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Military mama/wife

Sometimes being a military mom/wife is so difficult especially whenever my husband has duty(has to spend the night on the ship). I’m a first time mom and a student and lately I’ve been struggling with PPD on top of that. Whenever he has to spend the night on the ship I try to stay distracted and busy (pretty easy to stay busy with a newborn lol) so the day goes by faster. But I usually end up feeling stuck in the house and miss my husband. It’s also tough for me to fall asleep without him home. I just wish I had family on the same island as me to have a closer support system. Idk how other military moms do it but I am having a hard time especially being a SAHM.😪
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We have all been there one way or another. My hubby was in the military too. We weren’t together when he was in so I couldn’t even begin to imagine what you are going through but I’m here if you need to talk! 😃

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Aw thank you !☺️

Army wife and SAHM here 🙋🏻‍♀️ I know exactly how it feels! Here to talk if you ever need a good venting mama!

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It’s comforting to know someone is in the same position as me. Thank you I’ll definitely message you !☺️

I'm right there with you!!

My finance was at BOLC for my daughter's first 4 months and it was hard. But try to get out and meet people. Go to Mom's groups and that will help pass the time and make friends. Go for walks and storytime at the libraries. Every day try to have a goal of going somewhere if possible. It will help give the days purpose.

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Thank you I’ll definitely give that a shot. I have friends where I live they’re just not parents like I am so I need to find a mommy group that I can relate more to😌

My husband was at BLOC for my sons first 6 months. Now he’s frequently gone traveling several days/weeks. Join bible studies or mom groups. It sucks getting ready but the more you get out the better it gets. I’m going to Hope Church bible study starting Wednesday (tomorrow). I literally know no one. We just moved here from Germany ao I’m trying.

I so understand especially with having 3 kids... when he deploys is when I get more sad and overwhelmed

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Oh myyyyyy I hope you get through it lol

Luckily my husband’s ship doesn’t deploy but they are going to start going on underways (which is when they leave for a week or so) and they’re going to be frequent so idk how I can manage when that starts next week😅

You’ll get it girl! I’m a military brat turned military spouse. I have three littles and my husband only was around for the middle littles birth. It can be overwhelming at times to feel solo, but you just have to go with the flow and you’ll get it. We face 6-7 month deployments way to often, but I make it work. My girls and I have become a great team over the years, since the majority of our life is spent far from family and without a village and thousands of miles from my spouse. You’re right, it’s not easy, but with one little, you can make this work! Say goodbye to expectations, step back and regroup, come up with a doable game plan for day to day, then go from there. You can’t do it all, remember that, so just decide what you want to do, and do that. The more you adapt, the more you can handle, and the easier it’ll become. You’re doing great! Everyone starts somewhere!

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Wow I can’t imagine how that must’ve been going through labor with him not being there! You’re so strong!☺️

My husband just retired from the Navy! ❤️ and works for the Navy as a civilian now, I know all to well what your going through. I also struggled with PPD after the birth of my 2 year old.

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It must be s relief now that he’s retired! I can’t wait for my husband m’s contract to be up

Girl I feel you being a military wife/ mom is SO hard especially without support some days I find myself day dreaming about what it would be like to have my family just up the road like everybody else. The sleep I’d get, getting to go out like a regular 21 year old getting a couple of hours to myself to get things done but we don’t get that with this lifestyle unfortunately :/ it takes a special type of person to live this lifestyle and not everybody can do it so pride yourself that you can. Try to get out and make friends. I know it’s hard but other military wives know exactly what you’re going through

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That’s exactly how I feel! I turned 21 while I was pregnant so I especially don’t feel like a regular 21 yr old that gets to go out. Granted I am not into clubbing or anything I would just like to have the ability to go out on occasion. I have my mom an island away so it’s just a 25 minute flight to me but I know it’s be 100x easier if I had her on the same island as me😅

My hubby goes to navy boot camp in February 😭 I had to start working to get out of the house and keep myself busy so I got a job at in home daycare part time mon-Friday and I get to take her with me. So I just got lucky she’s 8 months now and will be turning one in May 😭 my husband and i have never been apart long so it’s gonna be so difficult for me ! It’ll be all worth it when it’s over tho ! I just made mom friends and will hang out with them when he’s gone so I won’t feel alone bc family can’t handle my little girl lol

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They still don’t allow a lot of contact 😭 but you can do it too!

Aw you’re so lucky you found a job that baby can come to! You can do it mama! Hopefully since he’ll be at boot camp and not a deployment he’ll be able to talk to you on his down time 😌

Not that I’m with him anymore but I was with someone in the military.. I realise the struggle so if you fancy a chat give me a message!

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Aw thank you☺️

My husband was in the military and I had ppd really bad after I had my daughter. Just know you aren't alone. Feel free to message me if you ever want to chat. ♥️

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Thank you! ❤️

You need support!! If you need anything you can message me

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Aw thank you!💓💓

Hey mama! Milso ova here 👋🏻 my hubs just got back a couple months ago from a year long deployment, he had to leave when out second was only a couple months old 😭😭 so I feeeeeeeeel you. Hang in there, & don’t eat your feelings; like I do 😭😂🤷🏼‍♀️

I’m right there with you. Duty days suck. I never suffered from PPD but I hear it’s hard to overcome. I’m always here if you need someone to talk to.

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It’s good to know I’m not alone😌 and thank you so much you’re so sweet!💓

Make sure you find friends and look for groups in your area. People on bases are always willing to help and make room for new friends. I’m the military one so my poor hubby dealt with this ...but talk to women who have been were you are. It helps

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I made a group of local mom friends when my husband deployed for 10 months. I actually preferred finding local friends rather than other military because they didn't move away and they talked about stuff other than the military so it wouldn't constantly remind me. I should add I'm also active duty so work definitely helped keep me distracted but I think just staying busy is key

I made a group of local mom friends when my husband deployed for 10 months. I actually preferred finding local friends rather than other military because they didn't move away and they talked about stuff other than the military so it wouldn't constantly remind me. I should add I'm also active duty so work definitely helped keep me distracted but I think just staying busy is key

I feel you.. they decided to put mine on CQ duty the weekend after her birth and the weekend after that. 😩 He didn’t get any time off after she was born either; he went straight back to work the next day.. I had to do it all alone because I have NO family near and neither does he. Our families are on the east coast, a 17 hour drive away. 🙄

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Oh my gosh! He didn’t even get paternity leave?!

My boyfriend is in the navy and he’s been deployed since I was 6 months pregnant and will be deployed until my daughter is 5 months old, I’m struggling with PPD and know exactly how you feel, feel free to message me!

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Aw I can’t imagine what that is like! I’ll send ya a message now😊

I'm going through that now. The military moved us out here so my husband could teach at the bootcamp and he is back in VA right now at school and I'm 7 months pregnant and on bed rest and a first time mom. So it's hard, especially since I can't exactly stay busy. But you will get through it I promise. Not having family I get try and make some friends with other spouses they become like your family

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Aw I’m sorry to hear that! You can do this! If you ever need to vent/talk feel free to message me

Thank you so much!

Definitely understand my husband is in Virginia and I’m in New York with the kids and it is definitely hard and emotionally draining. Hang in there

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Thanks you too ❤️

I am a military spouse and I am no where near a base/ fort and mine is deployed for another 5 months... I understand you! Always looking for military friends!

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I feel you! I don’t live on base either but hoping we move into a house on base soon once our lease is up so I can at least be surrounded by other moms that know what I am going through

My husband is in Honolulu for two weeks. But I get to come visit for the weekend 😁

I get how you feel wish I was closer! It’s not easy but you can make it! You can always friend me I love and enjoy talking!

I feel you. My husband is a flight nurse practitioner in the civilian world and works 24 hour shifts (sometimes 3 a week). I find it difficult to complete tasks when he’s gone. We’re also getting ready for a 9 month deployment next year. Not looking forward to that

I feel you… my partner is deployed and haven’t met our baby yet.. it’s hard but I just try to keep myself busy with work and kids.. I’m here if you need someone to talk to

Your not alone! I had a week with my new born and then the next two weeks he was gone on training. ( Marine) so I understand have you made friends around you?

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