• B
  • Florissant, United States
  • a year ago

Let dads be a dad

I’ve struggle letting my husband be a dad. If he isn’t doing it the way I do it, it’s wrong an I push him out the way. I need to stop!! It’s not fair for him or Asher. I get so anxious an totally dismiss my hubs. Anyone else have this issue? If so how are you trying to make things better?
  • M
  • VA, US
  • 4 months ago

I do this. And i feel awful, because then i talk about how i feel completely alone in this parenting thing. But, sometimes, it's just because i want to take care of my son. Because i feel like dad messes up or doesnt do something the way i think he should. Or the way i have come to find that my son wants something done. Since going back to work i havent really had a choice but to let him be a dad. Hes, as of right now, a stay at home dad. And so im being forced to let him parent! And I think actually experiencing that space and that peace has helped me step back. Seeing him do well when im gone. Feeling that peace of not doing this alone. Allowing him to be our son's daddy and parent his own way. It helps.

  • M
  • CA, US
  • 4 months ago

I have the same problem! I like to be extremely careful w my baby boy. I’m always worried about baby all the time. Hubby is very lax with baby. It used to drive me crazy. I have learned to let him do things his way. Baby is half his after all. Thank goodness nothing bad has happened thus far. It’s tough for us mamas!

  • A
  • AZ, US
  • 5 months ago

I'm also struggling to just let him do what he's doing and I've already told him how I feel how I teach so obviously if he does what he's doing that's just his parenting method and it doesn't mean that he's wrong I just care so much for my little ones and I'm very specific about how I want things done it's hard for me to let go just take a breath and remind yourself that as long as they're not in physical harm just let it be easier said than done but we'll get through it together girls

  • A
  • AZ, US
  • 5 months ago

I recently had this Revelation also when a counselor came to my house for some behavioral issues that my toddler's been having to my one year old who is two and a half and she said that I should just let him parent the way he does because I am always correcting him or telling him how he should be doing things but in my defense he does things that truly are bad habits are bad role modeling but he also does a lot of other things aren't those things and I still say something and always correct him trying to tell him how to teach her how to interact and she says that's not good for anyone and

  • E
  • CA, US
  • 5 months ago

I struggle with the same issues sometimes too my fiancee trys his hardest and now i finally accepted the fact that he can do this he may not be his by blood but the more and more i see how they giggle together and play even take a nap together! It melts me away. Sometimes us moms just have to sit back and watch things take its course even though we want to just push them aside and get it done ourselfs its mom thing lol! But so far hes been pretty good with myron and he plans on adopting him and making him and raising him as his own and im over come with joy!

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