• L
  • La Crosse, United States
  • 23 days ago

Am I a bad mom?

I had an extremely hard and long 49 hour labor. I gave birth at my home and brought my sweet baby into the world in a calm loving medication free environment. I immediately started breastfeeding but it was excruciatingly painful from the very first moment- he is now a week old...His latch is perfect so that isn’t the problem. I just can’t handle breast feeding it causes so much physical and emotional pain for me. Every time I would try to feed him I would cry the whole time. I felt like I couldn’t bond with my baby if I was always breastfeeding him. Today I was gifted a wonderful Nanobébé bottle set, I pumped and fed my baby with a bottle I immediately felt better and happier but I can’t get out of my head that I’m a bad mom for giving my newborn a bottle. I’m still giving him breast milk and plan to breast feed intermittently but I can’t handle it all the time... does this make me a bad mom?😕I’m struggling to not feel terrible even though I do feel better at the same time.
  • K
  • Eglin Afb, United States
  • 6 hours ago

My baby was never able to properly latch. I went straight to the bottle. I felt the same way about formula! Breastfeeding is 100% a full time job and I was just to physically exhausted. You are doing great momma, keep it up!

  • K
  • Farmington, United States
  • a day ago

Adoptive mama here, but fuck literally ALL that shit that makes you feel like a bad mama. You’re feeding and nurturing and loving your baby. Job well done. PERIOD! You ever compared with your friends to see if they had the boob or the bottle as a baby? Hell no. We all have plenty of opportunities for successes and failures throughout life that shape and form us beyond the boob, babe. You’re doing great.

  • C
  • Rednal, United Kingdom
  • 3 days ago

You are not a bad mum at all sometimes these things don't work out. You are still an amazing mummy no matter what way you choose to feed your baby x

  • M
  • El Paso, United States
  • 7 days ago

Check out info on Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex. This may be what's bothering you. It's a very rarely known about condition and it seems to fit your issues. You're absolutely not a bad mother at all!

  • C
  • Garland, United States
  • 3 days ago

Omg DMER, the struggle is real with that, im finally not getting it but I’m also ready to give up nursing cus my toddler is a loose cannon when I pump for her sister, c’est la vie

  • D
  • Marietta, United States
  • 8 days ago

Pumping and feeding milk from a bottle is breastfeeding! Keep up the good work! I exclusively pumped for a year - you got this!

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