• L
  • La Crosse, United States
  • 6 months ago

Am I a bad mom?

I had an extremely hard and long 49 hour labor. I gave birth at my home and brought my sweet baby into the world in a calm loving medication free environment. I immediately started breastfeeding but it was excruciatingly painful from the very first moment- he is now a week old...His latch is perfect so that isn’t the problem. I just can’t handle breast feeding it causes so much physical and emotional pain for me. Every time I would try to feed him I would cry the whole time. I felt like I couldn’t bond with my baby if I was always breastfeeding him. Today I was gifted a wonderful Nanobébé bottle set, I pumped and fed my baby with a bottle I immediately felt better and happier but I can’t get out of my head that I’m a bad mom for giving my newborn a bottle. I’m still giving him breast milk and plan to breast feed intermittently but I can’t handle it all the time... does this make me a bad mom?😕I’m struggling to not feel terrible even though I do feel better at the same time.
  • M
  • VA, US
  • 2 days ago

You are not a bad momma. How you feed your baby (bottle, breast, formula) does not make you a bad momma. And the fact that you feel like a bad one tells me you absolutely are NOT ❤️❤️❤️❤️ You're wonderful. And your sweet baby loves and appreciates you for all of your efforts. Stay strong momma

  • S
  • CA
  • 2 days ago

Pumping and giving breast milk is already a job on its own so kudos for that move mama! Try to make an appointment with a lactation consultant. Breastfeeding (although it takes an emotional toll) should never be painful so a breastfeeding specialist will be able to lead you down the right route. & always remember fed is best; no matter how it’s done

  • T
  • KS, US
  • 3 days ago

Not at all! Feeding your baby is the important part. If you are still able to feed them breast milk but pumping is better for you, then do it! I struggled with this as well. Your baby is eating and you are phyaically and mentally well. That is what matters! This also allows others to help you more if you need a break.

  • H
  • Shamokin, United States
  • 4 days ago

I am the same way. With my first I spent most of her newborn life so depressed. Every time I breast fed I felt miserable and cried. Once I switched to formula it was like a weight was lifted and I could be the mom I wanted to be. With my second I tried again, but felt depressed again. I switched to formula the day after coming home from the hospital. I felt a lot of guilt, but I know that I'd rather spend the time with my babies happy than depressed. Do what is best for you and will make YOU happy. That baby just wants a happy, loving mother. You got this mama!

  • M
  • OH, US
  • 8 days ago

Definitely not a bad mom! You do what you feel is right for you and your baby. People who aren't parents will try to give you advice on what they think is the "right" thing to do. Don't listen. As moms, we know in our hearts and minds what to do. It's an instinct. Even if you're a first time mom, you know what to do. You got this mama. Keep that head up. A happy and healthy mama equals a happy and healthy baby. 😊 And honestly my nipples were soooo sore for the first 2 weeks of feeding my daughter. She has a really strong latch. Try this, it really helped me! https://www.amazon.com/Breastfeeding-Earth-Mama-Lanolin-free-Verified/dp/B000JVCBBG

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