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I liked having my sister only 2 years older than me, but it was enough of a gap that we could share friends but have separate friends... my sister in law and husband are 9 years apart and they couldn’t really get close until adults!

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I have three siblings and we’re all over 2+ years apart so we were close, but not close like you and your sister! I definitely want my babies close like y’all!

I say start to trying for a baby at least before your current child’s first birthday. Like I can’t suggest a minimum time but 12 months is the maximum time that I think you should go by. Meaning get pregnant again before baby boy turns 1

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She’s right though, it’s too early and can cause issues for her and the baby meaning the baby is going to be tiny when she or he is out because the first took everything. I’m experiencing it right now so don’t talk like that when obviously you don’t know. I wanted to try for 2nd and my son is 7 months and got pregnant when he was 5 months, I realized I will NEVER get any good sleep after I found out I was pregnant but it’s my fault because we planned it thinking it would be easy.

Ha! I never even dreamed of getting pregnant before my 1st turned 1! I waited until he turned 2 and got pregnant right away. They are just 2 months shy of being 3 years apart and I think that is perfect for me. Everyone is different. Why are you trying to pressure this mama into trying again before her 1st baby turns 1?? 2 under two would have been too much for me.

My son will be 5 months on the 12th. I’ll be having his little sister or brother a month before he turns one. It’s very challenging at times. But, I think they will be close and best friends. My brothers and I are all 2 years apart. Try when you’re ready.

I’ve recently read a study(Mayo Clinic)suggesting that having them super close (less than 2yrs apart) increases your odds for autism significantly. Just something to think about. Personally, I want mine 2 yrs apart so I’ll try when my 5 month old is 15 months.

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Thank you Sara! I couldn’t find much else on it so I’m so thankful you had more info!

I’ve looked into that. It’s also said that waiting longer, usually around 6+ years afterward, can increase it as well. Dr. Keely Cheslack-Postava, from Columbia University, conducted a study with her colleagues and it proves that spacing children closer together does not cause autism in the second sibling, but more or less has a lot to do with the low levels of folic acid or iron and how much stress the mothers body is in. However, a lot of people have low iron and are prescribed pills. Although it is too early to give recommendations on how early to have the second, there are still some factors, but the findings in the study shouldn’t impact the decision of having the second!😊 sorry, I did a lot of research papers while in college and it’s always stuck with me!😂

We are waiting till our daughter turns one to try for our 2nd. I personally want to have close to 2 years apart.

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OB says it takes 2 years for your body to actually heal and get back to normal!

My 2 kids are 2 years and 2 months apart and i could not imagine a shorter time in between!

For my husband and I we decided to wait until our first turned 2 to start trying and it happened within the first month! It took almost 2 YEARS to conceive our first! You are so right that it can be different with each one. Personally I will tell you that you should wait until you both feel ready. Trust your instinct. Most OB's will tell you to wait until at least a year after having the last one. Maybe even longer. Please do not rush into having another child. Also, it is so important to plan financially. My husband and I did not really think about how hard it was going to be financially to support the 4 of us if I stayed home with the baby for awhile. I just started working again because we really need the money. Thankfully we had some money in savings to supplement for awhile, but we had to really watch our money this past year.

I was excited to have my kids close to each other and they are 2 years and a month apart but my pregnancies are so hard! When I got pregnant with second, I had to put a pause on taking pinky away, potty training, taking bottle away because it was just impossible with feeling sick 24/7... next time I hope it will be around 3 years... but like everyone else says, everyone is different! I was not close with my sister who is 2 years older, instead with the one who is 4 years difference so you can never guarantee they will be close... either way, hope it works out for you:)

My husband and i also have a 5 month old baby boy we are already trying to 3rd.

My daughter will have a brother 3 months after she turns 1

We have 3 boys and all 3 are 2years paprt

Aww so exciting!! Personal my experience is waiting 2 years! Due hormone balance, wellness for your mind as well! Plus by the time baby #2 is here u might just be in diapers for the newborn! Good luck mama!

My husband and I decided to start trying when our son was 7 months old. I'm now pregnant and our kids with be 20 month apart when the little one is born. We're really excited to have our children so close together.

I would say instead of a timeline, try again when you both feel okay if you got pregnant immediately. My daughter is currently 10 months pregnant and I'm 4 months from my due date with #2. My husband is getting ready for med school, so we felt if we didn't have these babies as close as possible a 2nd wouldn't be realistic. Luckily, my daughter is a chill and happy baby, so we waited until felt we had a handle on our new lives. I will say, going through her first few teeth coming through had me a bit worried about having another so close. But I'm so excited how my family is forming. I should add. Breastfeeding was a problem, so that wasn't part of our decision to try again. I also stay at home while sellong real estate and we are financially prepared for a 2nd child. Good luck to you, whenever you decide!!

3 year difference is best for mommy and baby. 2 years is doable for sure and an age difference of 5 years or more is harder for children as they get older because their lives are so different.

I have three girls and they’re all 2 years apart (almost exactly) and they’re the closest friends! It’s so nice!

id like to start when our daughter turns 3 im 26 and my husband is 34 so id like to not he in my 30s when im pregnant again -.- i would wait til baby is at least a year amd see than :)

5 months and thinking about baby #2?! You are so brave lolol. My kids are 2 yrs apart. It is A LOT of work and u need to manage ur attention to them bc they are both so dependent on u, especially with breastfeeding. In the end, im happy with my choice. It's the best thing i did for my kids. Now im thinking whether i should have one more. Im having a hard time with the the thought of my second, being my last little baby 😭

our first is an 👼 but it took 4 months to get pregnnt with him and it took one night for the 2nd (miscarried) and took one night for our daughter as well whose 21 months i got pregnant 2 months after my moscarriage but we werent trying in that 2 month span though so when we actually did i got pregnant that night or however it works aha

1. Drs recommend waiting 18 mo in between pregnancies. This is both for YOUR health, and to give the next pregnancy the highest chance of success. 2. In the unfortunate situation of a learning/mental/developmental disorder, or illness like diabetes etc, they often cannot be detected or diagnosed until 2 or 3 yeaes of age. If a kid is diagnosed, they deserve all our love and care (and resources), which is hard if not impossible to give if you already have a newborn or are working on baby #2 ( or baby #3 ). 3. Several babies all close in age put a lot more stress on a marriage than babies that are spaced out ... Studies done show pretty bleak outcomes. I think the wisest thing to do is to wait until baby #1 is 2 years old and then evaluate if it's a good time to start on your second child. I feel ya, though, on looking at baby #1, thinking 'squee! I want another one!' ... I feel the same exact thing. ;)

I have an almost 2 year old daughter, and an 8 month old daughter. Hubby and I are trying for a boy! 😅

My kids are 3 years and 1 month apart. It's a great gap for us. My oldest was completely potty trained and more independent and self sufficient, so she loved helping. Plus my 2nd was an incredibly tough newborn, which made life hard on us all. I'm glad was daughter wasn't still a baby herself during that time. I know people make it work all of the time, but I personally can't imagine having kids closer than 3 years apart.

My children are a little over two years apart and it works out great. My daughter who is older loves helping with her brother

My step son and daughter are 6 years apart and I wish they would have been closer in age but it didn't work out that way. I had a lot of fears my SS would have problems but they are obsessed with each other. I think 2-3 years would be a nice age gap.

With our first, it took us six months to get pregnant. With our second, it took less than a month. We thought it would take longer when we started trying for our second child, but we were so very wrong! 😂. Our kids are a little under three years apart, which I am happy about (only one in diapers! Yay!)

My husband and I tried for our second when our oldest was 11 months, thinking it would take months to get pregnant. I ended up getting pregnant after only 2 tries and found out I was pregnant on my son's first birthday! I was already 3 weeks along. They're 19 months apart(supposed to be 20 months, but little man came early) and it's challenging, but I wouldn't change a thing. They're so close in age and will always be close (:

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I found out on my son's first birthday too!

That's awesome! Double celebration (:

My daughter is 19 months and I’ll be having my son in 2 weeks. We started trying when she was 8 months when the doctor gave us the green light and because I was still nursing it took a few months. I think it’s a blessing it took a few months because I’ve noticed a huge change in her independence the past 2 months which I think will make the transition easier for her. I can’t wait to have two littles close in age and I’m ready for the workload. If you’re eager I’d say first discuss with your doctor and see when they give you the go ahead to start trying.

3 years is what a lot of research recommends. By then your 1st or 2nd baby has formed a good attachment to you and is starting to get more independent. This makes the transition a lot easier for them. It’s also better for your body as well. Added bonus is most kids are potty training or trained by this age, understand what it means to be a sibling, and have an interest in babies. Ultimately, the choice is up to you. I have friends who are close in age to their siblings and get along and then on the flip side, my hubs and his older bro are only 15 months apart and are more like acquaintances that are obligated to see each other.

I’m a sucker for two year age gaps. IMO it’s perfect. My little ones are 22 months apart 😊 the next will probably be more like 2.5 years from my youngest, but that’s really due to our financial situation right now.

Just saying...my son is 7 months and I got pregnant when he was 5 months. Don’t get pregnant early because it will cause complications, you’re supposed to wait until you get all your vitamins back in 18 months. Don’t do it, just for your health and the 2nd baby because the first took everything and you will not get sleep 😂🤷🏽‍♀️ It’s going to be hard.

My kids are 10 months apart. Not gonna lie, it's hard! But I'm glad they're so close in age. Maybe one day they'll stop fighting over toys and such🤣

My bubbas are almost bang on 12 months apart, they are both IVF. It took us 3 yrs to conceive my son but fell on our first IVF cycle. I thought the chances of the second cycle working just as well were slim. Apparently not lol. Its hard but i love it.

It’s nice having them so close to age but ohh my I can say this now from experience it’s very hard, think about it first but if you have a grand ma or someone that can help you take advantage

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My mom helps but I’m the mom so obviously I’m the one that’s going to feed him 2-4 hours everyday and take care of him most of the time because sometimes kids grow up to think they’re grandma is the mom because she took care of him or her all their life. Helping is not going to help unless she helps with feeding bottles and letting you sleep 😂

I think two years is good. I grew up with siblings close to my age (born July 95, June 97, February 99), so I’m a little biased

Mine are 5 years apart for financial reasons. Just 1 in daycare at a time is nice. The older is very helpful with the baby.

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That's our plan. 5/6 yr age gap.

I am in the process of trying myself and I do get scared of not being able to but I am trying to have one my son is 6 already and wants a brother and keeps saying mommy I want a brother

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What if it’s a girl? 😂

My son asked to exchange her at the baby store. It was hilarious.

I love our 4 year gap. Big brother is old enough to understand sharing, playing nicely and even offers to help with little sister on occasion. I personally needed that gap to forget how much I hate being pregnant and to figure out how to parent a new little person.

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This ☝🏻 is why I need to wait as well haha

My first two are 15 months apart and it was really tough. Like really, really tough. I'm about to have our third and my youngest will be 2 1/2 when this one is born. I can already tell it will be so much easier. I'm looking forward to enjoying this baby. I didnt realize how much of a baby my 15 month old was until I was trying to juggle him and a newborn. Both of them needed to be held, rocked, soothed and fed- all at the same time. After being around other mom's and their kids I'd say 2 1/5 - 3 years apart is perfect. You're still able to be a great mom and the kids will grow up together. Just my opinion.

Watch out, it took a year to conceive my first and the second happened on the first try! And I’ve anecdotally heard a lot of similar stories. Mine are 2 years and 1 month apart and I wish we’d waited a little longer. It’s been really hard on my son to have to share us and he was too little to understand how to be gentle to the baby when she was born, so when he wanted to interact with her I kept having to swoop in and separate them and I think it hurt his relationship with her. She’s 12 months now so they’re finally starting to really play together, but he still gets pretty upset when she’s getting our attention and sometimes he takes that resentment out on her. It’s tough. If I could do it over I might try for more like a 2.5 or 3 year gap.

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Ha! This is definitely encouraging, thank you. Eyes on the prize.

I was going to say the exact same thing, same spacing, same reason. Once the baby was 18 months and my oldest started preschool it got so much easier. Now they play, and I can like, read a book. Hang in there.

2years or 3 years

We have 2.5 yr old. We are waiting for a 5-6 yr age gap because my husband is in school. I think whatever works best for your family is what you should do. Therea definitely be pros and cons no matter what.

I have an 8 year age gap. 10.5 year old son and 2.5 year old daughter. It wasn't planned that way, but I must say it has a lot of advantages. Daycare as mentioned above, I can't imagine having to pay for two in daycare at once, and my daughter only goes part time. My son can help out, which he loves to do. He understands when and why his sister needs more of our attention. We'll also have at least 3-4 years to save between him graduating college and her starting college. (I know, I'm reallllyyy thinking ahead there). They still have a special and loving relationship. If I could go back again and plan it I would aim for a 5-6 year age gap others have recommended.

There are benefits to having only one kid in diapers at a time. Mine are 3 years apart for that reason. Also, the memories of the c-section had to fade before I would consider a second...LOL

Well it’s up to you if your ready right now than go for it. Good luck 👍 and enjoy 😊

My kids are 8 years apart. No infertility, we had our first young and purposely waited until we were older and stable to have our second. And I’m so glad I did! I don’t think spacing matters, so whenever you feel ready is the best time. I now have an IUD because I’m pretty sure we’re done.

Mine are 11 months apart, both girls so there was a little jealousy but it’s getting better everyday my 1 yo is getting friendlier with my 1 month old, idk I feel like there will be less resentment of “being replaced” because they are closer in age and we plan on having another baby maybe next year as well, but I know when I was about 4 and a new baby came around I felt like I got pushed to the side and forgotten about so you have to take that into account 🤷🏻‍♀️