Michelle

Kissing Question šŸ’‹

A strange one, which I feel a little awkward about. I read an article recently about kissing your children on the lips, and when this should stop (and how ultimately, you shouldnā€™t do it). Itā€™s not something Iā€™d ever thought about, but now, Iā€™m thinking about it all the time, and itā€™s weirding me out! Thoughts from you guys?
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Tom Brady kissing his son lingered a bit too long IMO. Nothing wrong with kissing! Itā€™s love.

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I didnā€™t see the Tom kiss, but Iā€™ve heard it was awkward

I love kissing my babies!!! Lips, cheeks, bellies... I love showering them with love. I find it more frustrating that people have to specialize everything. Lips are for kissing, why should that be limited to kissing my husband? Iā€™ll continue to kiss my babies on the lips ā¤ļø

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AMEN PATRICIA!!!!! Rock on mama ! Same here !!!

Iā€™m more of a cheek kisser, but I also think a mouth kiss doesnā€™t have to be sexualized. Itā€™s just a sign of affection!

I personally will kiss my daughter on the lips for as long as I can. I kissed my mom on the lips all the way up until middle school. I was also only raised by her so our relationship was close. I stopped kissing my mom on the lips on my own. I just out grew the behavior. We didnā€™t have to discuss it

I think once they are kissing other people in a sexual nature it might be odd! However I hope my son wants to kiss me for the rest of my life!!

I think itā€™s totally OK! I grew up in a kissing household and have never given it a second thought. The Tom/son kiss referenced above didnā€™t feel awkward to me - thought it was cute/funny

I think kisses and cuddles are so important and I will give them and receive them for as along as I can! However, Iā€™m not into other people losing my girls on their lips to be honest (non direct family members I mean).

I didnā€™t grow up kissing on the mouth, ever. So itā€™s honestly a bit weird for me. We have kissed our kiddos on the lips- but my oldest turned 4 a few months ago and we transitioned to just cheek kisses. We still give him tons of affection so heā€™s not deprived by any means!

I still kiss my mom and dad on the lips and my husband kissed his mom on the lips until the day she passed. I also kiss my grandparents on the lips when I have the chance to see them. If my kids decided they didnā€™t want to kiss me or my husband on the lips anymore, Iā€™m not going to force them, but Iā€™m also not going to say ā€œoh youā€™re too old to kiss on the lips, only cheeks nowā€ šŸ™„

Lip kissing is off limit for us. Not because we perceive it sexual, purely for hygiene reasons. Of course we give plenty of cuddle sand kisses otherwise!

I find it absolutely bizarre that this is even a topic for debate. There's nothing wrong with it whatsoever.

NOBODY gets to tell you what kind of affection you are ā€œallowedā€ to give your chikdren!! As long as you are respectful of your childrenā€™s boundaries, that is all that matters. Kiss in, Mama šŸ˜˜

When I think of a parent mouth kissing their child I don't sexualize it. I'm against adults mouth kissing kids because of germs and other viral transmissions. Children's systems are brand new. Why risk exposing them to anything? I'm fine with kissing everywhere else like crazy.

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Love it

Absolutely.

My parents were only cheek/forehead kissers and I think they stopped when I stopped initiating (but my sisters will still kiss them from time to time...I just have a bubble they respect.) My daughter is 3 months old and I think Iā€™ll be sticking to cheek, nose and forehead. But thatā€™s my preference, I donā€™t judge anyone otherwise.

I never grew up with the kissing on lips, just cheeks and I did find it to be a bit odd before I had my daughter, I just ā€œaccidentallyā€ did it when I was showing her affection I donā€™t think itā€™s weird at all to show your children love from a pure viewpoint. I also had other peopleā€™s kids try & some times succeed to give me kisses on the lips and just thought it was kinda gross because the germs and slobbery nature of children. I donā€™t think itā€™s something I will do with my daughter to often to get comfortable with it, so she doesnā€™t go for kisses from other people like that

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I said through out my pregnancy I didn't want to kiss my baby in the lips and then he was born and that went out the window

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Same! Itā€™s funny how things can just change in your mind like that.

Same!!!

Iā€™m a lip kisser with my son. I donā€™t think itā€™s odd he is 19 months. I guess the question is when does it become weird?

I will kiss my kids on the lips as long as theyā€™ll let me. It is beyond weird that people try to make this into something it isnā€™t. It is their problem and I wonā€™t allow it to be mine.

I grew up in a lip kissing household. I donā€™t find anything wrong with it. Around high school I stopped kissing my dad on the lips, we only do that sometimes. Like randomly if Iā€™m not thinking about it. And Iā€™ll always kiss my momma and grandma on the lips. No itā€™s not sexual. We donā€™t make out. Itā€™s a quick peck. Just how I was raised. Iā€™m the same way with my son, heā€™s 3, and I wonā€™t tell him to stop. Iā€™ll never tell him he canā€™t show affection to me. I will say, that children get this affection they are from there family. Your child will be an adult robot if you donā€™t reach hem how to be affectionate. (I know because I have a nephew that doesnā€™t eat kissed or hugged daily and awkward. I love my kisses from my son.

Hubs and I donā€™t kiss our baby on the lips for hygiene reasons. If you grew up with cavities or have periodontal issues, you can transfer that bacteria to your child by kissing or sharing spoons. Itā€™s too bad. But if you want to kiss your baby on the lips or share spoons, go for it. Itā€™s your baby! No parenting is right or wrong.

My mom kissed us on the lips until we decided we didn't want to anymore....not when you're like 50 and he's like 30 that's a bit odd but as a child I don't think it should matter....in my personal opinion it's a new stupid thing people have chosen to nitpick about....

So I never thought about this before until I saw my husband and his father both do it with the fathers sister. Now it wasnā€™t initially an issue but then the weeks went by and there was a time where she was grabbing at their butts and putting her hand up her own brothers shorts. After that I could no longer deal with the kissing. I suppose I feel like some things are meant to be inherently romanticized and when that is taken to an extreme some people can go overboard.

I think it's fine up until the kids don't want to anymore. Then just switch to cheeks. This may sound wierd but trust me, it's not creepy, my dad still kisses us on the lips as adults. It's very seldom and just a peck of course, and only in like really exciting situations like New year's or getting really good news. It's actually really funny and makes us all laugh. He will be so happy about something he goes around the room gives my siblings, mom, and I quick kisses on the lips. It's just like how people do in other countries. My mom also kisses us a lot on a regular basis, like every time we say goodbye. She doesn't aim for our mouths but if it happens it's nothing awkward. I think as Americans we make things more awkward than they need to be

It's crazy people think kissing your kids on the lips is wierd. Just like anything else there's different ways to kiss, your husband, kids, etc.. It's just like hugging.. We should stop doing that to I guess.

I kissed my mom on the lips until I was 5 I think. I miss my daughter on the lips and think nothing of it and will stop when she wants to. My fiancĆ© was not raised with lip kisses and said he wouldnā€™t with our daughter but that all changed when she was born. Sheā€™s now 1 year and we still love those baby kisses, canā€™t get enough!

My brother kissed my dad on the lips until he was 13 and got teased about it at school. They are your children, it's not sexual or weird unless you make it so! (My dad never kissed me on the lips because I was sexually abused at the age of 4 by a family friend and he was terrified of saying or doing the wrong thing to trigger my memories)

I donā€™t have issues with it, I just donā€™t kiss my 11m old on the lips unless sheā€™s trying to...usually I go for the forehead or cheek šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø never even really thought about it.

No one kisses my kids on the lips but my kids and my husband...obviously me as well.

I don't kiss mine in the lips bc I have cold sores and I want to make sure he he doesnt get them. One time we visited my husband's family and I was very upset that they were all trying to kiss him in the lips... I'm thinking that is not ok at all because I don't know what germs they might have. a kiss on the cheek is fine but in the lips I think is unnecessary.

We (myself and husband) do with our 18m old if she initiates the kiss but we donā€™t force it. Sometimes we ask and she says no and gives a hug instead. Weā€™ve asked grandparents not to initiate also (on the cheek is fine). Occasionally she kisses them on her own. I am a bit paranoid she could get cold sores if we make kissing on the mouth normal (nobody in our family gets them, but who knows what happens at daycare), I also am careful about consent and the message we send. But I think itā€™s ok for parents to kiss their children on the mouth as long as the child feels comfortable saying no if they donā€™t want a kiss and everyone is careful if they have colds or anything contagious.

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This topic intrigues me. My now 5yr old boy wanted to keep kissing me on the lips, but the way he demanded it felt weird to me, so I stopped at about 3.5yrs. My little girl is almost a year & just started kissing me on the lips & I will stop when it no longer feels right for one or both of us. I believe it is a decision to be made within each unique relationship! šŸ’‹šŸ’‹šŸ’‹

I think itā€™s fine. The child will at some point show that he/she feels too old for kisses and then itā€™ll be a natural transition. My grandmother always kissed our cheeks whereas my mom always gave a quick peck on the lips. It only becomes an inappropriate thing if you make it that way.

Yes we kissed are baby alot

I don't think it's awkward I grew up like this still kiss my parents and siblings like this and will my kids

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Me, too!

I kiss my baby on the lips unless he's drooling and yucky! I will kiss him on the lips as long as we both are comfortable with it. His dad doesn't kiss his mouth bc he feels uncomfortable doing that. No one else is allowed to do it bc of germs though.

My parents kissed us on the lips as kids. You see it a lot in the Mexican culture. When my oldest was born my first kiss to him was on his lips and his dad freaked out. I didnā€™t care what he said. Thatā€™s how I grew up. I kiss my kids on their lips and I will continue to do as long as they are comfortable with it.

My son kisses everyone in the lips (family wise) hes 2 in june. We only allow family to let him if he wants to. He says no if he doesn't want one or puts his hands over your lips so you cant. My mum has always kiss her kids until they stopped or whatever. I even to this day I'm 28 29 in December still kiss my mum on the lips.

Really? I guess weā€™re just a mouth kissing kindā€™ve family. I know it was a bit weird for my husband when my mom came up and planted one on him-heā€™s now opted out. It just never occurred to me that this would be considered taboo.

My sons nearly 2 n kiss him on the lips n cheeks. Never anywhere rude. And I think its silly how they are saying this especially about how ultimately you kiss them, I mean you are only give them a peck not putting your tougne in their mouth... its blown out of proportion serious. I'm 28 years old 29 end of the year n I still to this day give my mum n dad a kiss on the lips. It's just an innocent gesture of love. As they get older or even before, if they didnt want to kiss you on the lips then stop it doesn't mean they love you any less but if that's what they want then what's the harm. As they get older they will learn the types of kisses that are acceptable to whom. My stepdaughter always tries to kiss me on the lips and I stopped her trying as I felt a little weird her not being mine but even to this day she will still try n the odd times she has especially when I've all 3 to bed she sees me kiss my son n tell him I love him and that's all she wants from me I think it's so she knows I love her too! x

We will stop when my daughter says sheā€™s not comfortable with it sheā€™s two sometimes if I ask for a kiss she would say no but majority of the time we kiss on the lips

I will not force my daughter to kiss anyone good bye etc. She is allowed to say no but she kisses me all the time. Its very sweet. Her choice xx

My Son is 3 and a half! And we still kiss on the lips, Iā€™ll only even stop when he wants to. My husband still kisses him on the lips till I think heā€™s Makes it clear to to us that he doesnā€™t want to. I donā€™t see anything wrong in it

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@Morayo same our son is 3 and he likes it but when he says no and just wants it on the cheek that day then we kiss him on the cheek. Idk why people need to criticize everything. It's a damn kiss to a child we gave birth toošŸ¤¦ā€ā™€ļø

My husband kissed our son on the mouth. I thought it was weird at first. I kiss him all over his face šŸ˜‚ but not usually the mouth. I think it does get weird after a certain age. Though in some cultures itā€™s the norm even in adulthood. My college roommate kissed her dad in front of me and it made me feel really weird for a while. Mostly because my family never kissed on the mouth and neither did any of my friendā€™s families growing up. Sheā€™s still the only adult that Iā€™ve ever seen kiss their parents on the mouth.

Idk why this is even a question. There are so many societal ā€œnormsā€ that are ā€œunacceptableā€. My 16 year old stopped kissing me on the mouth when she got her first boyfriend. Probably around 12/13. My sons will stop kissing me when they choose to. This isnā€™t something I force on them. I quit kissing my gramma on the mouth when I was about 7. My mom was not a mouth kisser either so I believe it all started for me with my daughter. Thatā€™s how she kissed me. I would give her my cheek (same as my boys) and they turn my head every time to kiss my mouth. Iā€™m not going to make them feel this is wrong. When THEY decide itā€™s over Iā€™ll be ok, but society will not tell me that my kids canā€™t kiss me on the mouth.

I donā€™t kiss my kids on the lips. No one else besides my husband is going to be kissing them

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I personally donā€™t feel comfortable with it. But I donā€™t judge parents that do it. Itā€™s definitely a cultural thing for people. However they were raised.

It's awful how these things become sexualised. It is fine to kiss your children so long as they are comfortable with it. There is nothing at all weird about showing love to your own children with kisses and hugs. Why turn it into something it's not šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø

My kids can kiss me on the lips until they decide to stop. One of my daughters kissed me on the lips until she got her first crush on a boy at age 13. Lol.

Some of my family members still kiss on the mouth šŸ¤·šŸ½ā€ā™€ļø My great grandmothers(bio and step) all did, a couple of my sisters do, and even my hubbyā€™s grandma (who was 96 when she passed away this summer) would kiss the girls in the family on the lips. Iā€™ve never felt weird about any of it.

Iā€™ve read you shouldnā€™t do it because you can give them whatever swamp bacteria you have in your mouth like if you have gum disease or anything like that. Could also pass on bacteria that causes cavities. I donā€™t remember kissing my parents on the lips I think we always did cheek and forehead kisses. Iā€™m not sure what weā€™re gonna do with my baby but I have gum disease so I probably wonā€™t be kissing him on the lips.

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