• B
  • Florissant, United States
  • 8 months ago

Let dads be a dad

I’ve struggle letting my husband be a dad. If he isn’t doing it the way I do it, it’s wrong an I push him out the way. I need to stop!! It’s not fair for him or Asher. I get so anxious an totally dismiss my hubs. Anyone else have this issue? If so how are you trying to make things better?
  • M
  • VA, US
  • a month ago

I do this. And i feel awful, because then i talk about how i feel completely alone in this parenting thing. But, sometimes, it's just because i want to take care of my son. Because i feel like dad messes up or doesnt do something the way i think he should. Or the way i have come to find that my son wants something done. Since going back to work i havent really had a choice but to let him be a dad. Hes, as of right now, a stay at home dad. And so im being forced to let him parent! And I think actually experiencing that space and that peace has helped me step back. Seeing him do well when im gone. Feeling that peace of not doing this alone. Allowing him to be our son's daddy and parent his own way. It helps.

  • M
  • CA, US
  • a month ago

I have the same problem! I like to be extremely careful w my baby boy. I’m always worried about baby all the time. Hubby is very lax with baby. It used to drive me crazy. I have learned to let him do things his way. Baby is half his after all. Thank goodness nothing bad has happened thus far. It’s tough for us mamas!

  • A
  • AZ, US
  • 2 months ago

I'm also struggling to just let him do what he's doing and I've already told him how I feel how I teach so obviously if he does what he's doing that's just his parenting method and it doesn't mean that he's wrong I just care so much for my little ones and I'm very specific about how I want things done it's hard for me to let go just take a breath and remind yourself that as long as they're not in physical harm just let it be easier said than done but we'll get through it together girls

  • A
  • AZ, US
  • 2 months ago

I recently had this Revelation also when a counselor came to my house for some behavioral issues that my toddler's been having to my one year old who is two and a half and she said that I should just let him parent the way he does because I am always correcting him or telling him how he should be doing things but in my defense he does things that truly are bad habits are bad role modeling but he also does a lot of other things aren't those things and I still say something and always correct him trying to tell him how to teach her how to interact and she says that's not good for anyone and

  • Y
  • TX, US
  • 2 months ago

I had this issue for the first month at least. It was bad! To the point my husband wouldn't want to come home. I really had to shift my way of thinking. One thing that worked for me was leaving the baby with him for short periods of time while I took a shower or just went outside to feed the chicken and breathe and focus on positive thoughts. I'm very picky when it comes to the baby's care but little by little I have changed. I still require him to fully clean his hands and face when he comes home from work though. But he now understands why. As new parents, there is always the very real fear that something bad will happen to your baby or that something somebody else does will harm the baby. I think communicating these fears without putting too much pressure on daddy helps him understand your fear and if he loves you and baby he will understand and do his best to help. Just go easy on him and trust him with baby's care while you are around. Daddies do things differently and that's ok.

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