Age gap

Mine are 18 months apart. They are super close. They do everything together. I love their bond. Im a tired mama most days but i wouldnt change it

I have three kids. My oldest son is 4, my daughter is 2 years old and my newborn is 2 months old. So 18 months for the first two and two years apart for my middle and youngest. I love their bond and closeness. And they’re protective of one another.Con is they fight over toys and they are competitive with can be both pro and con.

I don’t have two kids, but I thought I would share my experience. I’m 21, have a 20 year old sister, 16 year old sister, and 3 year old sister. The 20 and 16 year old are extremely close. I wasn’t close to either of them. However, our love for the 3 year old has helped us to bond and ever since her birth we have all never been closer. So truthfully, I don’t think age matters lol

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I'm 39, my sister is 23, and my brother is 17. My sister and I are 16 years apart, but we are really close!

My son and daughter are 2 years and 3 months apart, and my second and third will be 23 months apart. We were going for the 2 year mark because me and all my siblings are about 2 years apart. They can be best friends, share clothes, play by themselves... But still be independent, make their own friends, and have their own interests. :) Plus we wanted to knock them all out before we get any health problems (my side has a family history of ovarian cancer, my husband's side has a history of prostate cancer 😔)

My two boys are about 11 years apart. They are so close and I love it!

I'm 35 my sister is 25, I always thought I hated the age gap, I always got in trouble for her, I always was babysitting, I never got close with her, we stopped living in the same house when I left for high school, we never lived together again. I have one kid now and she's 3 in June, I was thinking I don't want an age gap any bigger but I also wanted to have my first at age 25, nothing works out, you can't control everything. It looks like my experience is the exception. Everyone's comments in here seen to be positive. I think it would be more helpful if more moms comment on there personal experience of the age gap in there life. When we are going and ensuring for or kids it's not always what's going on. It's growing old that defines the gap.

3 years 3 months between my boys. Pros: They adore each other 3 year old likes to help Cons A 3 year old and a newborn at the same time.

Can't weigh in as a parent but as an early childhood educator who has worked with tons of young families, I would recommend waiting until #1 is completely potty trained before even trying to conceive #2. Young children can sense your pregnancy on some deep level even if you don't announce it to them, and potty training gets exponentially more difficult when they know a baby is coming. I've seen almost-totally-trained kids regress completely, way more often than you'd think, because a younger sibling is coming. Unless you're okay with multiple kids in diapers, I would say the potty training thing matters more than actual years.

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It’s not that difficult really I had a 18 month old and a newborn changing both diapers and it’s not as bad as you think the older one always helps and brings diapers, wipes and everything I ask of him..

Wow that’s such a good point I didn’t even think about it in that way! I’ve been thinking lately about when we’d have our 2nd cause I can’t even begin to imagine how hard it’ll be for me to handle TWO little ones by myself during the day while hubby’s at work😰

My 1st & 2nd child are 23 months & 2 weeks apart , my 2nd & 3rd are about 18 months apart . I like it because they are growing up together they are never lonely & always have someone to play with . My oldest child is almost 5 so when she goes to school my younger 2 still have each other at home . Cons are that my husband works a lot so when I'm home alone I cant really handle my two younger kids alone my oldest is good she usually listens but my 2 year old is crazy and usually tries to run away from me .

I have b/g twins! So no gap in age. Hard because they are the same age, but good playmates.

My kids are 5 years apart. My son (oldest) started preschool the week after I had my daughter. So it was nice because I had that time with just the baby while he was at school. I enjoy the age gap, I think I’d go insane if I had my two close together 🤣

2 years. They love each other or boss each other.

I have a 3 year old (daughter) and 7 month old (son). So far I like the age difference. Except- My daughter was almost potty trained and regressed when he was born. Took about two months to get back into undies from pull ups. She was 2 years 10 months day potty trained, then 3 years one month fully potty trained (undies all the time/ dry during nighttime). I am debating on having one more and will want them closer in age since I’m getting older (currently 36) and my body won’t bounce back as it did when I was 33 with my first.

I can’t tell you from a parent standpoint but I can def tell you from a child standpoint! I’m 26 & I have two sisters who are 14 & about to be 7. I didn’t know if I would have the same close relationship as siblings who are closer in age but our sister bond & love is so amazing! Pros is definitely able to get a little help from the older kid(s) since there’s a bigger age gap so they understand responsibilities, have more patience & understanding as well as compassion, I know for me it allowed me to really see everything my mom does for us which made me grateful. Also, it allows me to advise my sisters better thru my own experience since I’m older. There’s actually a lot of pros, I honestly can’t imagine having sisters close to my age. I love our age gap, it’s never been a problem💕

I have a son who is 15 and a daughter who will be there in April Big age gap lol

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3 in April my bad

My son is 18 and my daughter is 4. A huge age gap x

I have a 20 year old, and a 3 month old. Never planned on having such a huge age gap between my children, but sometimes that’s just how life goes.

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I am in the same boat I have a 20 yr old son and an 11 week old daughter!

Thanks for this post! Have the same questions!

My oldest son is almost 15 & my daughter is 3 months. My middle is 8 so theres a gap between all my babies

I’ve got 4 kiddos. The youngest two are 18 months apart. The middle two are about just under two years apart. They’re all very close. My oldest is 5 years older then my second. She’s the mother of the group lol

I have 4 children 1st is 4 March 13th 2nd is 3 Feb 27th 3rd is 2 July 10th And 4th is 1 30th may I love the close age gap. It's hard work but they entertain each other, share clothes, share toys, very close bond and love each other dearly when they aren't having tiny fights lol. Hardest part is juggling attention and my energy 😂 or navigating shops and making sure I still have all of them 😂 my almost 3 year old is very quick, very determined and cheeky. My almost 4 year old is generally a helpful little angel, my 19 month old is a stroppy little monster but usually good and my 8 month old just goes with the flow lol

I have three kids, each with exactly 34 months between them ... meaning we got pregnant the month each previous little turned 2. I wanted my kiddos closer in age, but that’s not how it worked out ( ; So, here we are! I actually enjoy the age difference. Each was potty trained before the next came along and we are truly able to enjoy each season of their individual ages, without being overwhelmed by too much going on st once. Highly recommend 😉😉

I have one 13 month old and am currently pregnant with my second baby who will be with us on July 24th. My son obviously is to young to understand what’s going on but it will be interesting to see how he acts when he/she gets here

19.5 months apart. I wanted them a little closer but I’m glad it worked out this way because in the last month or so before the baby came my daughters vocabulary increased a lot and she got much more independent. It’s only been a few weeks but there hasn’t been much jealousy at all (he sleeps a ton so I still get lots of time with her). She won’t remember a time before him anyway.

There is a 3 1/2 year age gap between my boys. I’m only 7 months in of being a mum of two and I’m enjoying the age gap. My eldest is old enough to understand that his baby brother needs my attention a bit more than he does and will wait until baby is fed etc. I don’t really have any cons yet! They probably won’t be as close when they are older due to a larger age gap, but we will see 😊

My kids are 5 yrs apart. 6 yrs old & 1 yrs old. I love the age gap. My son can occupy my daughter or keep an eye on her for when I use the bathroom or take the trash out. But I’m wanting my next not to be such a gap.

We have 13, 10, & 5. Works out nicely as far as them being able to do things independently as well as together.

Mine will be 6 years apart.

I have a 22 year old, 10 year old and 6 year old. My oldest is from a previous marriage. They're all pretty good with each other. We tried to have the younger two closer together but it didn't work out that way. 🤷 They fight like cats and dogs one minute and can be best buds the next minute but that is any siblings.

My oldest daughter is 5, my son is 2 and my youngest daughter is 5 months old. The age gap between my first born and second was easier than the age between my second and my youngest. When my son was born my daughter was 3 and it was great because she was old enough to know better than to try to pick him up as a baby! And she left him alone for the most part. When we recently had our youngest daughter our son was only 22 months old and he was constantly trying to pick her up and love on her, but he would be a little rough about it because he wasn't old enough to really understand yet. Hes gotten a lot better in the past 5 months but it's still a work in progress!!

My kids are 8, 14, & 20 it's funny how things worked for us. I love that my older girls help out with my youngest and they like to go places with each other.

I have two boys. They are 2 months shy of 4 years apart. I love their age gap. I can’t wait to see how it is when they’re older.

My first 2 are almost 5 years apart and my middle and last are 7 years apart. My oldest is 13, middle is 9, and baby will be 2 (2/13)

My two oldest girls are 3 years apart from each other, my stepson is 2 years younger than my middle daughter and my youngest daughter is 10 years younger than my son, 13 years younger than than my middle and 16 years younger than my oldest. My oldest is THE best sibling to all of them. My middle was NOT pleased that I had another baby and has the most attitude, but gets along well with my oldest and occasionally tolerates the youngest, and has no tolerance for my son (I have been in his life since he was a year old, he's as much mine as the girls are.). My son gets along with the oldest and tolerates the youngest. My youngest favors my oldest the most and looks up to her the most. I personally feel that the age doesn't matter, it's the quality and quantity of interactions that build the relationship between them.

Well I have two step kids that live with us 14 and 15 and one on his own who's 20. Lol I'd say the pros are I have more help when needed because there old enough to do chores and help around the house the bad is they are teenage boys so they half ass stuff sometimes and can be loud and obnoxious

I have a 4 month old, 4 year old, 15yo, 18yo and a 19yo. Pros of having them so close together as far as my oldest goes, they are best friends. Pros of having such a huge age gap, my oldest love the little ones so much and help out with them and I know when I’m gone they will always play that nurturing role with the babies as they grow older. Plus it’s great birth control for my teens. They see first hand that it’s not all fun and games. 😂

My eldest ones are 3 years apart, at a stage they clashed but get on great now, my youngest ones are just under 12 months apart and their bond is just magical

Girl 3.5 years older than boy...it was really hard in the beginning because she was a toddler that was used to being an only child, we had a rough couple years...yes i said YEARS...of her learning she has to share her Mom and Mom's attention!

Dx,

My kids who are now teenagers are 3 yrs apart. 21 yr old daughter and twins boy and girl 18 yr. so I’ve experienced both the 3 year apart to having 2 at once. It was crazy and loved every moment. Now I see all 3 of them best of friends!

2 years it has been good to get through the sleep less nights and nappy cycle though just not enough time to focus on my own health and balance in life as what I was hoping for lol

Mine are 16 months apart. We chose this because we’d tried over 4 years to have kids & doctors said I couldn’t. I wouldn’t change anything. My oldest adjusted quickly and now loves her brother!

13months apart now 5&6 I love it. They love each other and are best friends they don’t know life without each other. I don’t have any cons at the moment. But people would tell me how bad it was going to be but mine were both planned and the people who told me that their close baby gap was a surprise.. maybe as they get older things will be different but still I won’t have any regrets.

My kids are 10 years apart.

I have a 5yr old and a 5wk old as of 2/16. I’m still learning on how to be a mama to two kids as my oldest is feeling like I spend a lot of time with baby. I’ve been talking with him and try to involve him as much as I can, soon we’ll start doing date with just us. It the only thing that may be tough is getting older child ready for baby and work through the new emotions

I have a 3year old & a 1 year old... cons, they tend to fight a little bit but I guess that would happen regardless of age 🤷‍♀️😂 pros, they are best friends and learn off of each other, so beautiful to see the bond that they have 💖

I’ve had twins 19 years ago it was a busy time then had my next 2 years later nightmare I’ve got to say last time made 16 years between pregnancy’s my my son now I’m pregnant again there will be 15 month diff

11 months apart! 🙈 Needless to say it's exhausting.

Mine will be 3 years apart

I have 20 , 13,11,2 I thought i was finished but!!!!! My older kids are much much help. And it allow my two year old to learn so much

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I feel ya! My daughter just turned 20 yrs old and I'm 12 weeks pregnant! We are nuts for sure. Lol. So glad I'm not alone.