• B
  • Florissant, United States
  • 6 months ago

Let dads be a dad

I’ve struggle letting my husband be a dad. If he isn’t doing it the way I do it, it’s wrong an I push him out the way. I need to stop!! It’s not fair for him or Asher. I get so anxious an totally dismiss my hubs. Anyone else have this issue? If so how are you trying to make things better?
  • E
  • CA, US
  • 10 days ago

I struggle with the same issues sometimes too my fiancee trys his hardest and now i finally accepted the fact that he can do this he may not be his by blood but the more and more i see how they giggle together and play even take a nap together! It melts me away. Sometimes us moms just have to sit back and watch things take its course even though we want to just push them aside and get it done ourselfs its mom thing lol! But so far hes been pretty good with myron and he plans on adopting him and making him and raising him as his own and im over come with joy!

  • S
  • VA, US
  • 2 months ago

Ok wow, so like I thought I was the only one who did this. But yes, I agree it’s not good for anyone to be such a control freak. I will do better to let him live and learn but still guiding him in a not so controlling way.

  • K
  • WA, US
  • 2 months ago

This is something I work on every day. It’s so hard! I really don’t want to be a buzzkill and know he’s a great dad but....when it comes to: screen time, sleep training and feeding I’m pretty protective. I have those as big priorities to make sure my son is on the right track.

  • R
  • Port Coquitlam, CA
  • 2 months ago

I think I’m the beginning it’s just hard to give up that responsibility. Mama instinct kicks in and we just want to do it all, the way we know it works and we believe we’re the best for them. I had to get over it, because it’s important for my son to be loved differently, a fathers love, or grandparents love etc, will give him a different perspective on how to love and be loved and nurtured. Once I looked at that way, it was easier for me to let go of the anxiety of “you’re not doing it right, let me show you etc”! :)

  • M
  • LA, US
  • 3 months ago

So we complain about dads who aren’t around and we complain about dads who are around? We are just complainers aren’t we?

  • Sam
  • Virginia, United States
  • 23 days ago

I don't think its really complaining about Dads that are around. Its the fact you just had this precious baby that YOU have been connected to litterally. You have to break that barrier of letting othef loved ones like the Father help take care of the baby. It's stressful at first.

  • K
  • LA, US
  • 3 months ago

Right!

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