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How is everyone making time for their significant other? Do my best but we really haven’t spent much time together alone since our daughter was born. I’d love to know how other couples balance their relationship and being parents.

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Ever since I decided to put my daughter on a schedule at 4 months we have time to spend together every night. She goes down at 7:30pm so we have a few hours to stay up and talk and watch movies or something. If you have more than one kid I can see how that may be hard though.

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I have gotten her on a schedule to open up some time at night but at the moment she is going to bed at 9 every night how did you alter your babies schedule?

I altered it as she got older. She was going to bed at 8:30pm before and then I realized she needed to go to bed earlier so I switched her bedtime to 7:30pm. Then she was having 3 naps a day each between 30-45 min but now that she’s 8 months she went down to two naps a day between 30 min to an hour I kind of go by her cues

After the baby goes to bed we stay up later to have our grown up time. It was definitely a sacrifice in the beginning because I was sleepy and tired when the baby was young. But it was really worth it.

Most days we don't spend time together until after our daughter goes to bed but, I try to plan a date night every few weeks. That gives us a baby free night to ourselves, at least once a month.

We use our time in between feedings and try to make the most of it. We definitely have been trying to spice things back up between us, anything from making a romantic dinner setting, cuddling on the couch while the baby is asleep to taking a shower together 😁

We have a movie night every Friday and we just stay home make the best out of having a one year old 😂 we had our first date night when she was 9 months hoping we have another on Valentine’s Day

My husband works during the day so the only tome we really get to spend together is at night after my son sleeps before he was having 2 naps a day and napping sometimes around 6 or 7 so he would be up till all hours of the night after the hubby was in bed and we would get no alone time so I decided to take his evening nap out and now he naps once a day and he goes to bed any where between 8 and 9 and Hes out for the night and were able to get a couple hours of alone time its not much time but its better than nothing .

We spent time together every day. Make dinner, eat together, have a drink and play some video games, talk about our day.

I love planning date nights! It is soo important especially with two kids and one on the way and it gives me something to do and keeps things fun

We usually get in bed each night and put a movie on and cuddle. We also plan a date night at least once or twice a month. Our youngest is almost 10 months and she sleeps in our bed. Luckily our older 3 are 12,10 and 9 so they help out a lot and our 12 year old will watch the baby while my husband and I watch a movie together. Or we'll watch a movie as a family and we'll still cuddle. Being affectionate is really important. We hug eachother several times a day. Kiss several times a day. And when its time to relax, we cuddle or at least hold hands or I'll wrap my leg around his. Spending time alone together is hard sometimes so we try to be affectionate as much as possible. There's been a time when we weren't spending any time together or being affectionate and intimate and it really put a strain on our relationship.

Planning, Involvement, and family. I’ve been where your at. And with my first I thought I could juggle and handle everything by myself.You know that moment where all of your family members want to help? Take them up on those offers. And plan a night out with your SO. Every Friday night we would have play the PlayStation, go out and watch a movie, or do something he has been waiting for. I know it seems like forever being a mama bear 🐻 but Saturday morning around 12 when we pick the kids up we both feel refreshed. We both got some time for one another, and a couple extra hours of sleep. It will help. So don’t be afraid to ask around in your family ring to babysit baby bear so you two can have a night out. Trust me it will be a refresher doing so. Good Luck 🍀 mama bear.

It’s hard .. I feel like I’m constantly telling my husband id like more attention :/ just a random hug, a acknowledgment of how hard my night was .. he says our relationship going through changes and it’s temp, he’s working extra bc I’m stay at home for a little while .. it’s hard !!! You just have to SAY your needs open communication!!

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