• L
  • La Crosse, United States
  • 8 months ago

Am I a bad mom?

I had an extremely hard and long 49 hour labor. I gave birth at my home and brought my sweet baby into the world in a calm loving medication free environment. I immediately started breastfeeding but it was excruciatingly painful from the very first moment- he is now a week old...His latch is perfect so that isn’t the problem. I just can’t handle breast feeding it causes so much physical and emotional pain for me. Every time I would try to feed him I would cry the whole time. I felt like I couldn’t bond with my baby if I was always breastfeeding him. Today I was gifted a wonderful Nanobébé bottle set, I pumped and fed my baby with a bottle I immediately felt better and happier but I can’t get out of my head that I’m a bad mom for giving my newborn a bottle. I’m still giving him breast milk and plan to breast feed intermittently but I can’t handle it all the time... does this make me a bad mom?😕I’m struggling to not feel terrible even though I do feel better at the same time.
  • A
  • TX, US
  • 19 days ago

At the end of the day, what's important is that your baby is healthy and fed. Period.

  • M
  • Converse, United States
  • a month ago

Oh sweety! However your child gets the breast milk is JUST FINE. Don’t put any judgement on yourself about it. You are lovingly making sure your child has amazing nutrients and love by you. That’s all that matters ! Best of luck and you’re doing amazing and kudos to the medication free birth!!!

  • K
  • MI, US
  • a month ago

You have to take care of your mental and physical health in order to be the best mama possible. Not a bad mom! I’ve recently decided to quit breastfeeding for selfish reasons like it’s so hard to pump at work, and it’s a full time job. My baby now has a more present mama who still cares for him just the same! Do what’s best for you 💕

  • K
  • Orchard Park, United States
  • a month ago

A fed baby is a happy baby. Their is no wrong way. Whatever works for you and your beautiful baby. I would take to a lactaction specialist. Mine was really helpful and because of her I nursed till 36 months with my 1st and we are currently at 20 months with my 2nd

  • A
  • MI, US
  • a month ago

You are sooooo strong for trying!!! I couldn't do it. tried one time and in my heart I knew I wouldn't be able to physically brestfeed or mentally even handle it. You DO NOT need to breast feed to bond. And nonyou are not a bad mommy!!! Good luck with everything.

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