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Does it get easier?

I’m feeling so exhausted with my newborn going on 3 weeks, I hardly ever sleep, and I don’t have any energy to cook healthy and unable to workout. Does this get easier? Will I have time to focus on getting myself healthier? Will I ever sleep again? :/
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Yes it does. are you breastfeeding? I found that with nursing bedsharing made the most sense and allowed us to sleep through the night from the time. Because she wouldn’t have to get to A screaming crying fit. She would just start squirming around and I’d feel her and put my boob in her mouth and back to sleep we went. But yes. It gets better!

It takes a little while but as soon as your little one starts sleeping more, you will too. You just have to hang in there😊

You can do it, mama! You're in the hardest part. It's so unfair that our littles need the most from us when we're recovering and sleep deprived! After about six weeks, I found it a bit easier. By 12 weeks I felt like I had a handle on things. I know that sounds impossibly far off. Just take it one day at a time.

Yes it does! I found it helpful to ask my husband for 20 solid minutes of me time everyday. No baby, no baby monitor, no one touching me or demanding to be fed, not ordering groceries or goods off amazon just you time. Don’t even worry about working out until your 6 week appointment. If it’s nice out go for a walk with the baby otherwise enjoy the snuggles!

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Yessss. All this. So great to have no baby in hearing range and no baby crying to be held by you, clinging to you. Just for those few minutes! You’re so right, Christine. Everyone needs physical and mental space!

My baby is 2 weeks old on Wednesday and I’m finding it so hard aswell all he wants to do is feed and fights sleeping 😩

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Hey, sounds like your son could possibly be overstimulated? I’m wondering if maybe you have the tv on during the day or any screen play? I ask because we noticed in the very beginning that our daughter would try fight sleep. So cut screen time. Only have it on when she’s asleep. Worked out. Maybe give it a shot? Hope this helps!

Hang in there! It gets better!!

I was the exact same way with my little one....NO SLEEP!!! Couldn’t even take a shower nor brush my teeth. But now that she is going on 5 months tomorrow, it’s way better. Try to keep her on a schedule so all of us can be happy in the morning. Hang in there and I promise it will get better.

It does get easier mamas! Stick it out. You got this! You’ll eventually get into a roll and you will start to create the time you need for yourself. It’s hard at first especially if it’s your first baby, but you’ll get there.

Yes it gets better! I promise. I thought I was going to die because I was barely getting any sleep and also recovering from a c-section. My baby is now a little over 3 months and I get way more sleep. Hang in there momma!

Hang on there first 3 months are hard but it will get better !

The first three months were SO hard, but my daughter is almost three and things have only gotten easier and better over time.

Trust me it gets better. My mom told me to get my daughter on a night schedule. Which means bath at 9 or around that time then a warm bottle followed after. My baby girl is 4 months now and I’m glad I listened to my mom, because she looks forward to the bath then bottle it lets her know its bedtime. I bathe her every night so she has a routine of the bath then eat she even likes to play a little before bed, but after that she is knocked out. Lol

My girl is almost one now. I remember that feeling. You know how annoying it is to hear people say “sleep when the baby sleeps” and you’re thinking “ya and I’ll do laundry and clean the house when the baby does the laundry and cleans the house” well I’m here to tell you that I wish I would have listened and slept when the baby slept. Your stress levels are high because your a new mom and it’s a huge transition. While the baby isn’t active take this time to relaxxxxxx. You’re body needs to heal. And trust me when the baby starts getting active so will you! You got this momma!!

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That’s exactly what I’m thinking! I have to much to do when baby is sleeping. I’m slowly learning yeah I need to actually sleep when he does

It gets easier to keep the house in order when you get use to the new routine! One at a time! The house may suffer (and that’s totally okay) until you get into a rhythm! You are completely new to this! just like when your baby starts to try to walk, there will be a few falls and bumps but after a while your baby will be a pro. It takes time and patients! Give yourself that!

I had the worst labour so 10 days after was horrible for me. No sleep at all. I was cranky and just so moody. Plus my son woke up every two hours. It was hard but I can say now that he is 6 months he only wakes up once during the night sometime twice and it’s short times he is never up for long ! So it does get easier ! Trust me ❤️ enjoy the moments !

It will get easier. My first month and half was super hard. Time seemed to go by so slow. I hated seeing my husband sleep while i didn't get any. As the baby eats more they will eventually sleep longer than an hour or two. You are doing an amazing job.

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Ugh the newborn days are so amazing and so incredibly difficult. Hang in there mamma. You are doing so amazing. It has been so hard for me to just let things go, not clean or cook, let others clean for me or bring food. Take as much help as you can get. It definitely gets easier, then hard then easy over and over again. Every journey is different however it does get easier. Best advice I received is that this is just a phase. Soon a new phase will hit and it will be wonderful and difficult in new ways. Do the best you can. Keep it up mamma!! (My little guy is 18 months now).

The first 3 months were SO HARD. You’ve got this! Each day is a little easier than the last.

I felt the same way the first couple months were hard but when they get towards 10-12 lbs they start to eat more and start to sleep longer than 2-3 hrs. My lack of sleep caused some real PPD and I had to get medicine for it but it has gotten easier now that he is almost 3 months and I don’t feel so depleted all the time. Around 2-2 1/2 months they will sleep 4-5 hrs. I remember after my daughter was born I would get up in the middle of the night and walk down the hall stumbling,eyes barely open, not even walking straight to the fridge to get her a bottle. My little man is about to be 3 months now and he had a 4 oz bottle with some rice cereal in it and slept all through the night from 11 pm to 7 am. Almost 8. You can do it momma!

Also try the swaddleme things from Walmart for 1 month olds. Helped my babe sleep at least 3-4 hrs in his swing during that first month and a half.

Yes you will, was in the same boat with my firstborn. You'll learn to adapt. Its hardwork but they are totally worth it 👍🏻

You guys are the best thank you so much!!! I feel so much more positive about this :)

It will get better, trust me! I was getting up with my son every 45 minutes to an hour up until he was 2 months old, then every two hours after that. Plus my husband worked 12 hour night shifts, which meant no help at all. Also my two and 4 year olds are night owls and wake up constantly through the night. I thought I would never sleep again and actually went multiple days with no sleep at all, all while cooking, cleaning and caring for 3 children. It’s definitely hard, and it seemed like I was going to struggle forever, then literally it just stopped one night. He just all of a sudden stopped waking up throughout the night, all in his own, and same with my girls. It was like a miracle lmao. Needless to say, I comatosed the first night that he didn’t wake up constantly 😂

I just had my third baby and still had the hardest time after she was born adjusting. I didnt really get into the swing of things or feel "normal" until 6 or 7 weeks. Hang in there!

Yes!! It does. Not only will you sleep not, but those hormones with go away too!

I have a 7 month old and it’s still very hard but better compared to initial 4 months. I enjoy things lot more now because a)few extra hours of sleep(not a whole lot because I am woken up every couple hours but can go back to sleep after feeding) so body is used to new way of life b) baby’s playfulness and smile makes everything awesome so starting to enjoy motherhood lot more now

I know how you feel and I am not trying to scare you but the sleep might not get better for a long time. Until my daughter was 8 months I was lucky to get 2 hours between night time wakes and she never napped more then 3 times 30mins each time. I stressed alot about what i was doing wrong,dont do that just take it day by day. I have a little lounge chair for her so I could at least shower or get food. It's not easy but you will adapt. Good luck! You're not alone.

That's what everyone tells me. My baby girl just turned a month yesterday. I understand what you are going through. For me it gets better when I see her smiling or making cute faces. (Or letting me sleep for a hour)

Absolutely. It seems hard and stressful at first. Don’t give up. It’ll all be sooo worth it and you will miss when they are little once they grow up more!!

I was in the same boat my son is 5 months it gets easier once they start sleep all night then you’ll get a good night sleep but always remember when the baby is asleep mama gets to sleep too that’s what I did when my son was in the newborn stage I slept when he slept

It gets easier! I’m still waking up every couple hours to feed or so. My almost 6 month old baby doesn’t sleep through the night and I work full time. He’s in daycare and gets sick easily so that doesn’t help him sleep through the night either. I was dying the first few weeks and thought I was going to faint every day for the first month I went back to work but it’s better now. As long as I’m on a schedule. Hang in there!

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It does once your baby is easier to keep distracted. My daughter is a year old and plays while I can clean up fast and I can workout while she watches. But with night time she still wakes up twice a night sometimes more

You got this! I was a basket case for the first four months and things slowly but surely got better. My daughter is almost 9 months now and we've got a good routine going that leaves more room for fun. For me at least, it took for her to get more of a personality and to feed less often before I felt like it was fun. Feeding all the time in the beginning made me feel like I had no room to breathe! Keep up the great work!

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