• L
  • La Crosse, United States
  • 9 months ago

Am I a bad mom?

I had an extremely hard and long 49 hour labor. I gave birth at my home and brought my sweet baby into the world in a calm loving medication free environment. I immediately started breastfeeding but it was excruciatingly painful from the very first moment- he is now a week old...His latch is perfect so that isn’t the problem. I just can’t handle breast feeding it causes so much physical and emotional pain for me. Every time I would try to feed him I would cry the whole time. I felt like I couldn’t bond with my baby if I was always breastfeeding him. Today I was gifted a wonderful Nanobébé bottle set, I pumped and fed my baby with a bottle I immediately felt better and happier but I can’t get out of my head that I’m a bad mom for giving my newborn a bottle. I’m still giving him breast milk and plan to breast feed intermittently but I can’t handle it all the time... does this make me a bad mom?😕I’m struggling to not feel terrible even though I do feel better at the same time.
  • S
  • CA, US
  • 3 days ago

I had a similar thing happen to me. The first two weeks of breastfeeding was horrible, there were many times that I wanted to give up. My nipples would bleed so imagine the pain! The reason I did not quit was because of the amazing benefits of breastfeeding and I am glad I did not. After a couple of good feeds the pain will go away, at least it did for me. But if you feel it is not for you it does NOT make you a bad mom!!!! 😌

  • J
  • WA, US
  • 22 days ago

It sounds to me like you are doing your very best and found a fabulous alternative that will allow you to provide all the nutrition while still letting you have a positive bonding experience. You’re a great mom!

  • S
  • OR, US
  • 25 days ago

You might have thrush on the nipples. I had this and had to self diagnose. A cream can clear it up.

  • A
  • TX, US
  • 2 months ago

At the end of the day, what's important is that your baby is healthy and fed. Period.

  • M
  • Converse, United States
  • 3 months ago

Oh sweety! However your child gets the breast milk is JUST FINE. Don’t put any judgement on yourself about it. You are lovingly making sure your child has amazing nutrients and love by you. That’s all that matters ! Best of luck and you’re doing amazing and kudos to the medication free birth!!!

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