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4 years ago

Am I a bad mom?

I had an extremely hard and long 49 hour labor. I gave birth at my home and brought my sweet baby into the world in a calm loving medication free environment. I immediately started breastfeeding but it was excruciatingly painful from the very first moment- he is now a week old...His latch is perfect so that isn’t the problem. I just can’t handle breast feeding it causes so much physical and emotional pain for me. Every time I would try to feed him I would cry the whole time. I felt like I couldn’t bond with my baby if I was always breastfeeding him. Today I was gifted a wonderful Nanobébé bottle set, I pumped and fed my baby with a bottle I immediately felt better and happier but I can’t get out of my head that I’m a bad mom for giving my newborn a bottle. I’m still giving him breast milk and plan to breast feed intermittently but I can’t handle it all the time... does this make me a bad mom?😕I’m struggling to not feel terrible even though I do feel better at the same time.
Am I a bad mom?

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1 month ago

You've done well. And you're doing well too. I managed 6 weeks with my son then I was done, it's so very painful.

1 month ago

No you seem pretty perfect to me. The fact that you didn't give up and your still making sure he's receiving your milk is really wholesome of you. If you still feel a bit sad about it make sure to give him EXTRA skin to skin contact during his bottle feedings. That should help.

3 months ago

You’re not a bad mum. You are still feeding your child whether they are bottle fed or breast fed. You’d only be a bad mum if you wasn’t feeding them so don’t feel bad hun. You have to think of yourself too!!

6 months ago

Fed is best. Anyone who shames or drains your efforts no matter what they are is NOT healthy foryou!

6 months ago

No. you are a good mom (: you made a decision that’s beneficial for both of you

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