughter is half Filipino half British

I am worried in the future she is not going to understand her identity I don’t want her to feel like she’s not British enough or Filipino enough my partners cousins are mixed too and they was brought up in the uk and really struggled with feeling like they don’t belong to any side of the family how can I prevent that I’m trying to really have her in both sides of culture but I feel like my partner is struggling to remember to do so and he’s the one that has to teach her his culture he knows it the best I’m learning along the way too with my daughter.

Motherhood

I absolutely fucking hate it that’s good some people actually enjoy this but me no I wish I would have aborted her and this other child yes this child hasn’t done anything since it’s not here yet but fuck this shit and I know when this child do get here having 2 under 2 will be worse but I can’t take the constant crying sometimes I just want to end my life and that thought gotten worse ever since being a mother I hate it I swear I’m so close to doing adoption and I honestly won’t even give a fuck who think I’m a bad mother or person for doing it it’s fucking up my mental and I’m over the responsibility of kids plus they daddy has hella shit to say when she’s crying but won’t come take care of his child he helped create

Should I Trust These Tests?

So I dont know if I should trust these tests. I keep getting a colored second line. Doesn't even look like an evap. I keep getting these lines on my test and I dont know if it's the brand or what. I've never gotten evap lines that looked colored to me before. What do you all think?

Need some reassurance mamas

Guysssss, I’ve been stressing today 😭 basically I did a Clearblue digital earlier and it said 3+ weeks, then I did another one later and it said 2–3 so I was so confused thinking something was wrong.

I tested last week Wednesday and it came back negative but when I tested last Saturday it was positive so how could I be 3+ weeks pregnant? I’m so confused guys

But I looked into it and those tests just estimate based on the hormone in your urine, so if your wee is more diluted or it’s a different time of day it can show a lower result. It doesn’t actually mean the pregnancy has gone backwards.

Apparently it’s quite common and not super reliable for tracking progression, so I’m trying not to panic 😭 just gonna speak to my GP and get proper bloods done to be sure. Did this happen to anyone?

Two positive pregnancy tests and three negatives

Hello everyone.
I don't know how to feel but i had some sort of pain in my stomach. After all examinations and some discussions the GP did my pregnancy test there and then. It came positive but we aren't quite sure so we did another there and it also came positive.
GP mentioned it could be ectopic pregnancy. And i don't know how to feel about it. She said go home and do another test. Which i did and it came negative and after that i have done two more and they came negative.
I still do have pain in stomach but i dont know what to do. She said go to A&E if your test come positive. Plz anyone who has gone through this experience plz share.

Am I crazy?

I swear I see something here but I’m sure it’s just my line eyes playing tricks on me because there’s no way. Drove me so crazy that I did all the filters and it didn’t help 😅 I didn’t follow ovulation but my cycles are all over the place and can be anywhere from 25 days long to 35 days long.
I have an IUD because we didn’t plan on more kids, at least for a while, and am only 10 months pp from a c-section so really hoping it’s nothing.
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Going away

Anyone been away without their little one yet? If so, how did you find it? How long? How far?

November or December

So I just went in for my ultrasound and I always ovulate late in reality. I should be November 27 if you go by my period But as of today I’m measuring behind by a week which is not shocking but now I’m considered December 1. Do I stay in this group or the other or do I go to both? Lol I get another ultrasound when I’m 12week To really tell. This will be my fourth ultrasound due to having to go to infertility dr twice and now they transferred me over to an OB. insurance is gonna love me. 🙄😭 picture of my little bean lol so it doesn’t get lost.

Pregnancy tests

Pregnancy tests are getting darker but I have very little symptoms. the darkening lines mean that everything should be progressing, right? Would they get darker if there was an issue? Stressed!

8DPO Evap or Early Pos?

I’m either 8 or 9 DPO and not sure if this an evaporation line or very faint early positive?!

Best Tips for Supporting Fertility Naturally?

Hi everyone! What practical tips or habits have helped you support your fertility while TTC? I'd love to hear about anything ranging from nutrition to lifestyle changes or emotional strategies that made a difference for you.

First time mum!

Got my bfp last week - 4 weeks & 2 days today!🥰 I’m very nervous as we were ttc for a long time, so I’m hoping to find some friends around the same stage as me, to go through this incredible journey with! How is everyone’s symptoms so far? I am exhausted 😴😴

Second child: yes or no?

Genuine question, completely non-judgmental! I’m honestly just curious about how people made this decision. :)
When I ask friends, the most common reasons seem to be things like:
“They’ll have someone to grow up with,” or “They won’t be alone later in life.”
But I rarely hear people talk about the other side of it too, like how having a second child can mean less time for yourself, less sleep for potentially quite a long time, the financial side of it (!!) balancing career/family/relationship, going through pregnancy and postpartum again, and adapting to the fact that your second child could be completely different from your first (in both good and challenging ways).

And of course, there’s no guarantee siblings will necessarily be close, just like an only child can still have a very full and happy life.

So I’d genuinely love to hear:
What made you decide to have a second child, or decide not to?
What were the biggest factors in your decision? Thank you.

Clear blue weeks indicator

Hello! I just got my positive 2 days ago on clear blue saying 1-2 weeks and done one today and still 1-2 weeks. Im about 4 weeks today. Is that normal? Sorry im stressing out as i’ve had a loss last year then 2 chemicals after so very on edge!

Help please!!

I’m confused, it doesn’t seem like I’ll have a peak this month? It’s usually around cd14-15. I had a mmc in January and have had 2 normal periods since. PreMom says it’s ovulation day today so I’ll bd just in case. Ant advice please?

Due date estimates?

Okay so don't think me crazy but I have been tracking like every single day. My husband and I were having sex mainly around my ovulation but I think I may have had a double ovulation. I have PCOS so it's actually common to have two spikes. I was looking at our tracker and making estimates with the numbers I have for the blood HCG. I am almost certainly going to be due on Christmas Eve 🎄 🫠 I think I conceived like April 1st or 2nd. Which would put me at Christmas Eve due date wise.
But an ultrasound can confirm. Just waiting for that. Does anyone else have something similar?

Late period negative test

I’ve been pretty on point for the past several months, last month is was super short. According to my phone app my period was supposed to start last week but could be until the 7th before it starts. Guys I’m just freaking out. I wanna get another tattoo and my nose re pierced before we have another baby. Mentally im not ready, I was hoping to wait at least 6 more months before even trying again but if I do end up pregnant then it will be okay.