• L
  • La Crosse, United States
  • 3 months ago

Am I a bad mom?

I had an extremely hard and long 49 hour labor. I gave birth at my home and brought my sweet baby into the world in a calm loving medication free environment. I immediately started breastfeeding but it was excruciatingly painful from the very first moment- he is now a week old...His latch is perfect so that isn’t the problem. I just can’t handle breast feeding it causes so much physical and emotional pain for me. Every time I would try to feed him I would cry the whole time. I felt like I couldn’t bond with my baby if I was always breastfeeding him. Today I was gifted a wonderful Nanobébé bottle set, I pumped and fed my baby with a bottle I immediately felt better and happier but I can’t get out of my head that I’m a bad mom for giving my newborn a bottle. I’m still giving him breast milk and plan to breast feed intermittently but I can’t handle it all the time... does this make me a bad mom?😕I’m struggling to not feel terrible even though I do feel better at the same time.
  • A
  • MI, US
  • 7 days ago

You are not a bad mom. While I wish I could have nursed, I had to exclusively pump. I am 3 months in and this is what works for us my baby is happy snd thriving. We have bonded beautifully.

  • R
  • VA, US
  • 8 days ago

Nothing about this makes you a bad mom and do not allow anyone to tell you different.

  • S
  • Orange Park, United States
  • 9 days ago

I went through something similar, it doesn't make you a bad mom at all. As long as you're trying your hardest to do your best that's all that matters really, and whatever works best for you and baby is best for YOU and YOUR baby. All the best mama, good luck! And enjoy it because these moments are fleeting, I wish I was still breastfeeding or at least able to pump for my 1 yr old son.

  • L
  • Palmdale, United States
  • 10 days ago

Don’t feel bad I would suggest finding a lactation consultant to maybe help find ways to comfortably nurse . And look into D-MER . It’s a real condition of depression anger and frustration when you have a let down because of there hormones and chemical imbalance it can cause. It’s rare but maybe check it out so see if it matches with how you feel or what your going through. There is always support system for you to continue nursing if you want. Stay strong . Nursing really is 10% milk and 90% determination. It takes a lot I get frustrated a lot as well I’ve been through so much with my breastfeeding journey . Lip & tongue tie high palette flat /inverted nipples, nipple shields mastitis teething and so much more we are 18+ months in!!! Also Exclusively pumping is possible join a support group!! And just keep your head and you can do this!!! Please feel free to message me. ♥️🤱🏽💪🏽

  • T
  • Arkadelphia, United States
  • 11 days ago

It doesn’t matter how your baby is fed.. just as long as their fed. 🥰🥰 both my kids got the first week or breast milk and then got a bottle for the rest of their lives. Neither of them have been sick much at all. My son has maybe been sick 5 or less times and he’s 5. And my daughter has been sick 3 times as well. She will be 3 this year.

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